- Do you mean physically attracted to? Or not attracted to, at all?
Because the city I grew up in (Philadelphia), almost NO ONE was attractive looking. At all. Literally; only on college campuses where the girls came from out of state, would you find anyone even remotely good looking, and they were usually 6's and 7's. A "5" anywhere else is a "Philly 10." On top of that, most people in that toilet of a city are undateable trash. Just low IQ, sh*tty garbage with horrendous personalities. Most of the people I've dated came from out of state.
So yes, I've dated girls I weren't physically attracted to or considered attractive looking at all because I enjoyed their personalities and they were fun to be around. None of them were legit ugly though; like a 3 or less. They were in the standard 4 to 5 ranges (Philly 8's and 9's). I wasn't physically attracted to them. But their personalities won me over.
But in regards to dating someone I had NO attraction to, at all? Like for money or a green card or something? No. That's pretty horrible. I wouldn't use people like that.0|00|0Is this still revelant?
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- I have been in a relationship in which my attraction grew as I got to know the lady, so a lack of strong attraction will not stop me from asking a lady for a date if everything else about her suggests that she would be a good companion for me. And I will date her a few times to see if my attraction starts to develop. Of course, if I find her particularly unattractive, I will not even consider her as a potential date.2|00|1Is this still revelant?
If this is possible I think it’s great. But never in my life has my physical attraction grown for someone. My respect and emotional attraction has grown for some women. But for most people either the spark is there or it’s not.
@Schizoaffective this is more possible for females than males to feel this way. Men are definitely more visually oriented. I admit it’s shallow but it’s built into us.
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@guesswhoseback well I can't speak of you men 🤷🏿♀️
I only speak of what I personally experience.@Schizoaffective well I speak from observations and my own personal experiences. I don’t expect a supermodel or anything. I expect someone comparatively attractive if that makes sense. I’m in very good shape for my age and got all my hair. I don’t expect some supermodel 19 year old but if I got an in shape 33 yr old that’s different.
@guesswhoseback I usually find that guys in my circle prefer fuller females than the athletic fit type.
But more often than not, guys that usually follow the same lifestyle as me tend to prefer my shape.@guesswhoseback Man, when I was your age, my comment would have been identical to yours. The attraction-developing-over-time thing has "just" developed over the past 15 years.
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- Ofcauce that's what relationship is all about , the relationship will grow, and you become more in love learn eachother better , and as nothing is less important than physical features , I don't need to be attracted to a guy to love him. But must admit height is important to me, I would hate to date a guy tall, I'm very tall myself and would feel like an asshole dating another tall person , and I never felt tall men were sexy either so I must admit , my guy need to be only avarage height, vid like to feel big and in charge0|00|0Is this still revelant?
- No I would never date someone who i have no physical attraction to whatsoever because I would not like someone to be with me who felt that way. You don't have to think im the hottest girl in the world. Just not think im ugly and make me feel worse about how I look and feel because your partner is supposed to be your better half and make you feel good about yourself and be happy your alive.0|00|0Is this still revelant?
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4269- I did once. Because I believe that looks fade away leaving the true soul. It might sound idiotic but in 50 years, you'll want a friend by your side, not a former top model..0|10|0
- That's like asking if I would drive a car with an empty gas tank. Doesn't work that way.
That doesn't mean YOUR definition of attractive is the same as mine. Women often have no clue about what men find attractive.. outside of a few very superficial ideas.0|00|0 - That doesn't make sense to me. If someone set me up on a blind date, and I wasn't attracted to them I would be respectful so long as the person wasn't mean. But I wouldn't allow things to go beyond that point. I'd politely decline any attempts for further communication. These days people just want adds to their social media and since I don't do that it's a waste of time0|00|0
- Depends on how you define date.
I wouldn't start something serious with her that's for sure but if I happen to have a good vibe going with someone not too attractive in my taste I would just drain the good feeling. Spend some time together but with no promises of a future0|00|0 - I'm considering attraction here as an overall attraction based on both looks and personality.
Naturally it'll have to be someone I personally find attractive irrespective of what others percieve her as. If I like her, nothing else matter, otherwise nope.0|00|0 - It only depends on if there is commonality, belief in the same things, and they have confidence. Though, I would be good friends with them if I wasn't attracted to them. In short, I think if you aren't attracted to them, then you aren't. Nothing wrong with that.0|00|0
- Wow... as I write this it's an exact 80% yes 20% no tie with both girls and guys.
12 girls yes, 12 guys yes
3 girls no, 3 guys no
You don't see that often.
I'm a no.
