Do you feel that dating should be something very special?

[SueShe]

Dating should be something special, at least the very first date.

Unfortunately, nowadays, a date is nothing more than a compatibility exercise to determine how quickly people can become intimate. The main purpose to know each other before anything happening is long gone.

Mainly for guys, if a girl does not agree to get intimate after the first date, it usually ends there. Not always but in the majority of the cases.

Whatever you do, do not let yourself be dragged into something you don't want or are not ready yet. Guys are trying to push girls to be "cool" and to move straight to the intimate part. Even kissing on a first date does not have to be. A first date is a time when you get to know the potential boyfriend and not the time for him to try you out and to discard you if he does not like "it".

[zerifer]

I feel like I can relate to this, at least a little.

If you dont actually have any special feelings for him, it is going to be very hard for the both of you down the line. I understand, after reading a few replies, that you seem to be in a lose-lose situation: if you had said no, you'd lose his friendship. On the flip side, if you don't have any romantic feelings towards him, you will be unhappy and at some point, will need to exit the relationship, which will make him withdraw from you with the same result.

In my opinion, though, that doesn't seem like he values the friendship itself.

[MrStitch]

Dating a best-friend can be both a blessing and a curse as it can swing both ways. In your case I think you firmly see him simply as more platonic deep down as romantic - hence why perhaps your first kiss was not as expected. I would recommend you be honest with him about your feelings, it will hurt him but is unavoidable.

[0112358]

It doesn't have to be. Sometimes it becomes 'very special' and sometimes it doesn't. However there should be some spark... that's... why you date in the first place.

I mean, are you attracted to this guy, or is he just someone you like as a friend?

[btbc92]

That's why you date a friend because you don't want anything shallow. But you have to be compatible way before you think about dating. If no marriage, or thoughts of a long life together is talked about, forget it. It would just cause more disappointments and hurts. If you based on your liking him on feelings, then no. You don't. And firstly don't kiss him at all. If you know you are not being serious, you shouldn't be dating him. Period. I think what your doing is a mistake. Just tell him no. You can't keep him if he doesn't want to be kept. This sounds like manipulation and all wrong.

[anewme]

Yes I feel dating is very special... picky just me... but first kiss at 18... I don't know... i think you should have practiced or now with a few "" girlfriends to open you up to it... i was 7th grade... i didn't feel anything either too much... i liked but she wasn't really into it or me too much... her older girlfriend liked me but i didn't like her really... so she did it to shut her older girlfriend up and i guess give us all something to talk about lol...

[chriscdi]

normally it should be something more special than friends thats for sure

[slick72]

Depends on what's going on in your life at the time I think, if it's not working get to the next one.

[Anonymous]

“So yesterday I agreed to date someone that I don't know if I like yet”




And people wonder why divorce rates are so high.

[Skankhunt]

Dating should be something special

[Anonymous]

Yes, it should be.

[Anonymous]

You may be a lesbian