I'm want to date a black guy but my parents don't approve of that because he is black. What can I do to let them allow that because I really want to date him
Tell them there are some new changes cominh home and they have to welcome them. And make them to swear that they Wil obey. And openly te'll the that you are gona introduce your Boyfriend to them ima few days. So once that time comes slap them in there faces with your true love. I totally get nuts once some people happen to have there minds locked in the past days. Black is not a curse it is a blessing. So if you truly love him you are breaking no rules. Be with the one who. makes you feel special and loved , and if he does that give no shit put yourself first.
You could spend half your life thinking your family loves you for you, but then realize that their love is conditional. You are old enough to make adult decisions, and this is a huge one. You know what you want, so why bow to what they want?
I will tell you, I got into my 30's believing my family accepted me, but when I lost my job after Y2K/tech bubble bust and hit rock bottom, I found that about half of my family had abandoned me (a failure in their eyes).
You do you, date him, or marry him if you want. Screw anyone who is willing to dispose of you because of their bigotry - trust me when I say that those same family members would conditionally bail on you for more reasons than your current flame - and that's what's important to understand.
Honestly I would just introduce him. You already are talking about introducing so it means you've already begun dating. I hope it's not just 'a' black guy, like you'd be doing it cause he's black or something. Anyway, if you want to introduce him you better make some checklist in your head why he would make a great partner. Race shouldn't matter that much. I'd be looking at how he carries himself, how he take cares of himself and those around him, his hobbies, his beliefs, his friends, etc, ...
Introduce him like you would any other person. If your parents don’t approve then you need to make the decision between your partner or their racist opinion. If you choose him, then maybe it’s time to reevaluate the relationship with your parents and confront them on their racist opinions.
If you are actually 18, then it's probably best that you let them know you are interested in a black person, before he comes to you house. That will give them some time to adjust before the say he actually arrives. If you think they will strongly object, you don't want your partner in the middle of it. Unless you are aware of a situation that would make it otherwise, and he be there. Your parents may continue to object, or they may get used to the idea, perhaps over time. I don't know them, so I can't predict. But most parents would get reasonably used to the idea if given a little time. Over time, most parents would learn to love and accept him. i just don't know your parents well enough to say. But if they are not hard racists, they might surprise you, if given time to adjust.
Well there you have it like Terminally chill said if it on the internet it's facts. Simple as educated me self on facts. 🤣. Do a search bam. Impossible to lie or quote anything false me google and A I don't allow it. Anyway my girls can date any race and if they are happy I'll be ok with it. well anything except Reptillian because those motherfuckers are lazy cold blooded ass holes. Those fuckers stink too.
If your parents genuinely want for your happiness. Given that your situation isn't some kind of hook up or rushed relationship. Then I don't see any problem with it. If you think your parents might be racist. Talk to them first about ti and if you think it would be too much to introduce your boyfriend. I would do it at a later time.
Once you are 18 they don't have to allow it. You can try to make them understand, but it's entirely possible they never will. You may have to choose who is more important to you him or them. That's one of the hard parts of being an adult. You cannot control what other people like and don't like, but you can make your own decisions as long as you are willing to suffer the consequences. Sometimes those decisions are very hard.
No, I don't think her parents care about what the law says, but it doesn't matter if they care or not. If she lives in America and is 18, she can make her own decision about who she wants to date and there is nothing legal they can do to stop it. It's her decision to make, not theirs.
If this is real, that man should show dignity, integrity and respect for himself by leaving the entire situation immediately. How racially cucked and mentally colonized do you have to be to want to be in a relationship with a family who see you as subhuman? That automatically puts you in a subservient and cucked posture. That psychology is insane bro. I wish othet black people could wake the fuck up from their matrix programming.
You're 18, in many ways that's an adult. It's time for you to decide what kind of person you'd like to be. A good, kind and fair individual, or a cunt-servative ignorant biggot racist evil one like you're parents. You have a chance to be better than them, I hope you take it. Date whomever your heart tells you to and make sure your parents understand they don't get a saying in it.
Who cares if he’s black? You are caring too much about what your parents views are and what they have to say. You have two options, you can either keep the relationship to yourself if you know they won’t approve or you can tell them and they can either chose to accept or disown you.
1. Become independent and live on your own. 2. Pick a guy who is a really good catch, not just a guy who excites you (I'd say that regardless of race) but in all areas of life. 3. Get a serious relationship going. 4. When you're sure he's "the one" you say, "He's the one." Not, "what do you think?"
sorry you want to date a black man, and you are worried about your parents, usually you date someone for a while before you even think about introducing them to anyone, or I did
Well, having been the white partner who met with disapproval from black family members more than once when I was your age, I'd advise you not to bother if their attitude is that hardcore.
