Would you date someone you weren't attracted to?

[MCheetah]

Do you mean physically attracted to? Or not attracted to, at all?

Because the city I grew up in (Philadelphia), almost NO ONE was attractive looking. At all. Literally; only on college campuses where the girls came from out of state, would you find anyone even remotely good looking, and they were usually 6's and 7's. A "5" anywhere else is a "Philly 10." On top of that, most people in that toilet of a city are undateable trash. Just low IQ, sh*tty garbage with horrendous personalities. Most of the people I've dated came from out of state.

So yes, I've dated girls I weren't physically attracted to or considered attractive looking at all because I enjoyed their personalities and they were fun to be around. None of them were legit ugly though; like a 3 or less. They were in the standard 4 to 5 ranges (Philly 8's and 9's). I wasn't physically attracted to them. But their personalities won me over.

But in regards to dating someone I had NO attraction to, at all? Like for money or a green card or something? No. That's pretty horrible. I wouldn't use people like that.

[OlderAndWiser]

I have been in a relationship in which my attraction grew as I got to know the lady, so a lack of strong attraction will not stop me from asking a lady for a date if everything else about her suggests that she would be a good companion for me. And I will date her a few times to see if my attraction starts to develop. Of course, if I find her particularly unattractive, I will not even consider her as a potential date.

[Petra150]

Ofcauce that's what relationship is all about , the relationship will grow, and you become more in love learn eachother better , and as nothing is less important than physical features , I don't need to be attracted to a guy to love him. But must admit height is important to me, I would hate to date a guy tall, I'm very tall myself and would feel like an asshole dating another tall person , and I never felt tall men were sexy either so I must admit , my guy need to be only avarage height, vid like to feel big and in charge

[Skiiitles]

No I would never date someone who i have no physical attraction to whatsoever because I would not like someone to be with me who felt that way. You don't have to think im the hottest girl in the world. Just not think im ugly and make me feel worse about how I look and feel because your partner is supposed to be your better half and make you feel good about yourself and be happy your alive.

[Desconhecida]

I did once. Because I believe that looks fade away leaving the true soul. It might sound idiotic but in 50 years, you'll want a friend by your side, not a former top model..

[hahahmm]

That's like asking if I would drive a car with an empty gas tank. Doesn't work that way.

That doesn't mean YOUR definition of attractive is the same as mine. Women often have no clue about what men find attractive.. outside of a few very superficial ideas.

[lilyanony1]

That doesn't make sense to me. If someone set me up on a blind date, and I wasn't attracted to them I would be respectful so long as the person wasn't mean. But I wouldn't allow things to go beyond that point. I'd politely decline any attempts for further communication. These days people just want adds to their social media and since I don't do that it's a waste of time

[ZackBan]

Depends on how you define date.
I wouldn't start something serious with her that's for sure but if I happen to have a good vibe going with someone not too attractive in my taste I would just drain the good feeling. Spend some time together but with no promises of a future

[AdithyaR]

I'm considering attraction here as an overall attraction based on both looks and personality.
Naturally it'll have to be someone I personally find attractive irrespective of what others percieve her as. If I like her, nothing else matter, otherwise nope.

[JakeS00]

It only depends on if there is commonality, belief in the same things, and they have confidence. Though, I would be good friends with them if I wasn't attracted to them. In short, I think if you aren't attracted to them, then you aren't. Nothing wrong with that.

[RingOfFire]

Wow... as I write this it's an exact 80% yes 20% no tie with both girls and guys.

12 girls yes, 12 guys yes

3 girls no, 3 guys no

You don't see that often.

I'm a no.

I think 100% of people would not date someone they were not attracted to. You have to assume the person who posted the question meant to say PHYSICALLY attracted to.

[bobalife]

No, there must and needs to have mutual attraction physically just as much as characteristic traits. It’s not really fair to a partner if there isn’t that attraction. Something will be missing and it may bring down the relationship long-term.

[BlueScorpio]

I don't see the point, it's just wasting someone's time cause they could really be into you or even fallen in love wit you at some point while you're not into them. It's not fair to string someone and their heart along.

[Anonymous]

If I thought they were completely ugly I wouldn't. But it's rare for me to find someone completely unattractive. But I wouldn't go for someone just based on looks. Personality is what actually matters. They could be very attractive but have a ugly personality and that becomes a turn off real fast

[Synikal]

I have tried it. It wasn like I wasn't attracted to her physically, as she stated she was working on something's. A trying person is always more attractive than one who Isn't... to me at least. Later down the road it became her personality I grew disgusted by. I felt like she was this type before and my suspicions were right. That was 5 months wasted. Long story short. Don't do it.

[ArrowheadSW]

Actually I did for about a year when I was in my mid-thirties. She was such a pleasant lady and we did a lot of things together. Just no romance. I wasn't attracted to her really. After so long I suspect that she felt a bit let down. Anyway I run into her occasionally and things are fine.

[Saville_Row]

If there's a guy I know is decent in other areas (good personality, intelligent, knows how to talk, etc) of course I would give him the chance to get to know him. Maybe a few dates. Then I would decide.

But so far, no, none of those dates progressed into something more.

[On_cloud_wine]

Never underestimate the power of mental connection. I’ve crushed harder on guys I didn’t find attractive at first because of conversation, and the complete opposite with good looking guys.

[menina]

No, I wouldn't. Attraction plays an important role to me when to choosing someone to date. I need to be attracted in order to want to know someone better.

[MissDawn7961]

I have dated guys I was not attracted to B cos I know that there is more to dating then just their looks ! I was not attracted to their personality either so I ended dating them altogether ! thanks

[RawIronhide]

No and you shouldn't feel obligated to. Just because you don't find them attractive doesn't mean someone els won't. Being attracted to someone should be a given when deciding to date.

[WesBrewer]

If I am not attracted to them that means they aren't good looking and I don't want to date a girl that doesn't look good, its a bit shallow of me but I want to enjoy my relationship not dread it.

[yofuknutz]

Geneva Hicks and Nancy Hernandez I came inside both of them nope no children with them thank God they were friends with benefits with the full girlfriend experience

[Egirl28]

I don't think they have to be your dream person lookwise but something about them has to create an intense pull whether its their look , intelligence or personality.