

Don't feel embarrassed, judged. Abusers seek out people who are helpful and generous. It's the perfect match. These are people who are often loyal and loving who will stay and will believe their repeated apologies. Abusers have to literally beat the love, loyalty and kindness out of their SO and in 95% of the cases, they finally do.
In a minority of cases they kill their SOs. This is why you need to get out. You don't want to be a statistic, or injured so badly you'll carry those scars for life. Most people carry the emotional scars forever. Leave and get counseling to get over this. You'll be glad in the long run.
Abusers are also insistent because, in general, it's hard to find someone who will stay with them. When they GET someone, it's worth their lies and prevarications to keep them.
Don't be that girl.
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Like I said best thing is remove him, you won't see past what he's done. Pm open if you need to talk
Mam, you are very strong cause you are able to share your pain you don't need to be embarrassed about it.
Yea. I can’t count how many times I forgave him and he was okay for about a week but he went back to his old self soon after. He really does need help and after what he’s put me through I feel like I need it as well. It wasn’t only anger problems with him, which was pretty bad. He got upset at almost anything and his retaliation for it was always violence and he took that anger/violence out on me but I feel like he also has deep rooted mental issues that he’s never mentioned to me but it was obvious in his actions. One time, he threw me on the ground. Bruised my arm and bottom pretty badly and in the process of him throwing me he ripped his shirt broke a chain that he always wore and once he noticed his chain was broken and that his shirt was ripped while I was on the floor crying in pain he goes “You just ripped my shirt and broke my chain. Now I’m gonna rip your clothes apart.” He rushed toward me and ripped my bra and the shirt I had on when it was his fault that his shirt tore and that his chain broke in the first place. That just made me see that it was more reasons to his abuse than just anger and that made it even worse.
That’s how I feel toward it. I’m only twenty four years old and I haven’t been in many relationships. Definitely not a abusive one. It was all new to me. This was my second real relationship and I really liked him. Even grew to love him because he isn’t always abusive but his hits and attacks out weigh the good in him. I have forgiven him so much to the point where I started to despise him. It’s been times after he’s hit me that I still stayed at his home, which I don’t have to because I work, I have my own room at my parents house and I give them money from my checks for rent/bills, I just stayed because I knew if I attempted to leave right after he had hit me it wouldn’t be easy and it would end in him hitting me more/again but the thing was after he would apologize and I’ll tell myself and him that I forgive him and we would lay down for the night I usually never got sleep because I had thoughts of hurting him in his sleep and once it got to that point the next time he attacked me I waited until he went upstairs in his home after hitting me to “calm down” and I took that chance to rapidly call a Lyft, grab all my things and went out his bedroom window. His home is made low so it was easy and I got away. I guess the moment he came back in the room and saw I was gone he had called me privately because I blocked him on everything the moment I got in the Lyft. These text came days later after ignoring his private calls and he texted me this from a email but this time I’m not falling for it.
I think I even developed ptsd from it. If I do go to sleep most times I have dreams/visions of him running toward me with his fist and I would just pop up, breathing hard. Afraid and I wouldn’t even be around him. That would happen on days I wasn’t even sleeping over his house. I could be in the comfort of my own bed/home and that would happen. Visions of his face and how it showed how angry he would get. It had even gotten to the point that even if I knew he wasn’t upset with me and wasn’t going to hit me if he had made any sudden movement with his hands I would flinch.
That sounds a bit much for a relationship if you want my advice (and I'm not a expert at all by the way) but I would leave him and try to heal your body and your mind it sounds like you've been through a rough time. Whatever you choose I hope you get to a happier place
I have heard that that both abusers and sexual predators are master manipulators. I wonder if they become that way on purpose or they really have a victim mentality
@likelyOK: Rapist are seriously mentally ill as normal and healthy people don't do disgusting thing as forcelly raping someone which is disturbing and horrid.
An abuser is just flat out rotten of a person in every sense of the word.
@asker: Listen to the advice people on here gave you or you will pay for it again, and the next time 3 of your teeth might be on the ground. Learn from the past and move on.
@FriendlyEnigma that's why it's a cycle, people call for that shit. It's so easy to do when you are desperate to be loved. The trick is to learn to love yourself and realize you don't actually NEED anyone. Especially not a piece of shit.
if he doesn't go seek professional help for his problem you will be another statistic you'll be Six Feet Under and he won't be able to touch you anymore sorry to be so blunt buts statistically is true
Agree except for therapy. They don’t change with therapy, they either manipulate the therapist (and partner) and use the therapy in order to abuse smoother and in a more (for them) wise way. They’ll also use it to turn others against their partner “Look, I’m even in therapy! And she still complains!”. If the therapist see through them they will either continue to look good or have enough of it.
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