Does a man who does feminine stereotyped labor in early stages of dating increase his sexual attractiveness?

[virtue2332]

Yeah this is way true but its a little off. It goes like this. He gets home and straightens up so everything is perfect for you when you get home. If your tired from shopping all day he massages your feet then begins to work on the rest of your body. Your obviously a bit tired from the long day so he only wants you to lay back while he lets his lips tongue and fingers bring you to a intense orgasm. While you are curled up on your side trying to compose yourself he gets you your favourite blanket and puts on relaxing music as you drift off into a post orgasm nap. Which will give him enough time to do the dishes and get you your favorite snack for when you get up. From that point on If you even look in his direction or hint that you are arroused still he will immediately pick you up and carry you off to your room where he tie you to the bed and dominate you until your too sensitive with pleasure to continue or remember your safe word.

[cth96190]

A female will see him as a weak and subservient simp.
On a subconscious level, perhaps even on a conscious level for some, this will cause the female to see the male as unfit to mate with her.
She will likely subject the male to a shit test, which he will fail because he is a nice guy who wants to show the female that he loves her.
After he fails this shit test, the female will impale herself on the first suitable Chad penis that she encounters, cheat on the nice guy for up to three months to lock in the Chad, then blow the nice guy out an airlock.

[Ruenella_]

I appreciate it, but it's not as sexy or attractive as a guy being into "guy stuff", for instance, fixing cars, handling guns, and knowing how to build things from the ground up.

My dad is a master at all of those plus more, and it made the family feel safe, knowing that we could depend on him to provide and protect us when necessary, and I look for those things in a potential partner, so my family will be able to experience that security that comes with a guy like that.

I don't care if he does the dishes lol that's not impressive, that's boring. I wanna see him with a little mud on his boots.

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

I would appreciate it and consider them a normal responsible adult. Cooking , cleaning, knowing how to take care of basic household needs isn't a female or male role, it's an adult role 🤷🏼‍♀️

[CrazyGirl2]

Who says those things are “feminine” who do you think cooks, cleans, washes dishes etc in the military? Especially on board a naval vessel like an aircraft carrier, or especially a submarine (were there are NO women)? Someone doing the dishes is not going to “get me wet”? (unless he splashed me with water), but it IS going to show me that he believes in equitable division of labor, and THAT makes him a LOT more attractive as a life partner! HEY... If I can rebuild a small block Chevy engine with my eyes closed, HE can do the fuckin’ dishes!

[RationalMale]

So far the one study I have seen on this says men who do typically "female" chores, like dusting for instance, get less sex than ones who only do "male" chores such as mowing the lawn.

https://www.livescience.com/26696-housework-makes-men-less-sexy.html#:~:text=Men%20who%20do%20more%20household,findings%2C%20published%20today%20(Jan.

[Tiffany_Taylor_Made]

Cooking, washing dishes, and making the bed aren't "feminine stereotyped labor" and should never be considered such. Instead, they're just basic chores that everybody should do, regardless of their gender. A guy is no more or less attractive if he simply does these basic chores. However, he does become less attractive if he doesn't do them. No woman that isn't desperate would be willing to stay with a man that can't cook for himself, leaves the dishes dirty, and leaves the bed messy. While I am aware that women are expected to do housekeeping, it should never be an adult woman's responsibility to do all the chores in the house.

[AlienParasite]

More than wet it makes the person seem like a good option for a serious relationship. Because those behaviors are caring. And when someone is caring it only increases your desires to be as caring. When I guy is uncaring, I feel like it's not worthy to be caring.

Plus, if a person is independent, which is very important and valued, independence is beign able to take care of yourself and your house. Beign able to change a bulb, to cook, to clean, to buy your food, to wash your clothes, to drive, to pay your bills, to sew a button, etc. I believe nobody wants to be their partner's mom or dad... unless they have a really weird kink.

