She needs to find herself before she can date?

[coldmarch]

Well, not everyone dates with long term pictures in their mind. Some might date for passion and not for responsible plans to build together, some might date for a crush and the crush itself makes her reprogram what she wants in the same time, some might date because she wants to be surprised and guided.
This is not necessarily an indicator of a too empty and shallow girl, but it can be also the opposite: the girl knows that every person is so peculiar and different that she cannot point out what she wants in a "guy". And there is more: probably many of them experienced a situation in their life where they were convinced, rationally, to want X, then ended up having a massive crush on a guy with no X but only Z. And in that case you learn that your own expectations about your desires are unreliable, so you let the life surprise you instead.
Still, I think that most of girls can at least say what they -don't- want, and if you get one with enough experiences in her past, she'll have surely a more defined and reliable list about that. Bad experiences leave marks... But also make you mature.

Said that, the part about the "what she wants to do in the life" is different and I think that she can still date without any perspective in her own life, as long as the guy is kind of similarly unpredictable and creative, or as long as the girl is empty and only wants to follow what the man does (ugh, but legit). I think anyway most of girls have at least some mid-term perspectives, such as finishing to study something, wanting a pet, dreaming some possible jobs etc.

In any case, if you have long term life plans, you've to date a girl who has at least some mid-term plans or whose possible long term ones can be supposed by how she is, if she has a quite stable personality and set of interests. This doesn't make the others not eligible to date anyway, it only makes them not compatible with you.

[Fuentes]

She knows what she wants it just isn't you and YOU'RE free attention if u can fuck that bitch and dipp

[MsLivy]

You've answered it yourself?