How the hell do you even date anymore?

Question

I live in a small town. Moved here a couple years ago to help my aunt and uncle after his surgery and to get away from an ex. I'm almost 32 and I don't know anyone down here and it seems almost impossible to meet anyone, let alone find a date. Tinder is out of the question as no one uses it around here. Any ideas or advice? Or should I just not worry about it and let what happens happen. I don't mind being single, just sucks being alone all the time.

Answer 1

WesBrewer | 833 opinions shared on Dating topic.

Explorer

Get a job ask your boss "do you know any wife material girls around here" and he'll help you out, but the job has to be a local Job and you have to work hard and efficiently, you essentially want to be friends with your boss to the extent where he invites you to dinner or something every so often.

Answer 2

slatyb | 5.2K opinions shared on Dating topic.

Master

It's difficult in small towns because the dating pool is small, and it's even smaller when you are in your 30's. You may have to search online. Is it possible for you to move back out? Will your uncle recover?

SirJeffers

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He recovered just fine. I could move out, but not really anywhere to go at the moment. I can't move back to where I was.
slatyb

14 d
If you want to improve your dating prospects you should look for a situation in a city where the residents share your values. Religious skeptics should go the west coast or New England -- men should go east, women should go west.

Answer 3

SirJeffers

He recovered just fine. I could move out, but not really anywhere to go at the moment. I can't move back to where I was.

Answer 4

slatyb

If you want to improve your dating prospects you should look for a situation in a city where the residents share your values. Religious skeptics should go the west coast or New England -- men should go east, women should go west.

Answer 5

Moonlovespirit

Xper 5

You plan on moving away soon? I live in a small town but I’m a complete loner anyhow but I used dating apps in the past. I dated outside the area.

SirJeffers

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Probably not for at least a year or so, but I can't say for certain. I've always been fine being by myself and I'm not just looking to get laid. Just miss having someone to talk to at the end of the day
Moonlovespirit

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I definitely get what you’re saying. I been on girlsaskguys for years now and this is like an outlet for me. It’s impossible to find connections in a small town. It’s best to stay to yourself in small towns to avoid the drama.
SirJeffers

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I agree with you there! And as a recovering addict (over 2 years clean now) I have to be picky with who I do socialize with, and that's not too easy here.
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Moonlovespirit

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Congrats on being sober dude! I definitely agree! Your social tribe will come to you! Not to worry. Enjoy the time being alone because you may never know it’s what you probably need for right now.
SirJeffers

14 d
Thanks! And definitely. Been doing a lot of fishing lol.
Moonlovespirit

14 d
fishing helps definitely! you can try other ideas like learning to play a guitar, keyboard, painting, writing poetry. You can also meditate. these are some of the ideas that I love sharing because they help me out.
SirJeffers

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I've been doing some woodworking and camping also. I just know it would be amazing to have someone to do things with, ya know? Maybe one day. Just gotta let things play out how they will
Moonlovespirit

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yes definitely! I am going horseback riding one day as well, and mountain climbing. wood working and camping is amazing as well. how's camping and wood working going?
SirJeffers

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It's a little cold right now, but I'm trying to plan a big solo trip (maybe a week or two) for next summer. And I work at a woodshop, so it's going good. Lol. I'd do more handmade stuff if I could sell it, but not much luck with that in a small town either.
Moonlovespirit

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you can try fiverr, etsy, ebay, or amazon. I love cold weather! I am also planning a solo trip as well, but wanna go to New York City. A solo trip is always good
SirJeffers

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Shipping would be a nightmare with furniture and things like that, so I couldn't do much with those. Just working on skills for later I guess. I won't be here forever (trying to convince myself of that. Lol) and I might have to stay close to home for my trip, but I'd love to go to Colorado or Canada.
Moonlovespirit

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I love snow but I wanted to visit the snow cabins in Aspen Colorado. Canada is a great place to visit and stay. You gonna enjoy your trip regardless of the destination.

Answer 6

SirJeffers

Probably not for at least a year or so, but I can't say for certain. I've always been fine being by myself and I'm not just looking to get laid. Just miss having someone to talk to at the end of the day

Answer 7

Moonlovespirit

I definitely get what you’re saying. I been on girlsaskguys for years now and this is like an outlet for me. It’s impossible to find connections in a small town. It’s best to stay to yourself in small towns to avoid the drama.

Answer 8

SirJeffers

I agree with you there! And as a recovering addict (over 2 years clean now) I have to be picky with who I do socialize with, and that's not too easy here.

Answer 9

Moonlovespirit

Congrats on being sober dude! I definitely agree! Your social tribe will come to you! Not to worry. Enjoy the time being alone because you may never know it’s what you probably need for right now.

Answer 10

SirJeffers

Thanks! And definitely. Been doing a lot of fishing lol.

Answer 11

Moonlovespirit

fishing helps definitely! you can try other ideas like learning to play a guitar, keyboard, painting, writing poetry. You can also meditate. these are some of the ideas that I love sharing because they help me out.

Answer 12

SirJeffers

I've been doing some woodworking and camping also. I just know it would be amazing to have someone to do things with, ya know? Maybe one day. Just gotta let things play out how they will

Answer 13

Moonlovespirit

yes definitely! I am going horseback riding one day as well, and mountain climbing. wood working and camping is amazing as well. how's camping and wood working going?

Answer 14

SirJeffers

It's a little cold right now, but I'm trying to plan a big solo trip (maybe a week or two) for next summer. And I work at a woodshop, so it's going good. Lol. I'd do more handmade stuff if I could sell it, but not much luck with that in a small town either.

Answer 15

Moonlovespirit

you can try fiverr, etsy, ebay, or amazon. I love cold weather! I am also planning a solo trip as well, but wanna go to New York City. A solo trip is always good

Answer 16

SirJeffers

Shipping would be a nightmare with furniture and things like that, so I couldn't do much with those. Just working on skills for later I guess. I won't be here forever (trying to convince myself of that. Lol) and I might have to stay close to home for my trip, but I'd love to go to Colorado or Canada.

Answer 17

Moonlovespirit

I love snow but I wanted to visit the snow cabins in Aspen Colorado. Canada is a great place to visit and stay. You gonna enjoy your trip regardless of the destination.

Answer 18

Avicenna | 8.2K opinions shared on Dating topic.

Master

How close is the nearest small city of any decent size?

SirJeffers

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Closest one is about 15 minutes, but it sucks. Other than that, between 40-60 minutes away? Not much around here but deer woods and cattle/chicken farms.
Avicenna

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That’s close enough to date (60 minutes). Try that.
Avicenna

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And try Bumble

Answer 19

SirJeffers

Closest one is about 15 minutes, but it sucks. Other than that, between 40-60 minutes away? Not much around here but deer woods and cattle/chicken farms.

Answer 20

Avicenna

That’s close enough to date (60 minutes). Try that.

Answer 21

Avicenna

And try Bumble

Answer 22

ryancg | 301 opinions shared on Dating topic.

Explorer

Just go to a bar, there's nothing people in small towns love more than drinking.

SirJeffers

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I quit drinking a long time ago.

Answer 23

SirJeffers

I quit drinking a long time ago.

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Nikki1989 | 2K opinions shared on Dating topic.

Master

It is almost impossible in a small town.

SirJeffers

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Yeah, that's what I'm afraid of... 😒

Answer 25

SirJeffers

Yeah, that's what I'm afraid of... 😒

Answer 26

Iron_Man | 10.6K opinions shared on Dating topic.

Master

I don’t

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