What is, in your opinion, the state of dating today?

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Depending on who you ask the state of datings questionable. If you ask a happily married man they will say it’s worth it. If you ask the popular males they will say their happy and they get all the tail they want. The guys that aren’t successful for whatever reason will tell you it sucks.

The problem is the non married successful men are not a good thing. They are single because they get prime choice on women and they don’t have to settle. The married men are a minority and the unsuccessful men are by far a majority. According to multiple studies in the 90s this was 80% of men. Some studies suggest this is closer to 90% today.

Ide be interested in hearing what you thought about this and getting a response from women regarding how women feel about it using the same 3 categories happily married, successfully dating, and unsuccessful dating.

Let’s keep it civilized people... I don’t want a bunch of Bulldogs in here.

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Most Helpful Guys

Anonymous

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I am married but from what I see and hear many decent and good looking people can't find anyone. Maybe some of it is their standards and they will certainly have a rude awakening when they get older but overall it seems to be a shit show

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- VanillaSalt
  
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  I just got told because I couldn’t find an interest for 2 years in dating apps I was ugly lol. I am waiting to see her response on how she’ll deal with her ugly son.
- Opinion Owner
  
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  who told you that?
- VanillaSalt
  
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  Someone on here some girl I was having a conversation with. I get it the best or the best get the women the rest die out. When it was people within a town or city limitation it was fine but now we have online dating completely screwing the system.
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- Opinion Owner
  
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  I will cherish when most of these feminists die alone after having gone through pain killer addition and alcoholism
- VanillaSalt
  
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  I don’t want to be petty and think like that but so will I... I have difficulty not associating all women with these women mostly because of a lack of female role models anywhere. Mother, ex’s, social media, news... all you see is this hateful and degenerative talk about how bad men are and how amazing women are. With the media and politicians parroting these voices u don’t think societies gonna get off easy. But I’m honestly tired of trying to date. At this point perhaps I should focus on retiring in 10 years forgo my teaching license and just move into the wilderness lol.
Anonymous

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Some people think we are in a dating and romance apocalypse, as in, they think there are more single adults today than ever before or marriage is on the decline, the birth rate at the lowest point in US history

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- VanillaSalt
  
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  I just got told I was probably ugly and should give up... still waiting to hear her response to how she’ll respond to her ugly son being called ugly.
- Opinion Owner
  
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  Well you sound like you've done pretty well with women or in dating in your life
- VanillaSalt
  
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  3/3 have cheated. Not terribly good batting average.
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- Opinion Owner
  
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  Well I'm just saying that because there are tons of guys out there who have never dated anyone before
- VanillaSalt
  
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  Fair point and I’m grateful for what I’ve gotten. If I’m what’s considered lucky though... well I’ll be frank fuck society if this is the best it has to offer lmao.
- VanillaSalt
  
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  Also if you could answer the second part of the
  Main question that be great.
- Opinion Owner
  
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  I'd say there's an obvious reason why men men get praised for sexual conquests and why the s***-shaming double standard exists
- Opinion Owner
  
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  How long was your longest relationship?
- VanillaSalt
  
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  Most definitely. Men that conquer women are desirable and women that are promiscuous are possible cheaters. I’m curious. Women chase better men. Well with the gender “equality” thing going around more women are in college and getting paid more and men are decreasing in quality. Also with men being fed up and leaving the dating atmosphere. Women are having a harder time finding husbands. I wonder how this will effect marriage when their all 30-50 and when their 80 and alone with no kids and when the only men worth dating to women are the same 500 elite men worth over a billion $. I wonder how that’s going to effect society. How they will feel when it transfers to their male children or if they will care.
- VanillaSalt
  
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  My longest was 5 years. Shortest was 8 months.
- Opinion Owner
  
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  I'd say the reason why men get praised for it is because men typically do all or most of the work or effort when it comes to meeting someone or starting a relationship if you get what I'm saying
- VanillaSalt
  
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  Yes and women maintain all the power.
- Opinion Owner
  
