He told me he was 17 but he is actually 16 (I’m 19) . What do I do?

[Anonymous]

I started talking to this guy and we get along extremely well. We are very similar people and very attracted to eachother, talking about our futures together etc. I told my friends he was 18 because I already felt kinda weird about liking a 17 year old so much. He just told me he is 16. He told me he has only dated girls who were 18/19 and he is only friends with older people, in my opinion he looks and acts like anyone else my age. I don’t know what to do. He is the same age as my little sister but I like him a lot. I really don’t know what to do and I don’t want to feel like a creep. I don’t think I’m a creep and I really like this guy. The age of consent in my state is 16. Please help.

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I only have good intentions. We get along really well and he makes me happy; we haven’t done anything sexual and all and I don’t want that right away. Just some context. I feel like people would see me as a creep because a 19 year old dating a 16 year old seems like the older person has bad judgement/bad intentions. I don’t think I have either of those things.

[HikerDude]

I've always looked older than I was. When I was 14 I was already 6'1 and had a muscular physique after two years of weight training. It was common for girls several years older to flirt with and want to be with me. I liked the attention (obviously) and wanted to get with some of them, so I started lying about my age. Most of them never knew that I was younger, and most didn't want to know.

What to do... if you like the guy, go with it. Girls never wanted to pull away from me if they didn't know my age. That meant they were into me, which is the whole point of it anyways. Let's face it, there are guys who are 22 and look like little kids, and there are guys who are 15 and look like grown men. And there are 22 year olds who never even kissed a girl and 15 year olds who get girls constantly. Age isn't as important as mental, social, and physical development.

[Hogwheels]

You have nothing to be ashamed of if you decide to continue dating him. You also have nothing to be ashamed of if you decide to stop dating him. But I wouldn't hide his age from your friends. If this is a LTR they'll find out eventually. The fact that he lied about his age though tells me he's probably a little immature.

[devilish-cutie]

if you really like him, it really doesn't matter, age is just a number. It may seem like a big deal now but when you are eg. 30 and him being 27, it really doesn't fucking matter. All that matters is how your relationship is

[Alyssa11]

How do you know what he's really like? He's 16. When I was 16 I thought I was going to marry Justin Bieber.

[boggboss]

This is only somthing u can decide as u are the only one that can deal with it will be awkward with your friends as u already lied about his age before he told u the truth apart from that atm people will call u stuff just got to decide if its worth it

[Anonymous]

There's nothing wrong with a three year difference in ages. It's okay for men to date women young enough to be their daughter!
I would wait until this boy is 18 before doing anything sexual with him. It'll give you a few years to get to know him better. And while you're waiting, you might want to read any one of Josette Sona's free ebooks (to get a better idea on how guys tick). My sisters learned a lot from reading them.

[GiventoFly01]

When I was 17, I secretly "dated" a 13 year old for a year and a half.

One of my biggest regrets in life, was getting scared and breaking it off. To this day, I haven't ever met another girl that I was so comfortable and compatible with. I have regretted that decision for 21 years now.

So just think about it for a while before deciding

[chHaynes]

I would say go for it if he acts like any other 18 year old I would still dating and if he's very mature for his age that's not a deal-breaker I would hang on to him he sounds like me at that age mature for his age but not very at that age of 18

[Kuba-kun]

Well he lied to you this early on... That is a red flag.

[yucel_eden]

As long as your happy and don’t have bad intentions and neither does he the only person that could deem it immoral is you and him. Just make sure you don’t break laws by sleeping with him

[Avicenna]

Well, lying about his age is usually a dealbreaker for most girls

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

There's nothing wrong with your age differences as long as your comfortable that's all matters

[Wiredone]

You are overthinking the situation. My wife is 6 1/2 years older than me. We get along great. We don't see age.

[locutus9999]

wait till he is 18. by the way he will change a lot. I am not sure if you should waste your time like that.

[COMMODOREII]

Go for it. Make his day besides you said you like him. Lol

[Mijopapi215]

You are both teens and he is not too far off from your age what is the issue?

[iFarted]

If you like him then you like him, keep doing what y'all are doing.

[pokenstroke]

If 16 is legal in your state, go with it, let it run its course you may be soul mates

[Anonymous]

You do nothing you’re a female nobody gives a shit who you have sex with or what age.

[herthaxx]

Girl you gots to goooo🏃‍♀️ b 4 u appear in law and order

[Anonymous]

He lied. Break it off.

[Iron_Man]

Let it go

[In_Trance]

Have fun