I think 100% of people would not date someone they were not attracted to. You have to assume the person who posted the question meant to say PHYSICALLY attracted to.0|00|0 - No, there must and needs to have mutual attraction physically just as much as characteristic traits. It’s not really fair to a partner if there isn’t that attraction. Something will be missing and it may bring down the relationship long-term.0|00|0
- I don't see the point, it's just wasting someone's time cause they could really be into you or even fallen in love wit you at some point while you're not into them. It's not fair to string someone and their heart along.0|00|0
- Anonymous3 dIf I thought they were completely ugly I wouldn't. But it's rare for me to find someone completely unattractive. But I wouldn't go for someone just based on looks. Personality is what actually matters. They could be very attractive but have a ugly personality and that becomes a turn off real fast0|00|0
- I have tried it. It wasn like I wasn't attracted to her physically, as she stated she was working on something's. A trying person is always more attractive than one who Isn't... to me at least. Later down the road it became her personality I grew disgusted by. I felt like she was this type before and my suspicions were right. That was 5 months wasted. Long story short. Don't do it.0|00|0
- Actually I did for about a year when I was in my mid-thirties. She was such a pleasant lady and we did a lot of things together. Just no romance. I wasn't attracted to her really. After so long I suspect that she felt a bit let down. Anyway I run into her occasionally and things are fine.1|00|0
- If there's a guy I know is decent in other areas (good personality, intelligent, knows how to talk, etc) of course I would give him the chance to get to know him. Maybe a few dates. Then I would decide.
But so far, no, none of those dates progressed into something more.1|00|0 - Never underestimate the power of mental connection. I’ve crushed harder on guys I didn’t find attractive at first because of conversation, and the complete opposite with good looking guys.0|00|0
- No, I wouldn't. Attraction plays an important role to me when to choosing someone to date. I need to be attracted in order to want to know someone better.0|00|0
- I have dated guys I was not attracted to B cos I know that there is more to dating then just their looks ! I was not attracted to their personality either so I ended dating them altogether ! thanks0|00|0
- No and you shouldn't feel obligated to. Just because you don't find them attractive doesn't mean someone els won't. Being attracted to someone should be a given when deciding to date.0|00|0
- If I am not attracted to them that means they aren't good looking and I don't want to date a girl that doesn't look good, its a bit shallow of me but I want to enjoy my relationship not dread it.0|00|0
- Things can happen. You might date someone you’re not attracted to and you can end up lovers especially if they have a great personality.
Sometimes you can date someone you’re attracted to and it can end up a disaster.0|00|0 - No. I have to be somewhat attracted to them. However, I think my standards on physical appearance are reasonable.0|00|0
- Geneva Hicks and Nancy Hernandez I came inside both of them nope no children with them thank God they were friends with benefits with the full girlfriend experience0|00|0
- Yes and I will tell you why.
For me it's all about the connection.
A lot of the people I fell for eventually, I didn't find particularly attractive at first.
But once I get to know the person and we click, they instantly become very sexy to me 😂0|10|0 - I have three times the longest it lasted was 2 months0|00|0
- I see absolutely no point in wasting time... Life's too short as it is.0|00|0
- Anonymous2 dIf you mean physical attraction, then yes. I dated a guy who I didn't find attractive, but we had a lot of things in common and he is a fun guy. Although things didn't work out between us, I didn't turn him down because of lacking physical attraction. We are still friends.0|00|0
- No. I would be miserable, and it wouldn't be fair to her.0|00|0
- I have. It never goes well. I wouldn’t do it again.0|00|0
- No, because it would be pointless.
Also, if I did not like what I saw, I would not be motivated to approach.0|00|0 - The purpose of a date is to move a relationship along, so why date if there is no future intent?0|00|0
- I wasn't initially attracted to the girl (wasn't bad looking but not the best) but after getting to know her better cinda changed my prespective.
Guess its the personality beats looks but after a while you see your partner as more attractive.0|00|0 - Maybe if there was something she could and was in the process of doing to change that. Like working out or getting tattoos removed.0|00|0
- Yes. But I would draw a hot face on the paper bag.1|10|0
- Yes because I have no other options, no decent or average girl is gonna date an ugly guy like me.
Only girls below average that I find unnatracitive would date me, and since I’m desperate for love from a girl... I wouldn’t be really bothered if she doesn’t look the best, I’d still take her... aslong as she isn’t above 48 years...
Beggars can’t be choosers,1|00|0 - If i wasn't physically attracted to them i would date them if i was mentally attracted to them someone could be butt ugly but have the best personality to be with.1|00|0
- No, what's the point? Seems to me that would be defeating the purpose of dating someone.0|00|0
- What the heck? Why? That would be so dumb and unhealthy. It would make both of us miserable.0|00|0
- Under select conditions, yes.