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  Yeah because I've heard or seen lots of comments on YouTube that relate to dating or even on forums and I hear a lot of guys admit that they've never even had a girlfriend before, so you are way ahead of many other guys
- VanillaSalt
  
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  I wonder how men can hijack society and point it into a different direction more benefiting both sexes rather then overwhelmingly women. Honestly the only real choice I think is to limit or even outlaw apps designed for hookup culture and online dating this limiting women’s options to their area. But even that will be limited effectiveness. You’ll soon see men with plastic surgery.
- Opinion Owner
  
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  Yeah because I always hear far more men admit than women admit when they say they've never had a relationship before
- VanillaSalt
  
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  Many men don’t step up. Their cowards afraid to lose face so they ran to dating apps. I think it broke our spirit. We’re almost at a point testosterone isn’t necessary anymore. Might be time to purge and start over lmao. I joke but ide be down to be honest. I’m scared for my niece and future generations. Just because women are in charge now does not mean in a few generations women will not feel the bite.
- Opinion Owner
  
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  Specifically how do men not step up?
- VanillaSalt
  
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  Men not feeling they have a chance so they don’t approach or they feel women arnt worth the effort so they say fuck it and never care about trying to impress women. You can get away with no self improvement if you don’t have to feed a family or impress the ladies. Without women men have no reason to improve outside their desire to be better and many are content to be able to get by playing games all day while working 40 hours a week. Meanwhile any man focus on family will be working overtime and pushing for better for the sweet pussy time.
- Opinion Owner
  
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  My guess is, you started dating in your teens or beginning of your 20s?
- VanillaSalt
  
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  High school actually.
- Opinion Owner
  
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  Early Bloomer then
- VanillaSalt
  
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  Nothing meaningful though. Might as well have been friends with benefits.
- Opinion Owner
  
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  My guess is, you lost your virginity as a teen?
- VanillaSalt
  
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  Na I was early 20s.
- Opinion Owner
  
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  Was it with your first long-term girlfriend?
- VanillaSalt
  
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  We moved then got back together few years later so ya.

Most Helpful Girls

Pastalavista
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Pretty relaxed/not enthusiastic about it myself even tho most of my friends are in happy relationships 2 of which are already married

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- VanillaSalt
  
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  What ya think needs to change to better dating for men and women?
- Pastalavista
  
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  People need to have patience
- Pastalavista
  
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  Both in and out of relationships
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- VanillaSalt
  
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  Oh god do I agree. I believe two strangers with a couple of similar hobbies and a basic foundation of beliefs could and should make up large portions of Happy marriages. I don’t think love is as big a deal as people make it. How can you love someone before you get to know and understand them? How can you be so arrogant to believe you understand someone after a few months of dating?
Egirl28
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People don't date anymore! They have friends with benefits ot date to have sex

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- VanillaSalt
  
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  I don’t want to agree but overall I think I have to based off my experiences and what I read here and see online. I need to get out more lmao
- VanillaSalt
  
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  Would you mind answering the question on the bottom?
- Egirl28
  
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  I am unsuccessful dating
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- VanillaSalt
  
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  Yes but what do you think women think about dating from the perspective of successfully married, successfully dating, and unsuccessful dating?
  
  I want to understand how a woman would look at it for these perspectives.
- Egirl28
  
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  Successful dating are happy. Married are thrilled to not still be dating so less happy and unsuccessful dating hate it
- VanillaSalt
  
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  lol so basically the same, I figured thanks.
- Egirl28
  
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  Dating isn't special anymore I wish It was like it used to be where you got to know someone for who they are not rate them on just their looks
- VanillaSalt
  
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  Attraction draws your eyes and personality keeps them interested. But standards are too off. And personalities suck.

What Girls & Guys Said

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AFellowWeeb | 271 opinions shared on Dating topic.
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Dating is pointless for normal guys, women are not worth it

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- VanillaSalt
  
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  I’ll meet that downvote with an upvote. Fact is I agree especially with this woman just calling me ugly a few minutes ago and telling me I should give up...
- AFellowWeeb
  
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  Ho yeah and the ones that call every guy that disagrees with them incels, but we can't call a girl that sleeps with an entire football team a slut

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