Can you date internationally during this pandemic?

Question

My long-distance relationship isn't really working out. My boyfriend is putting conditions me becoming a great cook (at expert level) by next year or else he won't come to my country to marry me.

Basically it feels like a death sentence to me. I'm just an average cook that takes longer sometimes but no where near chef level. Can I date other English speakers either from US, UK or Canada (I'm from South America) during this pandemic? I'm looking forward to having a family.

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10 d

This is my traits:
- 33 year-old childless Latina woman
- Faithful
- I've only been with him when we were at the same place (1 man only)... low count
- Average cook that likes learning new things but no where expert level
- Absent-minded at times and somewhat naive in some things
- Lack of street smart
- Live with my parents due to cultural thing and lack of money for an apartment

Answer 1

Anonymous

It should feel like a death sentence. That's fucking crazy.

You can do long-distance dating, but it's not a good idea to travel right now.

Asker

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It is. What he's asking me is way beyond what I can do. I started learning to cook at age 30 through watching google and youtube videos but never actually went to a culinary school to practice. I have no creativity on my dishes (they're just average and I just do what the recipe says), don't know nothing about elaboration, can't memorize every single meal, etc. I can't obtain that level he's asking for just by watching google and youtube. I feel that's not enough. Great chef started young and are natural at it. I started late and was never natural at it.
Asker

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He claims I have the potential but that's too much for me. To get to that level, I'll probably be in my late 30's and it would have to be through years of practice at culinary schools. By then, I won't have a chance to form a family.
I know it's not a good idea to travel now. I was thinking of just online chatting with English speakers. I've been in the USA long ago and like speaking English. I communicate that better than my native Spanish.
Opinion Owner

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It's not even what he's asking that's the crazy part, it's that he's making demands and giving an ultimatum in the first place. Whatever it is, that's just bizarre.
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Asker

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He thinks that his demand is right just because he's a resident and paying a lawyer to work on bringing me to Miami, Fl. He thinks just because he's paying a lot of money on immigration for our case (for him to apply for his US citizenship) and me to come... that he has the right to ask for that.

He keeps saying that all he's asking is for me to be a better cook and that it's so easy, that it's not hard. I've already seen on Gorgon Ramen videos that cooks work under so much pressure that it's not even funny. You gotta do everything perfect.
Asker

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Then again, I work as a agent phone translator (working from home) and he said that the US doesn't care about translator. Ironically the major I graduated in was Tourism, Hotel Management and Culinary Arts but I've never worked on the field. I would like too, but not with that pressure from him.
Opinion Owner

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Mm... He would be getting you in return. If that's not enough, he shouldn't have bothered in the first place. He doesn't own you and his behavior would be a big red flag, for me. A glimpse at how you could expect him to treat you for the rest of your time together. You can do better than him, I think.

Answer 2

Asker

It is. What he's asking me is way beyond what I can do. I started learning to cook at age 30 through watching google and youtube videos but never actually went to a culinary school to practice. I have no creativity on my dishes (they're just average and I just do what the recipe says), don't know nothing about elaboration, can't memorize every single meal, etc. I can't obtain that level he's asking for just by watching google and youtube. I feel that's not enough. Great chef started young and are natural at it. I started late and was never natural at it.

Answer 3

Asker

He claims I have the potential but that's too much for me. To get to that level, I'll probably be in my late 30's and it would have to be through years of practice at culinary schools. By then, I won't have a chance to form a family.
I know it's not a good idea to travel now. I was thinking of just online chatting with English speakers. I've been in the USA long ago and like speaking English. I communicate that better than my native Spanish.

Answer 4

Opinion Owner

It's not even what he's asking that's the crazy part, it's that he's making demands and giving an ultimatum in the first place. Whatever it is, that's just bizarre.

Answer 5

Asker

He thinks that his demand is right just because he's a resident and paying a lawyer to work on bringing me to Miami, Fl. He thinks just because he's paying a lot of money on immigration for our case (for him to apply for his US citizenship) and me to come... that he has the right to ask for that.

He keeps saying that all he's asking is for me to be a better cook and that it's so easy, that it's not hard. I've already seen on Gorgon Ramen videos that cooks work under so much pressure that it's not even funny. You gotta do everything perfect.

Answer 6

Asker

Then again, I work as a agent phone translator (working from home) and he said that the US doesn't care about translator. Ironically the major I graduated in was Tourism, Hotel Management and Culinary Arts but I've never worked on the field. I would like too, but not with that pressure from him.

Answer 7

Opinion Owner

Mm... He would be getting you in return. If that's not enough, he shouldn't have bothered in the first place. He doesn't own you and his behavior would be a big red flag, for me. A glimpse at how you could expect him to treat you for the rest of your time together. You can do better than him, I think.

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