Why are guys on dating sites so unattractive?

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As an attractive guy, where I go when I wanna date someone is Starbucks, Barnes and noble or the mall. I find it boring to swipe based on your face or whatever you wanna sell to me. I find it fun to approach you in person. Let me see you personality in person and how you handle compliments. Why is this better for me?
If I like your face on tinder and then meet you in person, I'm going to be disappointed because I wasted time. As opposed to approaching you in person and finding out right away if we click or not. It's a lot better for me.

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- Walamagicc
  
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  Ouu this is a good answer
Avicenna | 11K opinions shared on Dating topic.
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I'm going to assume that's correct, but I can tell you that attractive guys don't have any problem approaching women IRL and getting their rapt attention. Now COVID may have altered that somewhat, but the point still holds. Attractive women also don't need to use dating apps, for obvious reasons.

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  Thanks for the mho

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Floppy2112
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Well the attractive ones are robots. And almost every guy with a brain who has had some experience with on-line dating knows it's a rigged game and your chances are extremely low. Woman have a much better hand of cards in online dating than a man does. Once the guy figures out it's a shit show, they leave.
I am speaking from experience. Online dating made me more resentful and cynical, and I had success!
Online dating seems to me to be an environment designed for women to punch down on men. Perhaps that's not true, but it feels like it on there. So we cancel our subscriptions and just deal.

I think there was a brief time when online dating was a legit gig, but I believe it has changed to much in the wrong direction to be successful. Like most online platforms, online dating sites seem somehow to have managed to pit people against each other than bring them together. Conflict generates clicks. Further it's a haven for scam artists and the sites do a bad job of policing it and cleaning out the Russian bots and the scammers from Asia.

Hell, 'eHarmony' tells you how unsuccessful they are. They say, 'People fall in love every 14 minutes!' on eHarmony. That sounds terrific until your realize how many members there are and with that many members people should be falling in love every 14 seconds, not minutes for it to be a real deal for meeting a mate.

Dating and meeting people of the opposite sex is probably one of the strangest behaviors humans exhibit.

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Iknowbestgirls
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I don't know why are unattractive girls on there?
I stopped using dating apps because of that.
I don't think I'm unattractive just depends on if you like my style or not. I have an edgy Metal style with long black hair a beard. I wear a lot of black and brutal band tees, Skinny jeans, chains, bullet casing belts, spiky bracelets sometimes, rings and I have vests and jackets that are all patched up with band patches I sewed on myself as well as studding and adding spikes to my jackets a vests.
I've been told I have a pretty cool style by both girls and guys. Plus I'm a chef so that adds to my attractiveness.

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Skankhunt | 448 opinions shared on Dating topic.
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It's about you, and not about them. Your perception of men is your problem, not ours. If you think guys are unattractive on dating sites, find a men in real life instead of whining about unattractive men on dating sites, which isn't necessarily true. If you are so fucused on appearance, you are shallow, all you think about is looks. It seems like looks are very important to you.

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- Walamagicc
  
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  How is focusing on physical appearance considered shallow? Why would anyone want to date someone they don’t find attractive. You don’t make any sense. Men are more pickier than women when it comes to how the way their girlfriends look if you haven’t seem to notice. Just because I want an attractive boyfriend doesn’t make me shallow.
- KrakenAttackin
  
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  @Walamagicc The research proves you to be wrong in everything you have said. A group of dating sites did exacting research and PROVED that women have ABSURD standards. 80%+ of women are chasing the top 5% of men, which is why girls like you get pumped-dumped so often. The top 5% of men don't have to commit, they can bang away with a different girl every week if they want. As I said above, the problem is between the ears of women, not with men.
  
  More power to the Giga-chads who pump-dump these clueless chicks.
BigHomieNasty
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Perhaps you are more into girls than guys? 😂

Seriously though, men don’t study what angles to take pictures and what lighting to use. We come as we are. Beauty is a game for women. We are too focused on figuring you out and trying to become successful.

Send me a follow. And feel free to reach out to me if I can be of more assistance!

IG: BigHomieNasty
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KrakenAttackin | 2.1K opinions shared on Dating topic.
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According to women like you, 80% of men on dating sites are "below average looking" which is statistically IMPOSSIBLE.

You want a direct answer to your question: "Why are guys on dating sites so unattractive"? BECAUSE YOU HAVE WILDLY UNREALISTIC EXPECTATIONS.

The problem is not with men it is between your ears.

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jasco | 1.8K opinions shared on Dating topic.
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Because they can't get a girl friend in person so why not online but then again that goes the same for women on dating sites. They can't get sex in person so why not dating apps but there just as ugly as the men they are looking for so eh

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WesBrewer | 1.3K opinions shared on Dating topic.
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Because they are hopeless in real life with girls so why not try online where the site will do all the work for you.

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Anonymous

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Good question. Let's look at the flipside and ask why are so many women on them are either land whales using old/fake photos or single mothers?

