Do you think the guy is desperate when you never met him irl but he asked you to be his girlfriend online?

[SoulSkyFlare]

Depends on the situation.

I've been in a long relationship with a girl who lived on the other side of the world. We developed feelings for each other in the meantime, plus we had enough video calls and the like to know the both of us really were who we said we are and that no catfishing was involved. To cut it short, we both agreed that it would meet when we could but since we knew what we felt for each other already, we decided to start the relationship online. I've also met many folks in a similar situation.

But if some guy who lives relatively close to you immediately asks you to be his girlfriend shortly after meeting you online and never actually meeting you in person, well, not a good sign.

[Adam1978]

Yeah he wants to tie you up emotionally before you meet him to reduce that you reject him in person when you see who he really are.

[JuliaStyles]

My question is why would you be on line looking for a boyfriend? I can't imagine why people think they need some boyfriend/girlfriend on line, or like a long distance relationship. That seems kind of lame to me. Like why do you think a bird in the bush is better than a bird in the hand? Like are these people they are conversing with online some kind of social misfits that they can't meet someone in real time and at home? Are they married or in a relationship and just wanting someone on the side for sexting, or other sexual actions? Some people do meet others on line but most don't.

[Anonymous]

Did he get attached too soon? Did you guys just started talking? If you were just starting to talk to each other and he's already talking about marriage and babies it seems pretty weird. It's as if he's already tying you down even tho you guys haven't met each other irl. If you don't like what he's saying or doing let him know immediately so that he wouldn't get his hopes up about having babies with you lol

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

Desperate? Or just dillusiional about what it takes to know you're really ready to be with someone, or what love really is? People disagree with me all the time, but if you've never met IRL had real in person interaction, I don't believe you can base a relationship, much less a marriage or family off just that...

[araeyahlove]

uhhh yeah thats pretty desperate. i mean its him getting attached quick. i;ve had personal expeirence with a dude getting mad cause i posted sum about me being single and looking even tho i talked to him earlier that day about a relationship. that one time and he decided yeah she's the one like nah

[KBird]

I mean... he's excited, which is a good sign. Maybe he hasn't dated in a long time, he isn't great at it, or he really likes the idea of you, (or all of the above). This would definitely be a red flag for me, since you two haven't met in real life yet. I would tell him that you want to take things slow, see how he responds, and meet him in person. If he doesn't 'calm' down after that, and is still intense then I would reconsider.

[Peanut127]

Hun, ur still to young. At ur age? That's just creepy lol. Me? I met my man/boyfriend on gag. Why haven't we met yet? He's in the US military as a humanitarian security guard. He's still over seas but we're adults who talk everyday, send pics etc.

Yea, the virus poses an issue to meet irl but u best talk few months more till u can figure out if u trust him. If he can't wait? Then he's not worth ur time..

[Nick568]

Depends how serious. If he's just wanting to talk to you online before meeting then I think that's fine (especially during the pandemic when a lot of us can't leave our bubble).

But if he wants a serious relationship before meeting in person then that's super desperate and sad.

[jasco]

I mean long distance relationships are uncommon by all means. So why would it be a red flag if someone ask you out online. However i do agree that talking about marriage and kids online is a bit much. But dating online isn't bad, i still feel like they should meet up tho just so you know she isn't a catfish

[MecheD]

Well being honest depends on the length of conversation as well as how revealing you two were in conversation but besides that he may have just fell in love with your mind. Which is almost unheard of these days honestly

[Smoke-n-Growls]

I'm childfree, so him wanting kids is already grounds for a break up. Neither of us would be happy long-term.

I'd say it depends. Is there a reason he's conversing online versus in person or by video call? Do these conversations usually happen by text?

I know a few couples who prefer to have serious conversations by text so they can take time to formulate what they really mean. It works really well for them.

[BCA6010]

Dating isn't that weird (there's an entire industry built on that concept) but already talking about marriage and kids is pretty absurd in a serious context...

[Hangry22]

When you put it that way, it sounds pathetic.
Only the people involved in such a relationship can judge if that is nonsense or not since only they know the depth of their love

[curiousscorpio89]

I would need more context to give you an opinion on whether I think he's desperate. Specifics matter to me on a question like this.

[Anonymous]

depend on the kind of relationship tbh, did you establish that you like each other or did he just asked you this out of no where?
1 - Usually if you really like each other or you love each other it's normal for him to be want to start a relationship with you and plan things with you. those relation are called "long distance relationship"
2 - but, if he start talking about marriage/babies without establishing that you like/love each other, yeah that's really weird and creepy.

[msyilidzz]

Sounds desperate
but if somebody ask you to be their girlfriend or boyfriend only it might not always be legit.
They might be trying to scam you so be careful.

[winterfox10]

I wouldn't feel that way if a woman said the same things to me online. Meeting people online is good because you get to have conversations like that a bit more boldly.

[Darcia]

Depends how long y’all have talked for if it’s just 1 day or 1 month. Then yes, he is desperate.

[thimmslicc]

Yeah too desperate because you need to see him in person.

[Avicenna]

Yeah, but it can also be that he just thinks he’s found a soulmate and is overeager.

[AmeerX]

If that were true then all man are desperate. No obviously that isn't true

[r_r_g]

What difference does it make? EVERYONE is now desperate - it's covid, DC unrest, brexit, bad economy, isolation.

[Cherokeehp]

Yeah, sounds pretty desperate