Would you date someone who is aromantic?

- No idea what that even is. The labels get real old after a while.0|00|0Is this still revelant?
I'm even surprised that a lot of guys are still into romance when i thought that it is dead for guys. So yes it's not just a term because there are some people who just don't really feel romance. they don't feel anything on Valentine's day, anniversaries, weddings, rom coms, candle light dinners or other romantic stuff.
Ahhhh. So like a Gentleman? Where the guy opens the door for the gal and gets her flowers and stuff every now and then? Would make her paper origami hearts n shit.
I used to be really into doing that stuff for whomever I was with. But at the same time I never really had it done back for me. So I stopped doing shit like that. At least for now.
I'm I guess a demisexual according to these new terms.You just described someone who is romantic. But the thing really is no body is 100% romantic. Romance will of course die as you age. Well you wanna condsider that one, you can. You have a romance of a middle aged man. I have a romance of a dead person.
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To be fair, I have never had a female try and be romantic with me.
I think most guys have given up being romantic and caring about that stuff and focus on sex. That seems to be a good chunk of the dating scene. Or it is at least because those just out for sex, recirculate a lot faster than those looking for something long term.
I don't particularly feel any different on Valentines Day.
Candle light dinners and a romantic setting to relax together to would be wonderful.
Again, unfortunately. Most women I know that ain't family don't know how to be romantic themselves. They want the bad boy/asshole majority of the time. The good ones are hidden away somewhere or something. Players most likely scaring them into hiding. Just as the female players/cheaters have made me want to do.
"Focus on sex" is like a misconception on what people have on aromantics. So being a player have nothing to do with aromantism. There are more kinds of love than just romantic relationship. Do you think bestfriends don't really care about each other? I don't think they so. They can hang out, go to movies, buy gifts for each other like how kids show love to someone. So if you're talking about guys who focus on sex, those are just the desperate ones.
Oh I was referring to most that I run into now on the dating scene. Actually had a female get mad at me one time after I comforted her through a loss. She turned around a few weeks later and got mad at me because I told her I didn't want to see the tit pics she wanted to send me. x'D
Labels are kind of stupid though in all honesty.
Some folks are romantic, while other are not.
Values and integrity are hard to come by now in the 'dating' world.
Would I ultimately date someone that was into being romantic?
e. g going for picnic dates, Going out to a dinner for two, etc.
I would like that.Also I'm well aware there are people who just don't wanna be romantic with anyone because they're afraid being rejected. Just like those girls are probably like that or they're just not interested at you but really if you let them watch romantic dramas, they sure can relate but I couldn't. There's a difference between people who sucks at romance and people who really don't feel it.
If those labels are kinda stupid, then aren't you labeled yourself? You're "Labeled" as a 29 year old male. So if labels don't exist, what are you suppose to be? Oh ok that's not a label but a fact? Well I can say thesame thing to about aromantics, asexuals, aroace or etc.
If you don't wanna learn the labels then no one is forcing you. You can just explain yourself with the longest explanation you can think of. It's that simple.
I'd call myself a 22 year old male instead of a "born in 1997 who has lived for 22 earth years who has an xy chromosome" Because labels sucks.
There's a saying somewhere that goes "Those that are good with romance may not be good at a career job. But those good at career jobs may not be good with romance."
Some do not know because they have not had the experience. I don't really find it all that hard to be romantic. Though I am also in tune with my sensitive side.
I grew up in a loving family environment as well. Which may have something to do with it.
Different experiences can lead people down different paths. There are so many factors to take into it. (Relationship history, socio-emotional development, Traumatic events, Bullying, harassment, mental issues, etc.)
I can see where if all a person knew was sucking in their emotions and being made numb to that over time. Or being caught up in something bad and then losing faith in romance, etc.
I myself haven't had a good relationship whatsoever. But if I can care enough for someone as I do when I'm in a relationship. Then surely someone out there must feel the same. It doesn't necessarily mean that we'll ever meet in this lifetime though. Sometimes that's just how life goes.I'm confused as to whether you're just trying to argue with me at this point or have ana ctual conversation about the subject.
But still those people who suck at it has a chance to feel romance themselves. Even if they have no experience, isn’t everyone inexperienced as a first timer? The rest of what you’re saying are now anecdotes. Like really you assume people not caring about romance anymore and it’s became a norm that anyone identifying themselves aromatic seem unnecessary for you. How about if I say in my experience, I still see people being romantic but I just can’t fathom how anyone appreciates that. Sure I experienced trying to be romantic but really I just feel like im doing something pointless and I never thought my “sexual crush” actually appreciated that one making me confused how she actually appreciated something so boring. Because I appreciate fun and chill stuff a lot and I see some people just don’t. If I treat someone my way, I end up being friendzoned because they see me as a friend but I don’t care. But after all, those are just anecdotes like what you’re giving.
You said labeling sucks didn’t you so I gave you an example of explaining myself without using labels. But I don't think people wouldn't get bored listening to those.
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20- Not really. What if I loved them and they didn't love me? I want someone who likes me as more than a friend. Aro people are amazing, but no thanks. I'd habve an aro friend, though.0|00|0
You seem to forget that there is more than one kind of love. You can commit to a being the best friend forever, the one a and only sex partner. They're still commitment in it actually
- Anonymous22 dAromantic people usually don't date lol. They just have friends w benefits..0|00|1
the technically do like hanging out and if he is loyal he's going to treat you like a best friend forever.
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