Date him, introduce him to them, if they don't accept your choice then what you do after that is up to you.. you can't change their minds so either date him with the knowledge that they dont accept him, or don't date black guys
Hard one. Depends on their level of minority bias. Tell them he is great, take time, hope it works. Have had my own folks disapprove, basically it still your life and choice ultimately. Do you always have to have approval , No.
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17 d
I dont understand why people even allow themselves to fall for someone who theyre afraid to bring home to mom/dad. The moment you started dating him, u basically said Fck what your parents think. Keep that same energy when you introduce him to them
You’re 18? You’re an adult. Date whoever you please. Your parents probably won’t change. It’s up to you whether you are willing to proceed knowing they won’t like it.
No. Parents cannot just kick you out of your established residence. They must legally evict her. This process can take some time. And if she's in the USA, evictions have been suspended.
Anonymous
18 d
Do they need to know right now? Don't know how long you've been together, but maybe just give it more time before telling them?
@TerminallyChill And obviously you’re the one that’s racist. Anybody reading your posts can tell.
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18 d
Your parents sound racist. That's a them issue rather than a you issue. If they don't like someone off of the basis of their skin color, then you should exclude them from dating life.
Exclude them from having a say so* in your dating life.
Anonymous
18 d
They will hold their breath hoping you don’t get pregnant because they know they will be the ones that have to help you. 72% of black babies are born to single moms. Do a search on it for your own sake. It’s the express lane to poverty and a life without a husband.
@virtue2332 The sad reality is the older they are the higher the chances they grew up in an ignorant racist environment.
Opinion Owner
17 d
@iFarted No, it’s simply factual. You are just blind to it, willfully or not. Here is a link which has data and graphs and lots of references at the bottom of the page. Educated your self. A simple search can find many data sources. It’s just not talked about because it makes black men “look bad”. But is just facts created by black men themselves through their behavior.
Let's continue to follow your logic to it's conclusion. Where do you believe this behavior stems from?
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16 d
@TerminallyChill In the 1950s the black family was very strong, so says the statistics for that time period. In the 1960s the welfare state made it more lucrative for the women to be unmarried. They got extra checks and money being single mothers. And they also had more kids as more kids meant more money. The kids grew up without a dad and there are huge issues in their community now because of it which have been exacerbated by drug money and gangs.
Today, even one hear, I have heard it is better to be a single mom for the extra money from the IS government. What she doesn’t realize is that he will drop out of the picture. The cycle continues.
So in your mind, there's no other larger social phenomena, systems, hierarchies and social orders at play?
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16 d
@TerminallyChill Those conditions that you listed off were much bigger issues in the 1950s and before, yet the black family was strong. There isn’t a correlation that presents itself. It just doesn’t hold given the past, much higher levels of discrimination and yet stronger black families.
You realize your last statement is an opinion correct?
Opinion Owner
16 d
@TerminallyChill No, it’s based on fact. You hand your mind made up and it will stay that way of course since it is buried in the sand. I make my living being objective, and business is good. You are tied up in things other than facts. It’s not opinion, it is what it is. It’s reality.
I'm going to quote you verbatim because you should take a dose of your own poison: "you had your mind made up and it will stay that way of course since it is buried in the sand. "
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16 d
@TerminallyChill I saw your questions. All about white and black. You are emotionally engaged too much and have a vested interest in your own answer. Nothing changes the statistics that blacks had much lower numbers of single mothers before 1960. They had strong families and you want me to believe otherwise? No. I can find the statistics, can you look them up? Can you do a search? Can you look at it? It’s hard when you don’t want to see it I guess. Ronald Reagan was asked what the most important thing he learned as President. He said to not be afraid to look a problem in the eye.
Now I know you will just brush this conversation off but it really won’t change the facts. Bullshit only goes so far when someone has facts. Seek it to others and even yourself, it doesn’t change the answer. The world knows and the world doesn’t give a crap about what you’re selling, not really anyway.
Of course I'm going to brush it off because you're only evaluating one data set that fits your narrative. I'm not going to try and dialectically reason with a man practicing confirmation bias and the positing of opinion as fact. It's like a reverse Hume's law.
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16 d
@TerminallyChill yes, yes, yes. White people did it. Not the black guy who takes the easy road and then fucks over his kids lol. Asians and white rule because we have string families. Hispanics too have a lot of strong families and they are going to pass blacks by as well in money, population and importance. That’s coming in the next 20 years. It’s about the family, not whites people. It’s about black guys bailing not white people. And it doesn’t matter to the world, wring your hands and shake your fist but it won’t change things as you are focused on the wrong thing.
