I was about to answer this question.. but you were just to spot on.
Seniors are actually more likely to be pickier than young girls, as they have more experience and are more set in their ways. Young girls live in a fantasy world. Older women feel they've paid their dues and are now entitled to reap their rewards.
@caring__1 true but young females are still visually attractive and have endless means of getting attention online therefore they get the illusion of choice because they know attention is a click away. older women know their value diminishes with their looks and time is running out, so they become less picky.
If you read the questions posted here, you'll see many young women question the value of what they bring to a relationship. Even if they are attractive, they don't necessarily believe they're attractive, or they may believe their value lies in body parts rather than what truly matters. Maybe all ages focus on illusions rather than reality. Most senior women still prioritize world travel and fine dining.
@caring__1 yes but people that go to a web forum are not the general population. Internet geeks are those people are the outer crust of the population m, the majority of society don’t are the ones that are on TikTok or Instagram or parading around in public wearing practically nothing, desperate for cheap male sexual attention.
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Ding ding ding. Guys need to love themselves first. Set themselves a code, live by it. Here is an example1 - Be Honest2 - Life is a mirror, what you put out you will receive in return.3 - Time is our most valuable resource. Don't was it on people/things/events that you dislike.4 - The spoken word is powerful. Speak good things into existence.Make your own code. Write it down. Post it on the wall. Live by it. People will respect you for being true to your values and principals. Create a vision of your future. Write it down. Write down the steps necessary to achieve your vision. Walk the path towards your vision. People love visionaries and will want to join you on your journey.When you learn to love yourself and pursue your vision, women will recognize your value. They will find you challenging because you are being true to yourself. They will want to be part of your journey, a part of something exciting. That was part one. Let me know when. Your ready for part two.
Well said. All the points given make for a great way to see the world.However I will point out that not eveyone is a visionary by natrue but it's ok not to be one. All you need to do is present a high value image of yourself and people will treat you accordingly
Not everyone has to be a visionary. I would encourage this exercise. Close your eyes, imagine your ideal job in 20 years. What are you doing? If you cod have anything in life, what would it be? And most importantly what makes you happy? Not paint that picture of your ideal self/life in twenty years. Now describe that picture to me. Paint that picture in your mind. If you are an artist draw it. If you aren't an artist write it down and describe it in as much detail as possible. Now look at the picture or the description every day until that image is seared into your mind. It is important to actually visualize this picture as much as possible. Your sub conscious is a powerful tool. Now starting backwards write down the steps to achieve your vision. Here is an example. My vision is to spend my life traveling the world preforming magic, and brining smiles to other people.. 1 - Before I can be a traveling magician I have to be a full time preforming magician who occasionally travels to preform magic. I woul have a significant social media following to help me book gigs. 2 - Before I can be a full time magician, I have to be a magician that gets paid to preform. So I would need to preform at wedding, festivals, parties, or other social engagements... etc. 3 - people only pay good magicians, so before becoming a paid preform I would need to have very good sleight of hand. So I would need to get a mentor and develope a practice routine. ... Keep breaking down the steps in at much detail as possible. Once you are done you have the blue print to achieve your vision. It's important to write down a the steps and study your map/blue print. Share your map/blue print with others. They might be able to help you or they may want to be a part of your journey. In the end people will admire you for having a vision, and that your a pursuing your vision.
Oh don't get me wrong. I am a visionary to the point of delusion. So much that I packed my life in a suitcase and moved halfway across the world in search of fame and fortune.But it doesn't change the fact that not everyone's capable of being like that and making those choices in life
It's because they are meeting guys on dating sites. 10,000 men to every woman. So guys take a girl they wouldn't normally date in real life. Then they either fuck and ghost or they eventually meet a better girl in person. An 8 dating a 5 means the 5 won't be around long.
@1031ent Sure. It’s also kind of like it used to be at 3am on the dancefloor of a club. Guys will drop their standards if they’ve got nothing better to fuck, because after all, it’s just a fuck. “She’ll do”. A 9/10 guy will marry an 8 or a 9 if that’s what he wants eventually. But until then he’ll happily bang 7s, 6s, maybe even a few 5s. These 5 women then think that because they got banged by a 9 man that means they’re 9s, so they keep getting pumped and dumped by 9s.
It's like a 200lbs person thinking they can win Olympic gold in the 100m dash without losing any weight. And I'm okay seeing them lose but not if they are complaining to me left and right about it. Then I'll tell them they need to lose weight.
This latter problem is not a gender problem. It's a problem with how kids are raised in schools as I see it -- telling them they can do accomplish anything while handing them participation medals. It's like we're prepping tone-deaf people to think they can become the next pop idol. So I don't like that -- it seems extremely cruel and misguided. But it's hardly limited to just women.
