If you are over 30 and never had a long term relationship before, is it too late? ?

[btbc92]

It's never too late unless you end up dead. It just gets much harder as you get older. For some people, they go way younger as they don't want old people supposedly. All I can say is don't even look for it. I'm looking to go with God, this life makes no sense to me. Don't have hope in this world. Have hope in Jesus with the things of God. Don't resent what others supposedly have. You have no idea what they're in it for, and 9/10x its selfish reasons. They don't last as you saw with yours. You have to build something with people. But if you're not for that as I see it in my life, then just live your life for yourself. That's all. Somebody has to want to love you. And begging won't solve that. When I stopped expected because of other's expectations, I learned bout my value through God. I never dated EVER. Not even a relationship. So look at that. You have more experience than me. But I know it's not about the experience. It's about the joy and the love of a person who wants to love and experience that joy with you and only you in a romantic union and a friendship. It was hard to even have good friends today. So think about that before you lament about no long term relationship. I never had any of that experience.

But then again, I never understood what was the point for me. I never personally had a desire, desire, that was really pure per se. Though my desires overall may have been. But it was flesh. It didn't feel like it felt good to my spirit or soul. But it hurt because others made it out like it was wrong. It's funny how they never look at a so-called ugly person and expect them to pair up. If they get a handsome or attractive person, then it's wrong. Or you have to stay in your lane. It's like, why? I know homosexuality is wrong. But this part about why you have to be physically and sexually attractive only for a relationship to happen I never understood that. So many people have sex, etc, and aren't happy. They're either abused, used, financially unfit or unstable, kids they don't want, scared to have, kids, aborted, somebody murdered, stalked, robbed, etc. If it's all so important then WHY? Besides sin in people, why do this?

It's not that you not meant to stay with somebody, if that was true you would have been like me: never had anybody. That person just chose to mistreat you or use you in some way. You don't like a bad guy. Just lonely and wants to be loved. You don't sound like those sex-crazed men. But you definitely sound like you would forgo sex if it means you'll be loved and valued. You were just with the wrong person. And you can definitely do it and I know God will bless you with a good woman. But you must first believe that you do deserve one and know what love and a good woman is. Don't just accept just anybody.

[Don-__-Don]

It's not too late, it's never too late.


It's only too late when you think it is.

[MrStitch]

It's too late when you die, before that you have opportunities

[MountAverage]

It's never too late, but it does get more and more difficult to find one the older you get, I suppose.

[Anonymous]

its a reminder of my lifelong resentment about the dynamics of dating

[Luckycharms12]

Course not it's never to late