[Anonymous]

What do you trust more - what women say to you, or behavioural studies?

https://www.scientificamerican.com/article/men-who-do-housework-have-less-sex/

[PBandJ_Nerd]

Not sure. But if there's another thing I know it's that a happy couple helps do the chores around the house. So it is a good thing. Unless one of the partners stay home of course, then they might do a bit more of the cleaning. But even then the guy should help out with it.

[SomeGuyCalledTom]

Offering to wash dishes when you're a guest at someone else's dinner table isn't "feminine", it's called fucking table manners.

That said, if he arrived at her apartment wearing a women's dress and talking about celebrity gossip all night and crying every five minutes for no reason, then you might start to question his manliness. 🙄

[Hurlyburly]

Ehh... How about referring to these things as "adult duties" instead? No, acting like a goddamn adult isn't particularly a turn on. But acting like a child that's unable to care for himself is definitely a turn off. I want a partner, not a huge baby.

[Sarahloves19]

People are stupid and created masculine pr feminine things. Shallow people in old times gave females the work of home making, cooking , cleaning and working as a maid because females are shy and physically weak. They took advantage of their power and made women the prisoner of family responsibilities.

[little_bird1]

This is just being an adult. It's not a turn on per se, but it is a turn off if he doesn't want to or doesn't know how to do it. Everyone should be able to take care of them selves and their environment.
But I do have to admit that being a skilled cook is a big plus in my book!

[lightbulb27]

My guess is it increases attractiveness desire if he's a responsible adult in general. If she feels safe, secure, loved, then mating will sound good to her.

I think have to be careful feminizing ones self as that will lose attractiveness. But a male can do what is viewed as "feminine" work and still be man, with masculine traits.

It's better together to share, and have fun with it, make it play.

[Damilola1245]

To females it will, but to males due to the fact society has expectations on the role of the woman in the home like cooking and cleaning it will be a harm to there pride. But some men actually don’t mind at the end of the day a modern day relationship has already broken such traditional expectations in the home. As man you must be willing to do your best to take care of your wife who ever loves his wife lives himself

[Vetis]

Why would you ask women what turns them on. They're incentivized to lie to you because the game is that you just know what you're doing.
Now, it could be attractive to cook your own food etc. But it's not arousing. This is just common sense. How would doing things unrelated to sex be arousing.

[Apple1996]

No im not into guys that cook and clean. I always have to be the one doing that stuff since I have terrible ocd. There have been a few times my husband attempted to clean and it caused huge arguements. I'm sure for a normal women it would be attractive but not to the crazies like me with ocd.

[DrunkAss]

I think the vibe is more important than the actions for early impressions. You can either give off a servant vibe doing things like dishes or a responsible one. More girls respond to the latter than the former in my experience.

[Newhead]

Of course but I won't leave all the work on him. I really like doing chores around the house because there are things he needs to do that I refuse to do. But him showing that he is not above "feminine" duties is sexy and appreciated.

[Anonymous]

Hell yeah!


A guy who attaches labor to stereotype is not at all attractive to me. It comes off as being narcissistic and every other negative things that comes along.

[taylor1098]

No because that should be a basic life skill. I will never cook, wash or clean up after a grown man, if you can’t do it yourself go date your mother it’s that simple. Cleaning dishes is by feminine and it’s quite very sexist to think or even imply it’s a feminine trait

[Anonymous]

Pretty dumb to call something you need to do for basic hygiene "feminine labor". Does this mean that you don't ever clean up after yourself when you live alone? Do you use Tinder to find maids? lol it's just simple household work, you should be helping out instead of freaking out about whether it makes you more attractive.
As with everything on GAG, there are clearly some women here who think men who help out with household chores are effeminate. In reality, I think these women are used to being treated like doormats and are actively alarmed that there could be anyone who treats them better, to the point where they'd actually seek out men who are slobs that sit on the couch watching sports and demanding more food and beer while their wife/girlfriend slaves away in the kitchen. Sad af.

[MzAsh]

It still cracks me up that basic adult tasks were considered gender roles. But I love it when my man cooks and does dishes.