Would you date someone who is aromantic?

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Just aromantic.

Yes

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22 d

Just to make it clear, aromantism is different from asexuality

22 d

I never actually thought that guys are more romantic than girls here judging by the poll. Yes aromantic people do date and they do love. There are just more love other than romantic love. So if he is loyal he can treat you like a BFF with benefit.

Answer 1

OmNomaly

Xper 5

No idea what that even is. The labels get real old after a while.

Aiko_E_Lara

22 d
I'm even surprised that a lot of guys are still into romance when i thought that it is dead for guys. So yes it's not just a term because there are some people who just don't really feel romance. they don't feel anything on Valentine's day, anniversaries, weddings, rom coms, candle light dinners or other romantic stuff.
OmNomaly

22 d
Ahhhh. So like a Gentleman? Where the guy opens the door for the gal and gets her flowers and stuff every now and then? Would make her paper origami hearts n shit.

I used to be really into doing that stuff for whomever I was with. But at the same time I never really had it done back for me. So I stopped doing shit like that. At least for now.

I'm I guess a demisexual according to these new terms.
Aiko_E_Lara

22 d
You just described someone who is romantic. But the thing really is no body is 100% romantic. Romance will of course die as you age. Well you wanna condsider that one, you can. You have a romance of a middle aged man. I have a romance of a dead person.
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OmNomaly

22 d
To be fair, I have never had a female try and be romantic with me.

I think most guys have given up being romantic and caring about that stuff and focus on sex. That seems to be a good chunk of the dating scene. Or it is at least because those just out for sex, recirculate a lot faster than those looking for something long term.

I don't particularly feel any different on Valentines Day.
Candle light dinners and a romantic setting to relax together to would be wonderful.
Again, unfortunately. Most women I know that ain't family don't know how to be romantic themselves. They want the bad boy/asshole majority of the time. The good ones are hidden away somewhere or something. Players most likely scaring them into hiding. Just as the female players/cheaters have made me want to do.
Aiko_E_Lara

22 d
"Focus on sex" is like a misconception on what people have on aromantics. So being a player have nothing to do with aromantism. There are more kinds of love than just romantic relationship. Do you think bestfriends don't really care about each other? I don't think they so. They can hang out, go to movies, buy gifts for each other like how kids show love to someone. So if you're talking about guys who focus on sex, those are just the desperate ones.
OmNomaly

22 d
Oh I was referring to most that I run into now on the dating scene. Actually had a female get mad at me one time after I comforted her through a loss. She turned around a few weeks later and got mad at me because I told her I didn't want to see the tit pics she wanted to send me. x'D

Labels are kind of stupid though in all honesty.
Some folks are romantic, while other are not.

Values and integrity are hard to come by now in the 'dating' world.

Would I ultimately date someone that was into being romantic?
e. g going for picnic dates, Going out to a dinner for two, etc.

I would like that.
Aiko_E_Lara

22 d
Also I'm well aware there are people who just don't wanna be romantic with anyone because they're afraid being rejected. Just like those girls are probably like that or they're just not interested at you but really if you let them watch romantic dramas, they sure can relate but I couldn't. There's a difference between people who sucks at romance and people who really don't feel it.
Aiko_E_Lara

22 d
If those labels are kinda stupid, then aren't you labeled yourself? You're "Labeled" as a 29 year old male. So if labels don't exist, what are you suppose to be? Oh ok that's not a label but a fact? Well I can say thesame thing to about aromantics, asexuals, aroace or etc.
Aiko_E_Lara

22 d
If you don't wanna learn the labels then no one is forcing you. You can just explain yourself with the longest explanation you can think of. It's that simple.
Aiko_E_Lara

22 d
I'd call myself a 22 year old male instead of a "born in 1997 who has lived for 22 earth years who has an xy chromosome" Because labels sucks.
OmNomaly

22 d
There's a saying somewhere that goes "Those that are good with romance may not be good at a career job. But those good at career jobs may not be good with romance."

Some do not know because they have not had the experience. I don't really find it all that hard to be romantic. Though I am also in tune with my sensitive side.

I grew up in a loving family environment as well. Which may have something to do with it.
Different experiences can lead people down different paths. There are so many factors to take into it. (Relationship history, socio-emotional development, Traumatic events, Bullying, harassment, mental issues, etc.)