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- Walamagicc
  
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  How would I know what a woman’s profile looks like online? I don’t look at women...
- Opinion Owner
  
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  Don't give a shit. Giving you the man's perspective since the majority of online dating is men and fake accounts. The true women profiles are exactly what I told you.
ManHater | 251 opinions shared on Dating topic.
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Why are women on dating sites single fat tubs of shit with 3 kids from 3 different men?

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  😂😂I actually used to be friends with this woman who matches that exact description wtf
AFellowWeeb | 353 opinions shared on Dating topic.
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Lemme guess, the ones you find attractive dont even look at you? 😢

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  They do but they usually are fake
FakeName123 | 1.6K opinions shared on Dating topic.
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Because high quality guys do not need to use dating sites.

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Anonymous

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b/c the few hot guys that exist in any sample size of men don't have problems procuring the ladies lol

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Anonymous

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Because if they weren't, they'd already be in a relationship and not need to use a dating site. And you're there too, so... Maybe don't be so picky.

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Anonymous

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Because obviously they're too ugly to get a date in real life

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- Walamagicc
  
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  This makes me laugh, or they use really old pictures of them from like years ago. I wonder if girls catfish as often as men do..
- Opinion Owner
  
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  Why use ugly pictures to catfish?
  😂😂😂
- Walamagicc
  
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  Just why catfish in general? It’s like so weird when people do that😂😂
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- Opinion Owner
  
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  They want attention they don't get in real life, but I hate deceitful people. I've been catfished
- Walamagicc
  
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  Don’t feel too bad, I’ve been accused of being a catfish (I’m not) and I actually went to see this guy and he lied about everything from his height to his body built. I was not attracted to him at all in person. I blocked his number and everything 😂😂
- Opinion Owner
  
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  Oh damn! Yeah, I met up with someone from online, she looked and acted NOTHING like she was online
- Walamagicc
  
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  Did you confront her for lying to you?
- Opinion Owner
  
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  No. Because she didn't technically lie. It's just hard to tell someone's personality online. And pictures are often distorted.
  
  But she pissed me cuz she didn't bring any money and I had to pay for everything.
  We barely spoke to each other the entire 4 hours. I only told a couple of my close friends cuz I normally don't hang out with people like that.
  
  We never met up again.
  You got catfished?
- Walamagicc
  
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  4 hours? 😡you are really nice for hanging out with her that long. The guy who catfished me, texts and talks to same way in real life (we were only talking for like a day until we met up) he just was not attractive in the slightest, if someone can pretend to be someone else, what else can they be lying about? Yea he had to go
- Opinion Owner
  
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  Well she already showed up so I wasn't gonna ditch her.
  Yeah I wouldn't meet up we with someone after just a day.
  I don't like deceiving people.
- Opinion Owner
  
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  It's so stupid because if you were gonna find out anyways he might as well be honest
- Walamagicc
  
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  Well you live and you learn. Some people don’t come out to who they say they are
- Walamagicc
  
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  Exactly! And then he asked me why did I block him. I told him because he catfishes me and and then he still kept denying it and lying
- Opinion Owner
  
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  How long did you stay with him?
- Walamagicc
  
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  Well I didn’t date him because like I said that he was not who I thought he was. We only talked for about 2 days and then I ghosted him for wasting my time
- Walamagicc
  
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  How long did you her talk for?
- Opinion Owner
  
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  But you said you met up with him.
  Few years. But I met her cuz she was talking a class with my old science teacher who had i on Facebook. I thought she was ugly but she was fatter in real life than i expected
- Walamagicc
  
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  Ouu that has to sting. Meeting someone after talking for a few years and they are not who they are. I’m sorry you had to go through that..
- Opinion Owner
  
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  I mean we weren't close. She was more of an acquaintance, but I was bored and had nothing to do and she seemed cool.
  
  Ugh... It's okay. It wasn't a big deal. It was just awkward. I didn't have feelings for her or nothing.
  
  Now I'm curious about YOU. lol
Dayman343 | 71 opinions shared on Dating topic.
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Maybe that's why they are on dating sites. Same with girls though, believe me I tried it.

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Anonymous

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Well, mostly, attractive guys don’t need to be on dating sites because they have it easier sometimes. So, how about looking into the ‘unattractive’ ones’ personality?

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havingfun101 | 340 opinions shared on Dating topic.
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I'm pretty sure it's you, not them?

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Anonymous

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I ask myself too
Frequently, attractive ones are fakes

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- Walamagicc
  
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  Yes!! Or they be acting like hoes just wanna fuck 💀
Anonymous

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Because attractive guys don't use dating sites.

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  That’s so not true. The ones that are actually attractive are usually too far from me or they’re just weird
- Opinion Owner
  
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  Lol, sure
Slim57 | 3.7K opinions shared on Dating topic.
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Because when you have more to choose from your perception is more flawed

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- hahahmm
  
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  Part of why online dating should be banned or greatly limited. Like only usable if you're within 5 miles of the other person for example.
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