Girls, is it true that if a guy becomes someone a girl vents her problems to, she would never date him?

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False! That's the perception of the guy because he's the one that wants to date her. He would not know a girl's intentions unless she makes it blatantly clear that that's what she wants. Whether I vent to a man or not it's my decision whether or not I want to date somebody or not. But if I already know I want to date somebody hypothetically speaking, why play games when I should just tell the individual? As much as I'm not a forward person, I also don't see what's the point of not being authentic about what you say you want or desire. A woman can vent to anybody. That has nothing to do about what's attractive or turn off. That may be her insecurities. In fact it's hard for me to open up with anybody because people in general behaves that way. That's the same thing with guys. If a guy is going to think only of himself why am I going to vent to a person or show him that much attention if it means that I'm just not only unintentionally leading him on but I'm giving him the wrong perception about me?

A man who's already thinking like that needs to make his intentions very clear instead of making a woman feel safe around him when that may not be what she wants. If a woman vents to a guy is because she cares about his overall opinion and desires his friendship and companionship. No different than she does for other people. If a woman is solely just speaking to a guy and doesn't want to vent that out with any of her female friends, it means two things. By the she just don't have people that she can trust, which means she needs to get new friends. Or she doesn't care about her friends she just going after the guy anyway. that's what manipulative people do. That's not what I do.

As I said before, if I wanted to date a person I would simply just tell them. If I'm thinking about that I would rather just tell them the moment I already know for myself. But I have no hidden intent when I desire to have relationships with people regardless if it's a friendship, connecting with distant family members, or whoever. I make sure that my intention is genuine and I like to be honest upfront. But if that guy isn't looking for any woman to pay attention to him because of his insecurities, or he Desiring more than he needs to be just as honest and forthright as I choose to be with him and others. I do not want to have a friendship with a man who's just only using our so-called called friendship just to try to get into my pants. That is definitely not somebody I want to date or take interest in.