I can see where if all a person knew was sucking in their emotions and being made numb to that over time. Or being caught up in something bad and then losing faith in romance, etc.

I myself haven't had a good relationship whatsoever. But if I can care enough for someone as I do when I'm in a relationship. Then surely someone out there must feel the same. It doesn't necessarily mean that we'll ever meet in this lifetime though. Sometimes that's just how life goes.
OmNomaly

22 d
I'm confused as to whether you're just trying to argue with me at this point or have ana ctual conversation about the subject.
Aiko_E_Lara

22 d
But still those people who suck at it has a chance to feel romance themselves. Even if they have no experience, isn’t everyone inexperienced as a first timer? The rest of what you’re saying are now anecdotes. Like really you assume people not caring about romance anymore and it’s became a norm that anyone identifying themselves aromatic seem unnecessary for you. How about if I say in my experience, I still see people being romantic but I just can’t fathom how anyone appreciates that. Sure I experienced trying to be romantic but really I just feel like im doing something pointless and I never thought my “sexual crush” actually appreciated that one making me confused how she actually appreciated something so boring. Because I appreciate fun and chill stuff a lot and I see some people just don’t. If I treat someone my way, I end up being friendzoned because they see me as a friend but I don’t care. But after all, those are just anecdotes like what you’re giving.

You said labeling sucks didn’t you so I gave you an example of explaining myself without using labels. But I don't think people wouldn't get bored listening to those.

Answer 2

Aiko_E_Lara

I'm even surprised that a lot of guys are still into romance when i thought that it is dead for guys. So yes it's not just a term because there are some people who just don't really feel romance. they don't feel anything on Valentine's day, anniversaries, weddings, rom coms, candle light dinners or other romantic stuff.

Answer 3

OmNomaly

Ahhhh. So like a Gentleman? Where the guy opens the door for the gal and gets her flowers and stuff every now and then? Would make her paper origami hearts n shit.

I used to be really into doing that stuff for whomever I was with. But at the same time I never really had it done back for me. So I stopped doing shit like that. At least for now.

I'm I guess a demisexual according to these new terms.

Answer 4

Aiko_E_Lara

You just described someone who is romantic. But the thing really is no body is 100% romantic. Romance will of course die as you age. Well you wanna condsider that one, you can. You have a romance of a middle aged man. I have a romance of a dead person.

Answer 5

OmNomaly

To be fair, I have never had a female try and be romantic with me.

I think most guys have given up being romantic and caring about that stuff and focus on sex. That seems to be a good chunk of the dating scene. Or it is at least because those just out for sex, recirculate a lot faster than those looking for something long term.

I don't particularly feel any different on Valentines Day.
Candle light dinners and a romantic setting to relax together to would be wonderful.
Again, unfortunately. Most women I know that ain't family don't know how to be romantic themselves. They want the bad boy/asshole majority of the time. The good ones are hidden away somewhere or something. Players most likely scaring them into hiding. Just as the female players/cheaters have made me want to do.

Answer 6

Aiko_E_Lara

"Focus on sex" is like a misconception on what people have on aromantics. So being a player have nothing to do with aromantism. There are more kinds of love than just romantic relationship. Do you think bestfriends don't really care about each other? I don't think they so. They can hang out, go to movies, buy gifts for each other like how kids show love to someone. So if you're talking about guys who focus on sex, those are just the desperate ones.

Answer 7

OmNomaly

Oh I was referring to most that I run into now on the dating scene. Actually had a female get mad at me one time after I comforted her through a loss. She turned around a few weeks later and got mad at me because I told her I didn't want to see the tit pics she wanted to send me. x'D

Labels are kind of stupid though in all honesty.
Some folks are romantic, while other are not.

Values and integrity are hard to come by now in the 'dating' world.

Would I ultimately date someone that was into being romantic?
e. g going for picnic dates, Going out to a dinner for two, etc.

I would like that.

Answer 8

Aiko_E_Lara

Also I'm well aware there are people who just don't wanna be romantic with anyone because they're afraid being rejected. Just like those girls are probably like that or they're just not interested at you but really if you let them watch romantic dramas, they sure can relate but I couldn't. There's a difference between people who sucks at romance and people who really don't feel it.

