Girlfriend won't admit she cheated, did she?

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After becoming exclusive with my girlfriend, who I met on a dating app, I deleted the app and she said she did the same. Weeks later, I find her on the app. I confront her and read texts with another guy she met on the app. She was planning on meeting him. She said she told him she had a boyfriend. After I text him "We're just friends" he blocked her.

She claims she just wanted "freinds".

This happened months ago, early into our relationship and we're still discussing whether or not she cheated.

Answer 1

Anonymous

'She was planning on meeting him.'

'This happened months ago'

You are disrespecting yourself by remaining with her. It's likely you are doing this because you have a scarcity mindset, or low self esteem. Any man with even an ounce of self respect would have walked already. She also lied to you. How many more red flags do you need?

Men, stop putting up with shit from women, stop simping, stop having a scarcity mindset and start acting like a man.

Iloveadvils

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I broke up w her but she begged me to stay so I gave her a second chance, and chalked it up to moving too fast which we were.
Opinion Owner

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Then all you've done is prove to her that you're actions do not mean anything solid, and that she can manipulate you into doing what she wants you to do through tears, begging, pleading or other emotional manipulation.

The reasons for a person lying and going behind our back does not change a thing, thus chalking it up to 'moving too fast' changes nothing.
Iloveadvils

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Well, I can't go back and leave her now. Besides one fight, we've been fine for the past 6 months. I always call her out on her manipulativeness and her tendency to lie... and she has improved a lot. Obviously this incident ruined my trust but I'm beginning to trust her again. But in her mind, she still does not believe she cheated, and doesn't like how I don't trust her.
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Opinion Owner

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''Well, I can't go back and leave her now.''

Yes you can, you just choose not to.

'' always call her out on her manipulativeness and her tendency to lie''

Calling out a person = setting boundaries.

.. But never doing anything about it = not enforcing them.

''I'm beginning to trust her again.''

Then why are you here asking questions?

With a scarcity mindset and fear of taking action / enforcing boundaries, all we are left with are rationalizations, excuses and dysfunction.

To any guys reading this. Let it be a lesson. Never ever put up with lies, mistreatment, bs or cheating no matter who she is, what she looks like, or how good the sex is. As a man nothing is more important than your self respect and peace.

Answer 2

Iloveadvils

I broke up w her but she begged me to stay so I gave her a second chance, and chalked it up to moving too fast which we were.

Answer 3

Opinion Owner

Then all you've done is prove to her that you're actions do not mean anything solid, and that she can manipulate you into doing what she wants you to do through tears, begging, pleading or other emotional manipulation.

The reasons for a person lying and going behind our back does not change a thing, thus chalking it up to 'moving too fast' changes nothing.

Answer 4

Iloveadvils

Well, I can't go back and leave her now. Besides one fight, we've been fine for the past 6 months. I always call her out on her manipulativeness and her tendency to lie... and she has improved a lot. Obviously this incident ruined my trust but I'm beginning to trust her again. But in her mind, she still does not believe she cheated, and doesn't like how I don't trust her.

Answer 5

Opinion Owner

''Well, I can't go back and leave her now.''

Yes you can, you just choose not to.

'' always call her out on her manipulativeness and her tendency to lie''

Calling out a person = setting boundaries.

.. But never doing anything about it = not enforcing them.

''I'm beginning to trust her again.''

Then why are you here asking questions?

With a scarcity mindset and fear of taking action / enforcing boundaries, all we are left with are rationalizations, excuses and dysfunction.

To any guys reading this. Let it be a lesson. Never ever put up with lies, mistreatment, bs or cheating no matter who she is, what she looks like, or how good the sex is. As a man nothing is more important than your self respect and peace.

Answer 6

meep990

Xper 3

Wasting time and energy on nothing. Its too early to go through all that. Get out or forget the messages

Iloveadvils

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She keeps bringing it up

Answer 7

Iloveadvils

She keeps bringing it up

Answer 8

DCooper | 223 opinions shared on Dating topic.

Xper 7

Bro, you know she did. lol

Girlfriend won't admit she cheated, did she?

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