Actual reasons you won't date a single mum?

[ShadezMcgee]

I will answer based on my stance if I were still single.

1.) The kid will always come first over you, rightfully so. A kid requires a lot of time, especially when the mom is not working to make money. Her spare time will mostly be dedicated to the child. Any dates will be dependent on baby sitters and her schedule from her commitment to work as well. This isn't counting any emergency the kid may have like sickness, school, etc.

2.) The baby daddy. Most of the time the baby daddy is in the picture one way or another be it with split custody or alimony. If she still has any interaction with the man who is the father of her child to a heavy degree, there is a good likelihood she would go back to him on a physically intimate point and I believe a part of that is do to pair bonding and biology. I would rather not deal with being in competition with or face a possibly hostile dude.

3.) The kid. I don't like the idea of helping raise a kid that isn't biologically mine. The possibility of getting attached to him and vice versa or him resenting me just sounds like an annoying hassle to deal with. The other bit to go with that is I have no say on how the kid is raised if there is something I don't like. Plus I feel rotating doors of men in a single mom's life is a toll on the kid emotionally and psychologically.

4.) I would rather date a woman who is free from those commitments by being single and not having the responsibility of having a kid.

5.) This one is a personal opinion and very judgmental, but in my eyes, unless she married and widowed young, if she is single and taking care of a kid at a young age I feel it is a sign of poor judgment and decision making. Divorce, impulsive decision on having sex with the wrong man, etc.

6.) Financially I am really only able to support myself. Taking on a woman and her kid as well would be a bad move on my end.

Again, these are my core reasons as to why I avoid them. The funny thing is a fair amount of single moms that were close to my age have come onto me and displayed interest, but again, couldn't do it.

[Don-__-Don]

For me, it's because I find life enough of a drag already, I'm 19 years old and I'm barely hanging in there.

Even when I'm older I just can't see myself raising a kid that's not mine, doesn't sound like something I'll ever be intrested, the motivation isn't there.

If it was my biological kid then that's a different story, because I will find it to be my obligation to raise a kid that I litteraly brought into the world.

Like I said, if I know the kid isn't mine, I don't see the motivation being there.


And my perception of romantic love isn't strong enough to make it seem worth it either, not to date a single mother that it.

That's my reason on why I most likely won't ever date a single mom, ever.

[OlderAndWiser]

At my age, almost all women have children but they are adults and self-sufficient. I dated a few single moms when I was younger. What problems have you had?

[utterlyconfused11]

because I refuse to raise someone else kid unless I adopt them
22 is too young for kids
there's plenty of girls who are single who do not have kids
I don't have the time money nor am I willing to put in the effort to raise a kid right now
having kids is a huge turnoff for me, as soon as I see that a girl has a kid she goes from a 10 to a 0
I don't want a kid to get attached to me and then we break up that's more pain on the kid which harkens back to my first point

[Anonymous]

It's very simple. Regardless of what qualities she has, there is a completely single woman somewhere else, that has exactly the same, or more qualities. There is simply no logical reason why a man that has options, would even need to consider dating a single Mom.

I remember there was a single Mom that asked me out, but at the time there were also 2 other single, and younger women that also wanted to date.

[Anonymous]

I don't like kids and am not sure if i ever want them and at some point if your dating the mum long enough you have to meet the kids and if you move in your probably gonna end up paying for the kids at some point

[Slim57]

They're usually egotistical, have attitude and daddy issues, and plus I dont want to date someone with a kid in the way of dating them

[chriscdi]

cause im not finacially stable

[Twalli]

Not financially or emotionally ready for a child