Would it turn him off/scare him off if I asked him out again?

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I find one of my coworkers attractive, who is single. When we had a dinner at the office with a small group of people, we kinda got tipsy and he was a bit flirtatious. We exchanged our Instagram too.
(He asked for it)

A few days ago, I asked him out for drinking and he said we could get some of the team to join. But because they had a plan, we were going to go out just two of us. But the previous night, he texted me and said he couldn’t as he completely forgot about a plan for a dinner with his another friend. I replied that it’s okay but he never replied back nor suggested another day to make up for it,

Judging from those, I don’t think he’s interested in me at all. I even doubt if he really had another dinner or just didn’t want to go out with me.

Would it turn him off/scare him off if I asked him out again? And any advice?

Yes, it would.

No, it’d be totally fine.

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Answer 1

Gafgorkion | 113 opinions shared on Dating topic.

Xper 5

If he was interested, he would have rescheduled to go out another day. He didn't do that, so he's not interested.

You say he flirted with you while he was drunk. Has he ever flirted with you while sober? He very well could just be the type of person who gets flirty with anyone when he is drunk. It doesn't mean anything other than his inhibitions were lowered.

He is also a co-worker. Repeatedly asking him out is playing a very dangerous game because he could go to HR and say you are harassing him. You could lose your job over this.

Answer 2

prince350

Xper 3

I think he is interested but may have another date. Men generally date only one person, even in early stages - I don't know a single male, of the 100+ I do know, that would be capable of misleading.

Answer 3

Thatasianlove16 | 151 opinions shared on Dating topic.

Xper 5

I think he’s established that he wants it to be professional or at least with other people so it won’t be like a date.

Answer 4

Anonymous

Don't do it again girl he's clearly not interested... You'll easily find someone who is n won't be like this

Answer 5

alikashan

Xper 1

He's not interested but asking again won't scare etc
In my case the girl i was interested in i wanted to spend whole day with her

Answer 6

Anonymous

It would be totally fine.

Answer 7

Jmmmfi4 | 921 opinions shared on Dating topic.

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I say go for it

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