Do you have to have sex with someone before you can decide if you want to be in a relationship with them?

Question

I've heard how some people want to see if there's compatibility in the sheets before dating her. Is this generally the case in modern dating?

Answer 1

0112358 | 3.8K opinions shared on Dating topic.

Master

I could attempt a relationship with them and then start being sexual, but it would be important to understand that if we rapidly find out we weren't sexually compatible, the relationship would rapidly end. But i can stop seeing other people and focus on exploring whether we work as a couple. But it's a factor that is very important, and the most important elements are not things to magically fall into place in the distant future - they're more about attitudes, turn ons, sex drive and attraction. Mechanical specifics can be worked on, but the compatibility is about the effort level and enthusiasm, not whether the skills are locked in.

Answer 2

DoctorCupid

Xper 2

You’re probably going to see this a lot in modern dating, yes. Since the physical connection is 1/3 of the whole relationship, a lot of people want to make sure they know what they’re getting themselves into before they get serious.

Asker

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So you would probably answer yes to this?
Asker

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Would you date a virgin?
DoctorCupid

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If I liked the girl enough, sure!
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Asker

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If you found this out about her before meeting up in person, would you be turnef off?
DoctorCupid

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Not sure about turned off, but i would definitely be a little skeptical about the relationship’s chances. I would still probably go on a date out of curiosity, because the girl may be worth it.

Answer 3

Asker

So you would probably answer yes to this?

Answer 4

Asker

Would you date a virgin?

Answer 5

DoctorCupid

If I liked the girl enough, sure!

Answer 6

Asker

If you found this out about her before meeting up in person, would you be turnef off?

Answer 7

DoctorCupid

Not sure about turned off, but i would definitely be a little skeptical about the relationship’s chances. I would still probably go on a date out of curiosity, because the girl may be worth it.

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Bee-Hatch | 186 opinions shared on Dating topic.

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You don't buy shoes without trying them on to see how they fit do you?

Answer 9

WesBrewer | 698 opinions shared on Dating topic.

Xper 7

Nope, I have sex after I am 100% sure I will be with them forever aka, after marriage, I would say even for the people not like me, sex before the relationship isn't really normal either.

Answer 10

magiusX26 | 1.3K opinions shared on Dating topic.

Yoda

for me, sort of. i'll go ahead and start dating her but will not fully commit till a few rounds of sex to make sure thats working for both of us, and working well. its a part of why i want it a little early in if possible.

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Makes sense. If a girl told you that she was a virgin and was saving it for the right person, would that turn you off from dating?
magiusX26

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if she meant marriage 1st yes. if not best i can tell you is maybe not a turn off. there had best be some other way up there ranked qualaties to keep me waiting. like a near perfect matched personality, intelligence, and loyalty/faithfulness. other qualities are needed too and can be changed out with the 3.5 listed as an example but still would have to be very high.
magiusX26

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otherwise it would just come off as she is playing games.
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magiusX26

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word of advice to all (men and women) putting out does not guarentee a relationship with anyone. holding off does not either. each person has to find that happy balanced median for themselves and it does vary from potential partner to potential partner.
Asker

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I see. Why would it come off like she was playing games?
magiusX26

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the playing games reffers to doing all that waiting and her not gaving other superb qualities to fall back on until sex becomes a component. because it would just be leading the guy on.

Answer 11

Asker

Makes sense. If a girl told you that she was a virgin and was saving it for the right person, would that turn you off from dating?

Answer 12

magiusX26

if she meant marriage 1st yes. if not best i can tell you is maybe not a turn off. there had best be some other way up there ranked qualaties to keep me waiting. like a near perfect matched personality, intelligence, and loyalty/faithfulness. other qualities are needed too and can be changed out with the 3.5 listed as an example but still would have to be very high.

Answer 13

magiusX26

otherwise it would just come off as she is playing games.

Answer 14

magiusX26

word of advice to all (men and women) putting out does not guarentee a relationship with anyone. holding off does not either. each person has to find that happy balanced median for themselves and it does vary from potential partner to potential partner.

Answer 15

Asker

I see. Why would it come off like she was playing games?

Answer 16

magiusX26

the playing games reffers to doing all that waiting and her not gaving other superb qualities to fall back on until sex becomes a component. because it would just be leading the guy on.

Answer 17

Anonymous

No. Before marriage, I get, but before dating seems a bit silly to me. I think sex is something you work up to in a healthy relationship, not a starting point.

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are you a virgin?
Opinion Owner

4 d
No, I'm not.

Answer 18

Asker

are you a virgin?

Answer 19

Opinion Owner

No, I'm not.

Answer 20

Anonymous

I don’t really think I’d enjoy sex with a girl if I didn’t like her. I don't know, half of sex if the person and the other half is sensation. It feels better when you love a girl.

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are you a virgin?
Opinion Owner

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No I’m not. You don’t have to be a virgin to want to care about the women you fuck

Answer 21

Asker

are you a virgin?

Answer 22

Opinion Owner

No I’m not. You don’t have to be a virgin to want to care about the women you fuck

Answer 23

Anonymous

No, I am the opposite I have to determine if she is a compatible person before I go to bed with her.

Answer 24

andy530 | 695 opinions shared on Dating topic.

Guru

That’s how it is for me

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I see. So would you be less inclined to date a virgin?
andy530

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If any and all sexual acts were off the table until after we were married or something like that then yes
Asker

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Got it. If she said something along the lines of 'saving it for the right person' would you be turned off from dating her?
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andy530

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Again it would depend on if it were any and all sexual acts or just sexual intercourse
Asker

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So you wouldn't be turned off for the most part? I heard guys flee when hearing this because they assume she saves it for marriage
andy530

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That’s what I’m saying a conversation would need to be had, I would need to know if there is any way to sexually connect prior to marriage or not

Answer 25

Asker

I see. So would you be less inclined to date a virgin?

Answer 26

andy530

If any and all sexual acts were off the table until after we were married or something like that then yes

Answer 27

Asker

Got it. If she said something along the lines of 'saving it for the right person' would you be turned off from dating her?

Answer 28

andy530

Again it would depend on if it were any and all sexual acts or just sexual intercourse

Answer 29

Asker

So you wouldn't be turned off for the most part? I heard guys flee when hearing this because they assume she saves it for marriage

Answer 30

andy530

That’s what I’m saying a conversation would need to be had, I would need to know if there is any way to sexually connect prior to marriage or not

Answer 31

Anonymous

yes... you drive a car before you buy it.

Answer 32

Anonymous

No i love you just the way you are.

Answer 33

AFellowWeeb | 179 opinions shared on Dating topic.

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I hate that.

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