How to get men to take you out and not want to sleep with you?

[Melvinb6521]

All you can do is tell the men what you are looking for. Hear what they are looking for, and then monitor their actions to see if the actions support their words.


If I took you on a date, and you are a cutie, I would wanna smash too. Don’t think bad of me (or the other men) for this. That’s just what we like to do with attractive women. It’s a compliment. If we didn’t want to, we probably wouldn’t be dating you.


But sexual interest isn’t proof of no interest in a relationship. Just ask him to do things you would like to do as well.


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[DavidFox]

By having firm boundaries. For example it’s ok to make out on a date but not ok to engage in oral sex. By having firm boundaries and communicating them you let him know what the line is and how to keep you interested.

[Espresso-Grande]

Before you arrange to meet them, let them know where you stand and what you're looking for, and not looking for.
Then he can decide whether he believes it's worth meeting up with you or not.

It'll be difficult to find a man who won't want sex with you early on , even if he likes you and sees you as girlfriend material. Because it's natural for people to want sex with someone they are physically attracted to when they're dating

All you can do is , from the onset, let a guy know you don't have sex unless you are in a serious long-term committed relationship. If that's not what he's looking for, he won't stick around

[nettle]

I normally text guys a bit before I meet them so (if they're honest) I'll know what they're looking for before I waste any time. Most of the time they're pretty upfront about it if they're just looking for casual friends with benefits

[smash4isBetter]

I tink a good spot would be church, speaking from a catholic perspective, lots of good men/women who really want a relationship, are in church, I would avoid bars/parties cause thats where most of the degenerate men are, so that being said look at your local church/parish. Doesn't have to necessarily be a catholic man but other Christian denominations are welcome.

[KyceG]

If your an attractive woman men are going to want to sleep with you period. Maybe it might have to do partially with the way you carry yourself , maybe guys think your not a type of girl that's going to be committed or want something serious. Maybe you need to open your perspective on the men you date and try something new. If you want something serious then don't give it up so easy. If a man really wants to be with you he will be willing to wait if you make him, and he will respect you 10x more long term if you make him wait for it.

[Knighted2170]

The best advice I can give you is to define the traits you are looking for. Then learn how to filter for those traits through asking questions that reveal them.

Look for character and personality. Not so much physical. Physical is easy.

This way you only spend time with those you want to know better and can see if they have deeper traits you want.

You also want to find out what kind of relationship they want and see if it aligns with your own.

[loveslongnails]

I can't say much about "where" to meet them. I'm not in the dating scene anymore. But you could try this... if a man shows interest in you but seems too sexually aggressive, say to him: " ... I don't have sex with someone I date for at LEAST 3 months, more likely 6 months. You're not different, you're not going to change my mind. Sure you still want to date me?"

It sounds extreme, but try it. You'll be surprised at what happens, I'm sure.

[Swe_Elin]

If the guy push to meet, it's in general sex they want.

A man who loves you is happy to talk a bit, because he has no rush - he has already won the ultimate price, just to talk to you.

[SnackAttack7]

It's difficult to filter those guys especially if you meet them online. My advice is to get a friend to set you up with someone "good" .

[JSmuve]

I've got the opposite problem. How do you get women to go out with you and want a friends with benefits situation?

[abdabadaba]

Only if a guy is looking for a relationship. A good conversation is the best way to test it out

[OddBeMe]

How else are chicks to pay us back for dinner? You don't get equal pay. So drop to your fucken knees biatch.

[Anonymous]

The problem is your presupposition that men who want to sleep with you aren't good men.

[Dinosaursandanime65]

Yeah. Exactly. These kind of things are up to your rigor fate to decide.

[Anonymous]

Tell them right away you don't want sex