What do you think you the idea of "keeping your options open" when it comes to dating?

[TheUniqueOne96]

Good question.

I've kind of got mixed views on it, but I lean more on the side of it being bad, but it does depend on a person's approach and perspective with their options, if that makes any sense.

On one hand you may kind of half-ass it with one person and not fully commit to them, because of potential other options, which can be harsh to them, but on the other hand, going full-on with one person may not necessarily be the best approach, unless you have standards that are hard to find.

Having a lot of options can make it hard to make a decision too and I think it can also cause people to be petty and pick on things they otherwise couldn't care about, basically nit-pick.

Ultimately, I don't think I'd be open to doing it, because I'd kind of feel like someone else's second choice and would rather have a person who's focussed on me, so I wouldn't dish it out, due to the fact that I don't think I'd like being on the receiving end of it - it just wouldn't be right.

Both other answers so far are interesting reads and make some good points.

[ItsTheNephilim]

Depends on how they treat their 'options'. If they're dating multiple people at once, nothing wrong with that as long as everyone is aware about everything and stay chill. If it's about misleading someone, cheating, not valuing any sort of commitment made to one of them etc, that's wrong.

[btbc92]

It shows that people like to shop around with your emotions and then blame you for even having them. This is like dating is so hard because people have so many options yet they don't even want to bother to get to know you as friends anyway. Worse is that they don't want to marry her. But then expect to screw you. If not sexually definitely your life. But the sad reality is that people who do that tends to be those that are either highly social in general and it's okay for them to be social. But the problem is that they usually end up the most miserable. I'm not saying for people to settle. But a lot of times they don't know what to do. They want let alone what they're doing. Leaving others who have yet to have dates or somebody like me who never dated before be glad that they never did. Or for the other majority feeling very lonely and unhappy. If you're the type of person that's very serious is best to not invest in people who are not going to consider how you feel.

[jasco]

Honestly i tried this and it just isn't worth the time. Sticking to one person at a time, just makes things easier but if someone does happen to be a better fit then by all means do it