I am 41 years old woman. Is it possible for me to find a guy , get married and have kids at this age?

[Adam1978]

I would say your chances are slim. If your talking about kids of your own. If that is key go see a doctor asap to check your fertility and see if you can freeze some eggs. Because your running on extremely short time and you should first see if you give you a better chance if you actually do find a man. Your probably better accept the fact that men will date younger if they want kids. The guys you can get is for most part already raised a family or don't want one. The easiest way for you do get a family is to date a single dad, it's not the same but it's your best bet. You should have made the call to go the family route in your twenties. You are way past the wall to be seen as a candidate to start a family with. It's not impossible but it would be like you winning the lottery, and you basically have to accept any guy that give you a chance. Your days of being picky is behind you. You have to settle and settle hard to even have a remote chance. I don't want to be mean but it's how the world works.

[Ozanne]

I was a first-time bride at the age of 41. I had expected marriage would happen for me when I was in my 20s, and when it didn't happen, I banked a lot on my 30s. When it still didn't happen, I was feeling a bit down about it. All of my friends the family members in my generation were all married by then, so I felt like something was wrong with me. It was increasingly bad when I had men tell me that they found me attractive, yet would date other women.

Finally I just gave up expecting and was prepared to go on being that woman that people know who just never married. In my late 30s, I focused on my work, wrote my first book, and did things to make myself happy as a single. I was in a better headspace then, probably more than ever, of accepting who I was. I guess it was that sort of strength of being on my own and being content with it, is what attracted my now-husband.

So my advice to you is basically what worked for me, but you have to find it within yourself to do what makes you happy - but I do think finding your own contentment as a single is extremely important. Worrying about your time running out can send 'desperate' vibes out, whether you know it or not. But having some confidence and contentment that you are at a place you are fine with may attract someone - you just never know. :) Good luck, and have a Happy 2021 being at peace with yourself. :)

[PBandJ_Nerd]

You can get married to someone at any age. But if you want to have babies in your 40s then you need to be careful. Older women might have problems during the pregnancy because of their age. You can look up what risks there are and decide if you want to take them. But you can also adopt kids too.

[razelove]

If you want to rush like crazy, like get knocked up yesterday, use that to lead up to the marriage. Lower your standards like crazy because this isn't picking out the best, this is convenience, speed, and as much unprotected sex as you can cram in as you're already in the needs extra monitoring and tests age range of pregnancy.

I'd also consider hard which is more important, the marriage, or the kids? You can get married later, but your clock is ticking pretty dang loud at this point if you still want to have kids, and may have issues conceiving that you don't even know about.

Sorry, not trying to be a negative nancy, just saying that there's a lot to consider, and it would be more practical to chose which part to chase first, the guy, the baby, or the marriage.

[caring__1]

When people get too lost in all their conditions, they often pass up great opportunities. Though things are possible, take a look at the cost and determine if you are willing to pay it. The longer it takes for people to choose a partner, the slimmer the options are, and the more set in your ways both of you become. What's more important? A quality relationship or marriage and kids? You may also have an unstated expectation of how much his annual income is. There are a lot of lonely senior women who wanted it all.

[magiusX26]

honestly not very likely on the kids part. most women start running out of eggs around age 30. also pregancy issues start rising right at age 30 too, getting worse and riskier each year. even if you do get pregnant, you statistcally have a much higher chance of major complications, many of which will risk your life, the unborn child/ren's life, or both.

sorry but this is a big reason why, no matter if she looks 20s, i dont date women close to my age. i want to have a chance of being a biological father and over 30 sevetely hampers that.

[GingerGuy]

Yes. Kids might be a challenge, especially if you want more than 1 lol. But be careful to not let your age (time) determine who you bring into your life. Meaning don't just grab whomever comes along because the clock is ticking and you're afraid there will be nobody else. There will be. Also, you might have to approach guys as well and put yourself out there to find someone. I'm single as well, however I just assume that women around our age aren't single. So if other guys are the same, they may not be "beating down your door" lol. But you can find someone at any age.

[BeMuse]

Maybe, but you don’t have much time left for children… Menopause generally starts somewhere between 45 and 55. Some women start as early as 40. So unless you froze your eggs, your ovaries aren’t going to wait much longer for you to start popping out kids.

[hikerunbeer]

Why the heck not? Personally, I thought I would expand my horizon and meet women in their 40s, I'm 33. As far as kids though, I'm not a doctor. It would depend on the individual.

Why not adopt? Make sure whoever the guy is that his priorities align with yours.

[silvermoon84]

I think pregnancy can be riskier at that age than it is when you’re younger but it’s still possible, and this is coming from someone who’s infertile so I know that can be hard to accept (but hopefully you won’t have to). I would recommend being open to all possibilities. Maybe consider also adopting or dating single dads or even dating someone who doesn’t want to have kids and just wants you (nothing wrong with that). I think finding love is possible at any age. Good luck

[Aakash_Hangargi]

I think it's possible but having a kid at this age could not go well either for the child or mother you know past 35 age pregnancy mostly leads to kids with Down syndrome or some other complications why to put a child through that I would say either adopt or IVF is the best possible solution

[Anonymous]

You're definitely racing the clock. And what's worse you might find the. In your haste marry him, have kids, rhen learn afterwards what a dud he was. And now you're tied to him for life.
I'd just focus on the guy or the kid. Depending which is more important to you.

[Darcia]

Having kids at that age may cause developmental delays and other disabilities if your up to deal and care for that then go right ahead. You can still find a good husband or boyfriend.

[Drumlin2001]

My OH was 40 when we met. That was little over 2 years ago. We have a son, a baby on the way. Not sure on marriage, maybe in future.
Don't give up. Be proactive, be clear what you want and dont waste time on people with different life goals

[chHaynes]

I would say possibly if you're willing to try but it all depends this day and age women are expected to look younger than what they are but it all depends he could probably find an older guy who likes you for you

[R3DthatDude]

It’s always possible to find someone. People have had children at that age, but it’s rare. No one usually wants to, but I believe you can do anything you put your mind to.

[stupidgrls]

You might not be able to have a child but you can definitely find a husband. ☺️

[kkirk4442]

Yes, but you probably don't have much time left to have children naturally.

[guesswhoseback]

You definitely can but it’s most likely going to be a guy a few years older who might be divorced and have kids from an earlier marriage.

[jasco]

eh i mean some ladies look good as they get older but honestly it's a bit to late. Who knows maybe a divorce father would date you but i hope you find what your looking for

[worldscolide]

Kids might be difficult. By the time a woman is 40 97% of her eggs are gone. But the rest of your question is easily possible.

[genericname85]

find a guy and get married is easily possible. having kids is something you'll have to ask your doctor.

[Anonymous]

Most of the guys will say no but they will jump on you if you are like my 45 year old friend who makes 7 digits per year. Gold digger assholes.

[ashish804]

yeah u can find the guy, get married too... having kidss may be difficult