Does a person's past affect the present person you're dating?

[OlderAndWiser]

This is a very broad and vague question.

I am dating a woman who was born in China and she came to the US at age 27. Yes, that will affect her for the rest of her life.

She was married, had a child, and later divorced. Yes, that will affect her for the rest of her life.

I don't know her sexual history because we have only been dating for about 6 weeks. She may have been promiscuous when she was younger or immediately after the divorce (but I would be surprised by that.) If so, it is not apparent now and she seems to be very careful in wanting to know a prospective partner before beginning a sexual relationship. So, in this example, her past does not significantly affect who she is now.

You really need to specify what facts are of concern to you, how far back in the past those events occurred, and what has transpired since then to determine whether her past is still affecting her in the present.

[BedheadGreg]

Your past tells you about who you are.
Mia Khalifa is a liar and opportunist and will do anything to get to the top.

She a mediocre porn star with a bad tit job. and is only likable because she a young middle eastern girl sucking dick on camera which is a unicorn in porn.

You need to really go out of your way to prove you have been changed.


She recently lied about only being paid 12000 for porn. When she was lying. She trying to say she was manipulated. No, you wanted to be a whore for money and clout. And now you wanna be taken seriously

People like her are dangerous to be around.

[SueShe]

I have no plans on dating but a person's past would indeed affect my perception of any future person I date.

If I was in a toxic relation or with a person that had addictions, was a criminal or in any other way was not how he presented himself, then I would obviously learn from my mistakes and attempt never to make them again.

But also the past of the current person I would be dating would be a huge handicap if that person had a history of being a player/cheater, addict or having high body count. That would be an immediate turn off and a reason not to go into a relation.

I would have my catalogue of questions that I would ask that person and I would be expecting him to answer them in detail and return the questionnaire on the second date.

[MissDawn7961]

yes for if he was in jail in his past or had pre-marital sex then I know that he is not the man for me ! thanks

[AlexanderAnttila]

You know I actually feel sorry for Khalifa. Having been a porn star, constantly prostituting her body and having sex with innumerable men countless times, sex will have surely lost its meaning and feeling to her. Now that she actually has a husband (a fellow Swede at that) sex might be the least important or fun aspect of their marriage, which is tragic for both of them.

[hellacray]

Of course.

Just cause it happened a long time ago doesn't mean you can ignore it. It still happened and we learn from the past.

Isn't that why we have records of history? If the past doesn't matter why even keep records?

And some of our best moments happen in the past. If you're getting into a relationship you're gonna have good times and bad times.

And you're gonna learn about each other's past. Both the good and the bad. I think it's stupid to only bring up the good times or to ignore all of the negative things.

[Floppy2112]

Of course it does. A person is the sum of their physical make-up and their experience. What happened in the past made them who they are now. So yeah it matters.
That doesn't mean hold grudges if a person made mistakes in the past and have corrected their behavior, but acknowledge that's part of who they are. That's the only reasonable take.

[bamesjond0069]

Lmfao hell yes. In the case of Mia Khalifa she gave up adult entertainment to be a sports broadcaster. And this dude didn't believe her past should be held against her and he married her.

Guess what? she's since quit the respectable sports broadcasting job to now work full time running an Only Fans account flirting with and being sexual with men all day.

You can't make a ho a housewife. Yet another man who didn't believe the saying and had to try it.

[WesBrewer]

I mean yes and no, if she was a pornstar, a whore, or slut then I would want to make sure I don't get any STDs first, Otherwise no matter what she did in the past it would barely affect how I treat her.

[RACSKC0B]

How could not?
Every experience, every choice made, and the outcome that followed, regardless of how we view them (good or bad, right or wrong, tragic or awesome) have shaped the person you are now.

[smash4isBetter]

Isn't this chick a pornstar or something, if so, once a thot always a thot. Even if women like this repented, I would never and will never date a women like that. Imagine your kids finding out your wife was a degenerate. Selling your soul for money and fame. Completely disgusting.

[R3DthatDude]

I no of that person in that picture. I’d say that I would be willing to work past your embarrassing past if you are willing to move on from it. I believe people can change and if they genuinely want to change then I will gladly give them an opportunity to do so

[domadmiralis]

It helped me understand more of what I like and dislike in a relationship, I see red flags more easily and know how to react better in certain situations.

[ThisIsMyOpinion]

Depends on what the past is.
Working in porn? Couldn't care less.
Killed a person? Get away from me!

[Mamamialetmego]

Haha that picture. After all that dick and domination from thousands of males she will never feel satisfied. Why would any male want to commit a porn star?

[robertKugler]

Not supposed to bring ex s on new dates
Best not to talk about em either
Hopefully past has made u wiser
And my your humble trueths and ego in check.. be a tune you both Happy to dance too

[pigoat]

Based on your picture

I love the porn industry

[Anonymous]

A billion percent.
Especially a female with a whoreish past... you don’t get to just pretend it didn’t happen and expect males to treat you like a female who has had dignity and class her whole life.

[blondfrog]

I feel like people don't want to admit it that it bothers them but it does.

[TheFlak38]

the photo you added is indicative of the options women have today.

[JayisI]

Kind of it depends on the past. Something from back then couldnof deeply affected them and can influence how they see things now.

[InferiorElegy]

I think it does in a way, especially if they try to hide it and you find out through other means.

[Brownbored]

If u get mia khalifa loyal to you. Screw the past.. its a win in my book :)

[The_unknown_memer]

I know why that dog is on her legs.
Lucky bastard