@TerminallyChill lol. You’re black and you need to believe it. Your a “victim”, aka a loser. Otherwise you have to accept responsibility and acknowledge a fucked up culture.
No victim mentality here. I'm a black separatist and I preach separatism and unplugging from the European Social Order matrix to other black people. Where have you seen me say I wanted anything from white people? I'm a not a retard, I know all too well that integration and multiculturalism is bullshit. But just because I acknowledge that and have those positions, doesn't mean I can't critique a system which has been responsible for the large scale destruction, hindrances and habituation to dehumanization of African-Americans. I don't know you're purposely obtuse or actually daft but it doesn't matter. The problem with you low intellect people, a. k. a most of humanity; is thay you can only perceive what you see right in front of you. You guys don't have the capability to process phenomenological or epistemological concepts. And it shows because you all sorely lack perspective. But I can't blame you, because even though we all have agency, agency isn't the only thing you need in this world; most people don't have agency + combined intelligence levels to break their programming, let alone even notice that they are socially conditioned in the first place.
Something I notice, when the big words start coming out that you have no idea what they mean, suddenly all you white nationalist clowns go quiet. You're supposedly superior to blacks but I'm more intelligent than you and most people you probably know tbh. How does that work?
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16 d
@TerminallyChill lol, well maybe you can notice that people actually log off and do other things! Like hanging with my children! Perfect!
That’s the second time you fell back on how I’m not smart and you are. Trust me, you aren’t in my league and can’t compete. No billion dollar companies have thrown money at you to come work for them at a global level. And I generally have said no, you can only work for one at a time. Google has called me the past two January’s. I wonder if they will call this year. I turned down Amazon too. And Nike. All in the past two years. Is your phone ringing? Mine is because I am smarter than all so many. I know, I know, it’s because I’m white... along with a billion others people... but they call me. Have a nice life smart guy. Get that white money.
Lmfao. And I have super powers and can fly. Keep making up realities in your head with your subpar IQ. I'm out
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@TerminallyChill ya huh... I love it when people don’t believe my life. It’s adds a certain pleasure... too good to be true and yet it is me.
And separatist? Go to Monrovia, it was created for you to move there, know your history. You are far too dependent to be separate. It’s a joke really, not even in the realm of possibility.
well don't get pregnant to show them, that would just be one more thing to blame on him and another reason why your shouldn't. This is a hard one, opening peoples eyes and taking the blinders off... good luck.
@Solstice777 I wasn't trying to say I don't agree by saying harsh. I think that any black person who wants to miscegenate with white people is psychologically sick. Either that or they have no dignity, integrity and self-respect, you can't not have tons of psychopathological traumas or try staking a claim to any of those attributes while you go running into the arms of your generational oppressor for romantic relationships.
@TerminallyChill Well I definitely would not touch the girl who is complete trash doing this. I got nothing against the black guy at all but the girl is just scum of the earth.
You said, "I want to date a black guy." Why do you want to date a "black guy?" Is it because he's black and you want to try someone new or you like him?
@TerminallyChill No. I just saying there are people out there would claim to be something other than what that are in order to gain favor in certain parts of society.
Over the last 10 or 20 years being Bisexual has become a big thing. Especially among young girls.
I'm one of those people who question the need to proclaim ones sexuality. Why do I need need to know whom someone fucks. I couldn't care less about who fucks whom.
My sexuality is kept between myself and the person I sleep.
@Dweezil Are you not aware of the internet effect? It amazes me how so many people think all this behavior is new. ALL of this shit has always happened, the internet has just shined a light on a lot of shit we didn't publicly acknowledge and it gave people a voice to express themselves. Bisexuality especially, a high percentage of women have always been bisexual. Why do you think so many girls have a "fooling around/making out with my friend" or that most 3somes that take place are FFM?
@TerminallyChill transgenderism? I'm not sure that is a thing, but I do know that being a transgender is certainly not an affliction. No matter our choices or our personality we are all individuals. Thinking about it though bigotry could be an affliction, just saying.
@allaboutyou2 I'm not a bigot and I don't condone mistreatment or the harming of transgenders. However I'm also not going to pretend that they have the same chemical balance as the vast, overwhelming majority of human beings. Again, still doesn't mean I want harm or malicious things to happen to them. If you read the whole interaction, you can see I was basically saying the people who do things for attention don't speak for or represent the people who actually go through said situations.
Please educate yourself on what an affliction is, not being "normal" is not an affliction for goodness sake. Polio is an affliction, a crippling disease is an affliction being different is not, it should be embraced.
