I was told that Hinge is for serious relationships but never signed up.
How can a 21 year old man look for women for serious relationships?

I was told that Hinge is for serious relationships but never signed up.
- You can look but there's no guarantee you can find it once you understand that the vast majority of relationships today aren't serious even if ONE of the people in the relationship thinks it is. To have a true serious relationship you need both people to be loyal. I guess something to help you would be if you pay close attention to a woman's character... if she thinks it's okay to 'date' 5 guys at the same time beware. If she breaks promises all the time: beware. Get good at listening and watching. One trick they use is to find out what you want and then pretend to be that thing. Don't tell them everything. Watch & learn what they're really about.
That said... to some degree women act a certain way based on the man they're with too. She could be loyal to you and not to another guy. Still your odds of success are higher with the one who lives a consistent life! See my MyTakes too. Some think my ideas on how to be a Better Man or a Lady have too many requirements but then they're the same people who just can't live up to the ideal set out. Still it may give you some ideas.0|10|0Is this still revelant?Ohk.
So I get your point.
Let us take the example of dating apps. If I mention about it in my bio, do you think that they will be interested in me too?
But then I will be thought of as too needy!
Ugh!
How absurd and toxic mental gymnastics today's dating scene has man.
I wish the tradtional courtship and sex for marriage only norm comes back for good.
One sex partner for life is so beautiful honestly.The best time for you to find a loyal woman is when you're younger. It gets harder the older you get. Not impossible. Just more stuff to wade through. Besides, loyal people aren't on the market often since they aren't constantly looking to jump ship.
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- If you are looking for a good girl, then you will find her in a place good girls go. That’s not gonna be the clubs or parties. It’ll be the library and organizations if you’re in college. They will be in places that benefit their future.
I’m a dating advisor and life coach as well. I wouldn’t advise someone that “the one” is in the club, unless you yourself enjoys the club and bar scene. But if not, go to places you enjoy, and eventually you’ll come across a young lady that enjoys your hobbies too.
There are still good women out there and men too. They are just overshadowed by the loudness of everyone else. Put yourself out there and make yourself more visible and they’ll be able to find you.
Glad to be of assistance! Send me a follow and reach out if you need more info! Linktr. ee/BigHomieNasty0|10|0Is this still revelant?Yes that’s no problem. I’m just starting up my coaching business so I’m not super popular. But the wisdom I give comes from my experiences and studies as well as my own wins and losses. But I’d be more than happy to give a free consultation that will be specifically designed for you as an individual, instead of generic information.
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- I'm just starting using Hinge and hasn't got any luck with and think is going to hit or miss. I met guys that just want to have sex or short term relationship. other men that looking for long term go too fast soon. I do not like seem they don't want to get know me as person not as attractive women0|10|0Is this still revelant?
Hey.. how are you?
Thanks for replying.
Too fast soon as in?
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Also about the "getting to know you part", after how many dates is it confirmed that both of them are exclusive?
Regarding the sex and the short term relationships part, that is what the dating gurus have been telling me.
Even their books say the same thing.
But I don't find it healthy for my psyche.. at least wait until it is official... maybe I am too old fashioned... I don't know.
going too fast saying love you and already asking me out but still in COVID-19 times. I am not on any date at all. i just using to see or find a man with a learning disability. some men just want sex and fun. I am want a serious long term relationship and been equal in relationship and not one-sided
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Damn!
How slow do you want this to be?🤣
Anyways, I hope you get the guy you want.
Good day!
- Are you in college? I would try clubs if you were. Do you have family friends? Maybe they could set you up.0|10|0Is this still revelant?
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Try to not follow her around or change classes to be in the same class as her. Don't ask for her number right away. Just get comfortable seeing her at the clubs for a while.
Got it.
Thanks for your help.
Any universally unattractive traits in men from the female side would be appreciated if you don't mind.😗
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010- If you want to find serious women, you can find them everywhere but it's easier if you date a country girl or a religious girl, they usually are serious.0|10|0
- Yeah it should be exclusive for serious relationships. Ah shit, that goes against something I’ve created. But I do have her promise that she only she fucks Aima, she and he are like side main characters. It’s actually gonna be her New Years resolution. Lol.0|00|0
- You have the right idea as far as wanting a relationship. But it will probably take some time to find someone compatible who equally serious.0|10|0
Meeting someone can be completely random, so no one knows. Most women in their 20s aren’t that serious about relationships.
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So how do I not come across as "the loser who is waiting for the one" while men my age are at like crazy?
Also do my preferences not matter at all in women?
The world tells to me that I should be grateful that she even looked at me.
- No place for serious relationships in this world my friend, Stay strong it's tough out there.0|10|0
Hey.. thanks for replying.
Don't want to sound desperate but that reality is so lonely isn't it?- Show All Show Less
Because I had an entrance exam to crack.
In my country there is an entrance exam which is held once a year and you gotta ace it.
Seats are limited.
They all went ahead in terms of their college and life.
I was stuck.Yes... that is what I am doing one by one.
But most of them have their own friends now. You would know the connection weakens after a couple of years without contact.Nah, you can get them back just don't make them feel nostalgic by talking about old memories or even life problems well at least at first but if you call them while being postive they will be like oh this guy has grown and he's cool now.😎
Haha... yeah buddy.
