Guys, Signs if a guy is disappointed in your looks on the first real life date?

Question

Are there some signs or how could you tell if a guy is disappointed in your looks when meeting you irl for the first time after getting to know online and through photos?

Answer 1

LZPanzer

Xper 5

He doesn't recognize you. If you are meeting and there are other people around if he can't locate you based on previous photos, he's expecting something different

As long as you haven't sent him Photoshopped images, and drastically lied about your Image, it's impossible to tell on a first meeting.

Asker

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I really worried, that he didn’t find me attractive irl. I met him online and we texted for a few weeks before the first date. Our date went for a few hours and he searched for physical contact, actually he seemed quite happy (for at least what I could think). We then met for a second date at his place and got closer, first kiss. But after these two dates, he told me he had doubts about a future with me, broke off contact and didn’t want to lead me on. I really worried it’s because he didn’t find me pretty irl enoug for sth longterm anymore, although he was so sure of me while texting
LZPanzer

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If he met up for a second date I doubt he broke up because of your appearance.
He probably broke up because of some deeper incompatibility. What that is I can't really say.

Do keep in mind all guys say that they want a hot girlfriend. But most of us don't actually expect to hit that ideal.
Asker

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I guess I could never know for sure. It was just so confusing to me. We texted for weeks beforehand, morning to evening and he got so sure of me in that time. Or probably more the idea of me, since he actually didn’t know me offline. I thought it would have been a good sign, that he searched for subtle physical contact on the first date and called me after the night out. He actually seemed quite „happy“ on the phone or that he looked forward to the next one. I guess the second one wasn’t really a „date“, since I visited him at his place. Maybe that’s because he seemed „happy“. Most dudes just want to get laid. But I always saw him as an honest person though.. But that he already had doubts about me after only two times of meeting up, and that certainty he had while texting, just made me feel ugly or like a catfish or sth.
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LZPanzer

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The fact that he let you into his home ment that he at least didn't feel threatened by you or at least that you wouldn't take advantage of him. My best guess is that he was looking for some quality, and felt the best place to test that was his home. The two things that come to my mind are domestic skills, and sexual compatibility (would you ask for it).
There could be a number of other things too.

I don't think he's a bad guy. I don't think you did anything wrong either. He gave you a proper send off, so he does have some sense of decency.
Just treat it as a proper break-up. It may be possible to stay friends in the future.

Answer 2

Asker

I really worried, that he didn’t find me attractive irl. I met him online and we texted for a few weeks before the first date. Our date went for a few hours and he searched for physical contact, actually he seemed quite happy (for at least what I could think). We then met for a second date at his place and got closer, first kiss. But after these two dates, he told me he had doubts about a future with me, broke off contact and didn’t want to lead me on. I really worried it’s because he didn’t find me pretty irl enoug for sth longterm anymore, although he was so sure of me while texting

Answer 3

LZPanzer

If he met up for a second date I doubt he broke up because of your appearance.
He probably broke up because of some deeper incompatibility. What that is I can't really say.

Do keep in mind all guys say that they want a hot girlfriend. But most of us don't actually expect to hit that ideal.

Answer 4

Asker

I guess I could never know for sure. It was just so confusing to me. We texted for weeks beforehand, morning to evening and he got so sure of me in that time. Or probably more the idea of me, since he actually didn’t know me offline. I thought it would have been a good sign, that he searched for subtle physical contact on the first date and called me after the night out. He actually seemed quite „happy“ on the phone or that he looked forward to the next one. I guess the second one wasn’t really a „date“, since I visited him at his place. Maybe that’s because he seemed „happy“. Most dudes just want to get laid. But I always saw him as an honest person though.. But that he already had doubts about me after only two times of meeting up, and that certainty he had while texting, just made me feel ugly or like a catfish or sth.

Answer 5

LZPanzer

The fact that he let you into his home ment that he at least didn't feel threatened by you or at least that you wouldn't take advantage of him. My best guess is that he was looking for some quality, and felt the best place to test that was his home. The two things that come to my mind are domestic skills, and sexual compatibility (would you ask for it).
There could be a number of other things too.

I don't think he's a bad guy. I don't think you did anything wrong either. He gave you a proper send off, so he does have some sense of decency.
Just treat it as a proper break-up. It may be possible to stay friends in the future.

Answer 6

Tyrael | 231 opinions shared on Dating topic.

Yoda

It's impossible to say exactly what the cause may be, such as looks but the obvious signs would be lack of enthusiasm, and lack of engagement such as eye contact. Appearing disinterested and distant during conversations are all signs he's not interested.

Answer 7

MCheetah | 648 opinions shared on Dating topic.

Guru

He isn't excited to see you or offers a hug.

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