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A guy on work... I keep checking his social media... he hit on me a long time ago... but I clammed up and didn't respond like if I was interested... I want to date him but I don't know if/ don't think he's interested... so I don't want to keep obsessing over someone who isn't even thinking about me... how do I get over someone I never dated?

Answer 1

Gagname | 108 opinions shared on Dating topic.

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Do you really want to get over him?; because you said you want to date him.

If you’re still interested in him, you should say hi to him—either in person (because I guess you said you work with him, right?) or on social media—and mention something that you (do actually) like that he posted

And then see how things go with him from there—maybe he will show interest in you, or you won’t be so interested in him anymore.

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Thanks Gagname. You're right I actually would like to date him. I did try that on Whatsapp. I told him "nice profile pic" with a smiley face (a close ended statement to see if he would try to continue talking with me) and he did try to continue the conversation. We had back and forth banter for over an hour.. this was about 2 months ago tho. He makes "jokes" that allude to him not trusting me... like if he thinks I have a boyfriend or other guys I entertain or something.. like if I say I was running errands he would say "sure errands lol" or if I say I reached home late he would say "you sure you went straight home"... I think he thinks I have a boyfriend or a "guy friend" or something so he is close minded about me... What do you think? I think I should mention that the time he hit on me before (before I started liking him) he asked me directly if I had a boyfriend and I didn't answer him...
Gagname

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I think those things he’s saying AREN’T about him not trusting you... instead he sounds like he’s flirting with you and still trying to see if you have a boyfriend, and maybe giving you a subtle compliment and saying you must surely have a boyfriend.

I think when he says one of those “jokes,” you should respond with something flirty like: “It’s too bad I’m always busy with my many boyfriends, because I think it might be fun to spend some time with you... ya, know?”; and see what he says.

If he asks you directly if you’re single or have a boyfriend, you can either continue with some more flirty-ness—like, “Why do you wanna know if I have a boyfriend, do you want to ask me out on a date?”; or, just say that you’re single.
Asker

1 y
Thanks. I will message him for New Year and see how it goes. Thanks for your help Gagname.
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Gagname

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Yw, sounds good, let me know how it goes w/you & him... Happy New Year!
Asker

1 y
I'm back lol. Happy New Year! Soo I messaged him today at around 2am to say happy new year. He messaged me a couple hours later around 6am. This is how it went.. ps: it's long)...

Me: Happy New Year (blush smiley)
Him: same to youuu (hugs). All the best for 2021
Me: thanks hun same to you. Catch me as I jus woke up
Him: I was peeping through the window lol (insert gif of stalker guy from tv show "You")
Me: (told him i just remembered an old song about peeping) then I said "that's one sexy stalker
Him: well invite him in
Me: I'm officially sending the invite (wink)
Him: gif of George Ramsay running to open door
Me: you have a gif for everything! What you doing today
Him: home relaxing. U?
Me: Same. I'm having a movie title New Years "Home Alone" hahah.
Him: keeping yourself out of mischief I see
Me: Not at all haha some mischief is good
What's for breakfast?
Him: lol like? (In response to mischief comment)
Me: Haha you don't tell your mischief secrets. Then it won't be that mischievous now would it (laughing emoji) only if you're partner in crime lol
Him: Well I would partner to a crime If I don't know what it is lol
Me: Haha. True. I didn't think that rebuttal all the way through.
Hear what. We will concoct a plan together #shenanigans lol
Him: Lol you really don't wanna release your plans, you rather make whole new plans. Haha
Me: (laughing crying emojies) Nooo. That's not true hahaha you can know my plans anytime hun. Just ask. (Hugs emoji) It's just more fun when the mischief is new.
Him: Fine I concede. Lol
Me: Haha I'm happy you came around (kiss heart emoji) #partnerincrime
Him: spongebob and patrick gif of them marching forward together with "partners in crime" written on it
Me: (laughing rolling crying emoji)
A partners in crime gif!
Where are you getting these things lmao love it!
Him: crying laughing emoji
End.
I know its long but what do you think. I tried to flirt lmao. How do you think I did? Lol I still didn't get a date tho lol
Gagname

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You did great! Can you send me a pm?
Asker

1 y
It says I have to be level 2 to send messages :(
Gagname

1 y
Ok. Send me a Follow request and I’ll accept that, and send you a pm.
Gagname

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I think I received your request. Thanks for the MHO.