Like these incel types -- geez! At least the women sort of hide their desperation under some label like "feminism". But these incels guys are as even more pathetic than the feminists. They're like people proud of being complete losers! So I don't think women's expectations are too high. I think both young men and women have overinflated egos, not properly backed by accomplishments, and expect too much in return in spite of providing so little.
Those r completely reasonable
Stop trying to meet girls on dating sites.
@1031ent why? I like meeting girls from dating sites.
Because the numbers are skewed. A thousand times more men than women. This makes for bad matches. Quit going to the sausage fest. Meet women in real life
@1031ent well 99% of guys just wanna fuck, so I hardly have any competition.
@1031ent also who the heck are you to tell me what to do? Mind your own business xD
You do realize you posted a question whining about it. This is literally a website where people answer questions and give advice.
@1031ent i whined about it. so fucking what? that doesn't mean i have to stop. by thew ay, for how long back did yous talk my account. i can't even remember that.
Social media made expectations unrealistic especially to shoot callers and unfortunately those happened to be women. They want a man who's financially well off, they want a man who has a doctor occupational status to please their parents, they want a man to look like their celeb crush, and they want a strong but a feminine men with a man bun on his head lol so on and on. And What they have to offer in return? Filtered Pictures and faces full of make up and fake lips and a fat transferred butt. 😂 you take her to the gym, she feels out of place, you take her to a party, she has social anxiety, you ask her for a massage, she has long nails and can't be bothered, you ask her to make you food, she replies burnt beans on toasts or just order a take away 🤦🏽♂️ most chicks nowadays false advertise themselves.
Oof, are these all women who've wanted to date you, then?Men are allowed to have standards, too. Heck, if I dated a woman and she was like what you described, I wouldn't be dating her for long.Finding someone who meets your expectations isn't easy. Maybe you should stop trying to find women on social media and sign up for a paid in-person matchmaking service. You'll avoid the pitfalls you're griping about.
Yeah. Maybe a match making paid service is a more mature approach.
It's much more reliable and you'll have a better experience than using online apps.Most online apps are hook up oriented, anyways. It sounds to me like you're looking for wife material, not hook up material.
Nah not a hook up. I'm too busy with the living to entertain some dull fairy tail cring worthy casual entanglement lol
Marijuana... everyone is on marijuana.
Of course you would 😅 see how that's works out
Been working great so far
The whole alpha/beta thing has been disproven.
@1031ent Yeah... no. only in your "this is what a feminist looks like" world.
You don't know anything about my world.
Less options can also be no options. I think people can have as high as standards as they want, but don't put the blame onto the other gender, which tends to happen. Also people have to consider that other people have standards too, so just because they meet yours doesn't mean you meet theirs. it reminds me of the quote "prince charming would never settle for you." 😂I think people also have to be careful about focusing on their standards to much. Most people are capable of meeting others standards for a few months to a year, and if you focus on that you could miss lots of read flags, or someone could be showing other good attributes you haven't considered and you could ignore it.
@nathanp97 Yeah the type of person to blame an gender is dumb af but think about it. Do you want someone to be with you because they settled? Do you want to be with someone that you settled for?I think its ridiculous to have extremely high standards like 6'5+ only or 6 figure banks but if its like a persons character that isn't something you should compromise.
Like I said it is fine to have standards, but there is more to people than those 10 maybe 20 things you want in a person, and they aren't necessarily required, just things you think you want in a person. My point is that you can have all the standards you want, but just don't focus on just that, because you might miss lots of good or bad characteristics that weren't in your list of requirements.
@nathanp97 Yeah but if they've had those standards for years they're not gonna change, so just gotta let them have it and stay alone forever ig. If they wanted to they would have already
So a you expect a lump of tin to satand in praise along side solid gold and said lump of tin won't settle espacialy for one of its own, fucking hilarious.
I'm intrigued. What is that you got to say? Lol
I'm a deep thinker when I start talking i think I bore them off lol but regular stuff like marriage not wanting divorce, kids, growing old together, travelling enjoying existence together... I think maybe I'm to full on 😅😂 but I can't help being a hopeless romantic
You sound like a mind trip to listen to lol jokes. There is a place and time for everything, one has to find balance
Depending on when you start talking about this stuff you are probably scaring guys off because they think you are moving to fast. + most people probably want divorce as an option.
Anon. Men would be interested in what you have to say IF you had anything worth hearing. Seriously, the Kardashians, or what Karen wore to work, or how many likes your IG post received, are not things that make the world go 'round.
@KrakenAttackin If that's what you like then its ok but its not my style of conversation
Anon... what do you like to talk about?
Ha ha shush you teen ager
@mslivy. That's right, just use women for sex.