@allaboutyou2 It's the literal definition of a mental irregularity. I didn't say a "mental disorder". You're old enough to be my dad so I'm sure you know that irregular means "any deviation from the trgular", which the transgender mind is from the average cisgendered mind.
Who is to judge what is normal? I'm sure some Transgender people think we are different. Normal is subjective, depends on what you call normal. Their mind isn't irregular, how does one define a regular mind? If you mean different than yours then probably most people are different from you, are you the benchmark for normal? Am I? Maybe a transgendered friend? People are individuals and the healthy ones think independently, so their is no "regular " mind. Weak minded people conform easier but that doesn't make them "regular.
@allaboutyou2 There's a time and place for existential ontology and this is not it. It's a matter of biology, and science. Transgenderism* along with a lot of other things, because you seem to think I'm picking on Trans people, does not fall under Neurotypicality.
What is a "regular " mind? Who decides what is a "regular" mind or what is "normal"? What one person finds normal another finds it irregular. We are talking about individuals, we are all different people with independent thoughts and opinions.
Get away from your parents. Now that you're an adult and this is your life, You can date whomever you want, regardless of age, gender, race, sexual orientation
You really think any self respecting man would give a coal burner a chance after she has a mutt child out of wedlock and is beaten until she has PTSD @Capricornunicorn
@Wewladdy yeah i mean personally if a girl has a history of dating lots of guys of varied races in a normal proportion and they were decent guys. I dont think its a big deal. But if she dated only a few guys and they were all black... no. Or if any of them were ghetto acting or that type hell no. there's no coming back from that.
A woman dating a black man is literally 13 times more likely to be abused than when dating any other race. It's a sign of low intelligence and a lack of self preservation, neither desirable traits in a would-be wife.
@Capricornunicorn i agree. So if its 1. not a fetish where she goes out of her way to date black guys and 2. If they are not ghetto or low quality black guys... then its not a big deal. Otherwise its a huge deal.
@Wewladdy well I don't go off stats, I go off what I see irl and so far I haven't met a bmww couple like that @bamesjond0069 I do understand what you mean about the mandingo fetish... that would be a turn-off for me as well if I was a wm
@Capricornunicorn the only thing is that from a guys perspective we dont know for a fact. So guys are usually not trying to be risky with a serious relationship, we like safe bets. So if we dont know the guy in question or if she only dated one guy and he was black, men in general will not give her the benefit of the doubt.
@bamesjond0069 I get that but that's kind of narrow-minded and may keep you from finding the one. Just because she only dated one guy and it happened to be a black guy doesn't mean anything. You should at least ask about it before jumping to conclusions. This black guy could be a Carlton Banks from Fresh Prince for all you know.
@Capricornunicorn true and if we know that for a fact it might be ok. But i just mean in the absence of evidence.
here's an example. I went on a date with a girl. I found out her ex was black and she had a black friend. This was highly suspect because she lives on a farm in a tiny town that only has like those 2 black guys in it. Lol
I decided she was not a girl i thought was someone id date based only off that.
Guess what? My suspicions were correct. Her next boyfriend was black. And now they broke up and she's with another black guy.
It works out like this more often than not. So yeah ofc im not going to give a girl the benefit of the doubt. The risk is too serious.
It is unfortunate for the good black guys out there but even one of my black guy friends said "if a girl dates black guys i dont want her she's trash" lol
@bamesjond0069 wow that's definitely an eye-opener but in small towns especially Southern small towns that's bound to happen. The low working class tends to mingle more than any other class. I'm from SC and NJ and there is definitely a difference. I see a lot more interracial couples specifically bmww in the south than up north. So I kind of see your point. But not all are low class or ghetto is all I'm saying but you are certainly entitled to your preference and viewpoint.
I also don't condone black and white race mixing but I wish all black people could see this thread so they would unplug from the matrix and realize integration and multiculturalism is bullshit. We have been sold a lie and are too brainwashed by the White European Materialist Social Order to see it. Separatism is the only salvation.
Racist or not are they willing to lose you over something as silly as the color of his skin? So if they had to choose a son in law they would choose same race pedophile meth addict. Or college future Dr. Black guy? Test them on that tell them you are having a hard time choosing between two guys but don't mention race. One is the guy you like the other is everything other than race you know your parents don't like. Let them convince you that you should go with the one you like. If they back pedal after because he is black then you need to figure out how to get out on your own. I know you live your parents but sometimes you have to do what's best for you. You fucken better make sure that the guy you are interested in is worthy though last thing you want is for that shit to backfire in your face and you get fucked over leading them to believe they where right in their beliefs
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