How to get men to take you out and not want to sleep with you?

I am horrible at picking men and also getting them to treat me with respect. I want good men but I end up with men who only want one thing. Not that I don't like those things but I want a relationship not a friends with benefits. How can I tell what a good man is and where should I find good men? Should I stop looking and just let it happen?
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