If my formerly pretty partner gets her face burnt, I'm not going to leave.0|00|0 - The poll results and ladies comments prove that women are more shallow then men. Finally they admitted!0|00|0
at the time there are 84 men that answered and 51 women that answered. 23.8% of the men that answered said that they wouldn't date someone they were physically attracted to as to the 19.6% of women that answered the same. it seems men are more shallow than women are. finally they admitted!
@___nik and @asker nope honey. The point here is that ladies would say they are not shallow (so it should be 0% but lets take it less than <10% including some exceptions). But poll shows a totally different result so most ladies do are shallow. And also by reading their opinions, they sound very shallow. This is what I meant by finally they admitted. Lets not discuss guys at the moment bc we both admit they are shallow so they don't come in this debate. So the conclusion is that:
1. The claim that ladies would make is totally wrong.
2. Guys are not shallower bc the difference in percentage is not significant.- Show All Show Less
"Lets not discuss guys at the moment bc we both admit they are shallow so they don't come in this debate. "
You didn't read it properly, honey.@Alex_988_2 imagine having such low intelligence that you make a generalization about 3.8 billion people just because a couple women in your life said they aren't shallow and then proceed to ignore biological evidence that men are shallower than women because of how their brains are wired, and THEN proceeding to ignore the data given by this poll (which now says that 17% of women care more about physical attractiveness, which is lower than the 22% of men that chose the same) because you believe that when a couple women said they aren't shallow, you thought they meant 0% of the worlds female population is shallow. couldn't be me.
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@alex_988_2 Arh sorry, my phone cut that part out, I can see it on my computer. Maybe in your experiences many women say that they're not shallow. But as ___nik said, when they say that they're not talking about the entire population. Besides the point that you were trying to make in your first comment, was not that women are shallow. It was that women are more shallow THAN men, and that is not what you're trying to prove in the comments that follow. Saying that you are not shallow, does not make you more shallow just like saying you are "not smart" doesn't make you smarter. Besides this small poll is only a reflection of what G@G users have to say. Not the entirety of the worlds population.
All I'm trying to say is women are shallow (or may be shallower than men) too. Opposite of the claim they used to make that they are not shallow.
At that time polls of women were more than guys. Anyway in my second comment, I said women are shallow too. This is what they have admitted. Got it?
I do agree there was some confusion but I cleared it in second comment
- I'd go on a date with a girl I wasn't attracted to if I found her interesting, I wouldn't date her long term though.0|00|0
- Yeah sure as long as she has a beautiful heart that is what matters. The girl i was crazy for in elementary school wasn't a model but she had a pretty heart damn i was so impressed by her. Good times.0|00|0
- Anonymous3 dI think I’ma little too attracted to my husband. Trying to do him right now. Lol!!! Jk...0|00|0
- I don't think they have to be your dream person lookwise but something about them has to create an intense pull whether its their look , intelligence or personality.0|00|0
- I wouldn't date someone I wasn't attracted to physically/sexually.0|00|0
- Of course. How would else get to know her? Maybe she is amazing0|00|0
- I think I would try just to see how things play out0|00|0
- No, you gotta be attracted to them in some way; looks or personality. If there's nothing there, what's the point?1|00|0
- ugly girls need to get laid too I am the dirty double D I have been with many ugly girls their more grateful0|00|0
- Anonymous3 dMy girlfriend said she doesn't find me attractive at all. Yesterday she called me cute. I think that bitch is crazy. Don't tell her I said that.0|00|0
- Simply because every vulva is beautiful. but guys.. no0|00|0
- Why would i... um no. I did, got really grossed out and it didn't last, just wasn't my thing.1|10|0
- That depends if I was desperate I remember dating a creepy Italian girl 8-9 years ago when I was 15 I think I was desperate at the time.0|00|0
- Literally, why would anybody do that. No attraction? Why in a relationship then? For obliging them? Nonsense.0|00|0
- Because I have learned now that attraction can develop through genuine relationships. Through becoming fond of the other person.0|00|0
- I'm going to lay down a secret that you will blow your mind away:
Attraction is not a choice.1|20|0 - Kinda defeat the purpose doesn't it?
Maybe you could get away with FWBs.0|00|0 - No I wouldn't. That would be a waste of both of our time.1|00|0
- Of course. How will i know if i like a girl unless i get to get to know her?0|00|1
- I guess it can go both ways. You can date someone you like and they're not that into you.0|00|0
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