Am I a cheater and should I contact my ex?

Question

I dated this guy I found on a dating website about 3 years ago. I didn’t find him too attractive, but I still decided to date him anyway. Eventually, it got so serious to the point where we were planning on marrying each other (my fault; got ahead of myself). Anyway, whenever I tried to meet up with him, he never showed up because he lied saying he knew how to drive but actually didn’t (he lives 3 hours away from me). But, we never saw each other in person and I got more afraid of him because he was becoming more aggressive and controlling. I didn’t tell him that was the reason though, but I did say I wanted to leave the relationship.

While I was trying to leave him, I ended up meeting a boy near me through friends and I enjoyed him more. It took a while but eventually the first guy finally let go of me even though I had to block him on many outlets just because I felt somewhat unsafe that he’ll try to find/hurt me or my boyfriend now. However, a friend that follows him showed me the poems he writes and it’s all about me leaving him and how heartbroken he is. I feel like I should contact him but I know that’s what I shouldn’t do whatsoever. I also feel like a cheater because I knew I liked the other guy while being with him (even though he wasn’t allowing me to end the relationship). What do you guys think?

Yes you are, don’t contact ex

Yes you are, contact ex

No you aren’t, don’t contact ex

No you aren’t, do contact ex

None above

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Answer 1

Lizzzzz288283 | 122 opinions shared on Dating topic.

Xper 6

Well he sounds like a catfish if he never even showed up to see you/got mad at you when you asked. Did you two ever FaceTime or video chat? I don’t know. It feels pretty suspicious to me.

Asker

26 d
Yes we did FaceTime a handful of times, we mainly called tho because it was much easier. But, he’s not a catfish. He was just lying
Lizzzzz288283

26 d
Then I wouldn’t give him the light of day even if he wrote poems. The fact that he never tried to meet up is telling of how much he truly wanted it to work.
Asker

26 d
True, you’re right. I mean he tried his best in other ways but not showing up and leaving me hanging was one of the worst.

Answer 2

Asker

Yes we did FaceTime a handful of times, we mainly called tho because it was much easier. But, he’s not a catfish. He was just lying

Answer 3

Lizzzzz288283

Then I wouldn’t give him the light of day even if he wrote poems. The fact that he never tried to meet up is telling of how much he truly wanted it to work.

Answer 4

Asker

True, you’re right. I mean he tried his best in other ways but not showing up and leaving me hanging was one of the worst.

Answer 5

Anonymous

If he is aggressive and controlling NEVER talk to him again.
Those are such fucking red flags man.
U don't want to end up in a abusive relationship.

Asker

26 d
True, that’s why I wanted out but I don't know.
Opinion Owner

24 d
Nah it's always best to leave. If you stay you'll never be able to get out.
Imagine the cute warm feminist guy you could have!!! Instead of this asshole that doesn't even give you the bare minimum

Answer 6

Asker

True, that’s why I wanted out but I don't know.

Answer 7

Opinion Owner

Nah it's always best to leave. If you stay you'll never be able to get out.
Imagine the cute warm feminist guy you could have!!! Instead of this asshole that doesn't even give you the bare minimum

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