Answer 2

Asker

Thanks Gagname. You're right I actually would like to date him. I did try that on Whatsapp. I told him "nice profile pic" with a smiley face (a close ended statement to see if he would try to continue talking with me) and he did try to continue the conversation. We had back and forth banter for over an hour.. this was about 2 months ago tho. He makes "jokes" that allude to him not trusting me... like if he thinks I have a boyfriend or other guys I entertain or something.. like if I say I was running errands he would say "sure errands lol" or if I say I reached home late he would say "you sure you went straight home"... I think he thinks I have a boyfriend or a "guy friend" or something so he is close minded about me... What do you think? I think I should mention that the time he hit on me before (before I started liking him) he asked me directly if I had a boyfriend and I didn't answer him...

Answer 3

Gagname

I think those things he’s saying AREN’T about him not trusting you... instead he sounds like he’s flirting with you and still trying to see if you have a boyfriend, and maybe giving you a subtle compliment and saying you must surely have a boyfriend.

I think when he says one of those “jokes,” you should respond with something flirty like: “It’s too bad I’m always busy with my many boyfriends, because I think it might be fun to spend some time with you... ya, know?”; and see what he says.

If he asks you directly if you’re single or have a boyfriend, you can either continue with some more flirty-ness—like, “Why do you wanna know if I have a boyfriend, do you want to ask me out on a date?”; or, just say that you’re single.

Answer 4

Asker

Thanks. I will message him for New Year and see how it goes. Thanks for your help Gagname.

Answer 5

Gagname

Yw, sounds good, let me know how it goes w/you & him... Happy New Year!

Answer 6

Asker

I'm back lol. Happy New Year! Soo I messaged him today at around 2am to say happy new year. He messaged me a couple hours later around 6am. This is how it went.. ps: it's long)...

Me: Happy New Year (blush smiley)
Him: same to youuu (hugs). All the best for 2021
Me: thanks hun same to you. Catch me as I jus woke up
Him: I was peeping through the window lol (insert gif of stalker guy from tv show "You")
Me: (told him i just remembered an old song about peeping) then I said "that's one sexy stalker
Him: well invite him in
Me: I'm officially sending the invite (wink)
Him: gif of George Ramsay running to open door
Me: you have a gif for everything! What you doing today
Him: home relaxing. U?
Me: Same. I'm having a movie title New Years "Home Alone" hahah.
Him: keeping yourself out of mischief I see
Me: Not at all haha some mischief is good
What's for breakfast?
Him: lol like? (In response to mischief comment)
Me: Haha you don't tell your mischief secrets. Then it won't be that mischievous now would it (laughing emoji) only if you're partner in crime lol
Him: Well I would partner to a crime If I don't know what it is lol
Me: Haha. True. I didn't think that rebuttal all the way through.
Hear what. We will concoct a plan together #shenanigans lol
Him: Lol you really don't wanna release your plans, you rather make whole new plans. Haha
Me: (laughing crying emojies) Nooo. That's not true hahaha you can know my plans anytime hun. Just ask. (Hugs emoji) It's just more fun when the mischief is new.
Him: Fine I concede. Lol
Me: Haha I'm happy you came around (kiss heart emoji) #partnerincrime
Him: spongebob and patrick gif of them marching forward together with "partners in crime" written on it
Me: (laughing rolling crying emoji)
A partners in crime gif!
Where are you getting these things lmao love it!
Him: crying laughing emoji
End.
I know its long but what do you think. I tried to flirt lmao. How do you think I did? Lol I still didn't get a date tho lol

Answer 7

Gagname

You did great! Can you send me a pm?

Answer 8

Asker

It says I have to be level 2 to send messages :(

Answer 9

Gagname

Ok. Send me a Follow request and I’ll accept that, and send you a pm.

Answer 10

Gagname

I think I received your request. Thanks for the MHO.

Answer 11

Precipice

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I have a bad habbit of never looking interested in anything. Probably why i don't have a girlfriend 🤔

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Answer 12

In_Trance | 6.6K opinions shared on Dating topic.

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So ask him.

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