That is what I am expecting now.
Do you recommend any genuine dating apps for hookups/ONS/friends with benefits?
I mean yes I posted this answer for a serious relationship but can't go on abstinent at this age though.
Ik Tinder but it is all about pictures and photogenic people.
All i can say that online dating ups are only meant for hook ups and if somebody finds a relationship in there it won't last.
More like the concept of dating is a flop.
Ik I am sounding very contradictory but it is.
After I became 21, I thought to myself that I should have experience too because if she isn't waiting for me, why should I?
People before 1960s had it so much better.
One sex partner for life!
Then Sexual Revolution came along and bam!I agree but keep it positive if you think like this then there is a lot more girls who think the same and value commitment as you.
Is it?
I mean if there are girls who think like me then I don't think it is appropriate for me to go what I am thinking right now.
How about you?
Man I wish we could talk on DM but my current form of membership doesn't allow me to.
Maybe one day.
Yeah, avoid online dating build yourself and someday will bump into a girl you never thought existed. And she will love you for who you are and what you are capable of accomplishing. Hook up are shallow. They judge and talk behind your back. They don't have feelings into it so they never sacrifice. Yeah i can't Dm too i'm new here
I agree with that one day I will bump into a girl but what if she has a past I don't agree with or say, those aren't my values?
Most people today make it sound like men's preferences don't matter and they should be glad that at least she told you the truth.
Entitlement in that segment is really awful these days.
- Id say yes, however people change a lot in their 20s. Early 20s I wouldn't pursue it but if it happens, roll with it.0|10|0
Hey!
Thanks for your reply.
So are we saying the same "girls have their fun in their early 20s and then find a nice guy to settle down in their late 20s" thing?
- I dunno, you buy them with a dowry? Aren't those the rules where you live? You pay money and than put a small sticker on their foreheads to mark they're yours?0|00|0
- What’s your idea of a serious relationship?0|10|0
A relationship which starts out as a physical date after meeting online or in person. Then if compatible along with chemistry, meet for more 2-3 dates and then get the indirect confirmation that we both are exclusive.
Then after some years together, being part of each other's highs and lows... get married one day.Your best bet is to meet in person. In order to do that it becomes a numbers game. You need to start approaching girls who you are attracted to and strike up conversations. Some will go ok, others may reject you. But that’s your first course of action and do that until you find someone to ask for a first date.
by the way after a few dates it’s not indirect confirmation.. you ask her to be your girlfriend. Make it direct and intentional
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Yes, don’t go in with a goal. If you say to yourself ‘I’m going to get her phone number’ before waking up to her then you already lost. The key is to have no goals, just be in the moment and enjoy the conversation. Don’t chat for more than 10 minutes then go away. If you felt good you could ask for her contact info before you walk away or even more powerful is walking away.
Ok.
Thanks for your help.
Just don't to come across a rude/creep while approaching.
Got to learn that with practice I guess.Exactly. With practice you will gain confidence. Actually the creep is the guy who stares at her and doesn’t come and say hi. Girls are very perceptive and they know when a new guy likes how they look. But if that guy doesn’t come up to them it starts to feel creepy because he isn’t being authentic.
Another thing to keep in mind is that girls feel just as insecure as guys. If she’s out at a bar or hanging out she is thinking about 100 things wrong with her and why guys are not approaching her. So you being bold and actually coming up to meet her is the opposite of rude.Well David whatever you wrote here is absolutely spot on.
Just recently I came to know that "girls can feel the aura around a man about what he wants and in what light he sees her".
Thanks for your help once again.
Hope to see you around here.
- Maybe on a Marriage site.0|10|0
Well, your question sounds like you're really looking for a serious relationship. And looking for it on a dating site isn't a 100% guarantee.
That's why I said this.I thought that is what dating is right?
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Well, marriage websites work in a similar manner, if you haven't explored any yet.
Haha.. no.
But I had come across an answer on Quora long time back where a man said that some women use matrimonial sites as Tinder.
Don't know whom to trust.Lol, I guess then you need to wait for the right time bro.
They say "don't buy a tata nano just because you want to get a car, wait for Mercedes"@Yash_08 You wrote, "a man said that some women use matrimonial sites as Tinder." -- 99% of women lie about what they want. If she says she wants casual she's an actual street hooker looking for cash. If she says she wants serious, she wants casual. If she says she wants marriage she wants casual or serious. See the pattern? But they also don't know what they want till they have it in many cases too. The 'cool' part is that she can be in casual with 5 dudes for fun while acting like she's a nun with you because you're a higher quality catch compared to her other guys.
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Hey buddy.. thanks for replying.
Well if we go by what you say I am worried of even landing a serious girlfriend.. let alone a wife.
Plus a body count of 5?🤨
I mean I am worried because if I don't "accept her the way she is"... I am a misogynist, sexist pig.
Damn what this culture has come to.
Do men's preferences don't matter?
- Have you ever been in a relationship?0|10|0
Toh bhai pehele date kar kisi ko baki khud experience aa jayega ki log sex ko kyu preference de rahe hai
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