Answer 9

Aiko_E_Lara

If those labels are kinda stupid, then aren't you labeled yourself? You're "Labeled" as a 29 year old male. So if labels don't exist, what are you suppose to be? Oh ok that's not a label but a fact? Well I can say thesame thing to about aromantics, asexuals, aroace or etc.

Answer 10

Aiko_E_Lara

If you don't wanna learn the labels then no one is forcing you. You can just explain yourself with the longest explanation you can think of. It's that simple.

Answer 11

Aiko_E_Lara

I'd call myself a 22 year old male instead of a "born in 1997 who has lived for 22 earth years who has an xy chromosome" Because labels sucks.

Answer 12

OmNomaly

There's a saying somewhere that goes "Those that are good with romance may not be good at a career job. But those good at career jobs may not be good with romance."

Some do not know because they have not had the experience. I don't really find it all that hard to be romantic. Though I am also in tune with my sensitive side.

I grew up in a loving family environment as well. Which may have something to do with it.
Different experiences can lead people down different paths. There are so many factors to take into it. (Relationship history, socio-emotional development, Traumatic events, Bullying, harassment, mental issues, etc.)

I can see where if all a person knew was sucking in their emotions and being made numb to that over time. Or being caught up in something bad and then losing faith in romance, etc.

I myself haven't had a good relationship whatsoever. But if I can care enough for someone as I do when I'm in a relationship. Then surely someone out there must feel the same. It doesn't necessarily mean that we'll ever meet in this lifetime though. Sometimes that's just how life goes.

Answer 13

OmNomaly

I'm confused as to whether you're just trying to argue with me at this point or have ana ctual conversation about the subject.

Answer 14

Aiko_E_Lara

But still those people who suck at it has a chance to feel romance themselves. Even if they have no experience, isn’t everyone inexperienced as a first timer? The rest of what you’re saying are now anecdotes. Like really you assume people not caring about romance anymore and it’s became a norm that anyone identifying themselves aromatic seem unnecessary for you. How about if I say in my experience, I still see people being romantic but I just can’t fathom how anyone appreciates that. Sure I experienced trying to be romantic but really I just feel like im doing something pointless and I never thought my “sexual crush” actually appreciated that one making me confused how she actually appreciated something so boring. Because I appreciate fun and chill stuff a lot and I see some people just don’t. If I treat someone my way, I end up being friendzoned because they see me as a friend but I don’t care. But after all, those are just anecdotes like what you’re giving.

You said labeling sucks didn’t you so I gave you an example of explaining myself without using labels. But I don't think people wouldn't get bored listening to those.

Answer 15

Dchrls78104 | 3.2K opinions shared on Dating topic.

Guru

No, sorry; I want all my options open.

Answer 16

eileen_ruth | 60 opinions shared on Dating topic.

Xper 4

Not really. What if I loved them and they didn't love me? I want someone who likes me as more than a friend. Aro people are amazing, but no thanks. I'd habve an aro friend, though.

Aiko_E_Lara

10 d
You seem to forget that there is more than one kind of love. You can commit to a being the best friend forever, the one a and only sex partner. They're still commitment in it actually
eileen_ruth

10 d
Okay and it sounds alright but I'd want someone who loved me romantically too.
Aiko_E_Lara

10 d
*hugs*

Answer 17

Aiko_E_Lara

You seem to forget that there is more than one kind of love. You can commit to a being the best friend forever, the one a and only sex partner. They're still commitment in it actually

Answer 18

eileen_ruth

Okay and it sounds alright but I'd want someone who loved me romantically too.

Answer 19

Aiko_E_Lara

*hugs*

Answer 20

Anonymous

Aromantic people usually don't date lol. They just have friends w benefits..

FriendlyEnigma

22 d
Unless they are aro and ace ofc ^^^
Aiko_E_Lara

22 d
the technically do like hanging out and if he is loyal he's going to treat you like a best friend forever.
Opinion Owner

21 d
@FriendlyEnigma ji
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Opinion Owner

21 d
Never denied it lol. U just gotta find someone who's aro too

Answer 21

FriendlyEnigma

Unless they are aro and ace ofc ^^^

Answer 22

Aiko_E_Lara

the technically do like hanging out and if he is loyal he's going to treat you like a best friend forever.

Answer 23

Opinion Owner

@FriendlyEnigma ji

Answer 24

Opinion Owner

Never denied it lol. U just gotta find someone who's aro too

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