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Yeah tell that to so many women out there who are ready to dump their boyfriends and even husbands when they happen to get lazy and "unattractive". Why shouldn't a man have preferences and standards over women they date ESPECIALLY if they themselves happen to be fit? I myself am fit and so was my girlfriend when we met. Being in a relationship is no excuse to slack off. And if my girl happens to slack off and doesn't want to work on it, then I have no issues leaving her for someone who IS willing to put in the work.
Exactly! He has himself to blame for getting with a girl who with this physique, in the first place. That is, IF he got with her and she has always been like this.
If he is fit idneed, then he has every right to have his standards. If he happen to get with this girl while she has always been like this, then he has no right to complain. Other than that, I don't find it superficial at all. Especially since weight is something that can be changed while women are notorious for having a height preference/standard (something no one can control).
@TruthBringer superficial means having to do with surface level stuff doesn’t matter if u can change it or not. People’s bodies and metabolisms change with time. If he’s with her for her body then he should dump her because her body is going to change. If it’s that important to him then he should date a skinny girl so she can move on and find someone who loves her as she is.
And that's the thing. THey both need to dat people who suits their preferences. At the same time, love should not be an excuse to slack off. This applies when a person starts slacking off whenever they got in a relationship. This is something very common when people get intor relationships, they stop doing what made them attractive to the other person, to begin with. Bodies change yes, however, wieght is something that can be controlled for the most part unless there is a medical condition which causes it. So I don't think it's really superficial that he isn't happy of having a girl who according to the general is considered chubby
@TruthBringer I guess you don’t know the meaning of superficial then
I just gave you another example of it. So what's the problem?
@TruthBringer there’s no problem I just don’t think u know what superficial means😂
I know what superficial means. If you think a guy judging a girl because of her weight is superficial, then so is a girl who judges a guy over his height. Only the second one is even worse since she judges someone on something they have no control over.
@TruthBringer I never mentioned height. & yes a guy judging a woman by her weight is superficial because weight is surface level has nothing to do with how the person is on a deeper level. So is height, but like I said, I never mentioned height so I don't know why you keep bringing it up. He never said his girlfriend had an issue with his height
Thanks for validating what I'm saying. Judging men on their height IS superficial. I'm simply pointing out a double standard which is very common. Men get backlash when having preference for a woman's weight, but are the very ones who get flamed for their height. I'm simply pointing to the fact that this guy is getting roasted here by the pink comments (mainly) for not liking his girl's weight. Those are often the same ones who roast a man for their height. The reason why I point it out is to ultimately say, he has every right to have expectations and preferences to how his girl's body looks. Given that she was slimmer when they got together, and ended up becoming lazy during the relationship which lead her to her current weight that he is complaining about. If she has always been like this before they got together, then he has no righ to complain. Oh and no one has to look like a Greek God or a Calvin Klein model to have a standard for weight. Unless he himself is fat, he has every right to expect her to be slimmer.
@TruthBringer obviously people should be with someone they’re attracted to but judging from the picture his girlfriend isn’t obese or even really that overweight so it’s unrealistic for him to expect her to look like a supermodel and unless he looks like a supermodel he should lower his expectations.
Who said anything about this guy expecting his girl to look like a supermodel? I don't see him saying anything about her needing to look like a supermodel. Let's not put false words or intentions in people's mouths. Let me also point out that just because someone wants their significant other not to be fat/chubby/overweight), doesn't mean they are being unreasonable. It simply boils down to preferences. And he doesn't need to be a supermodel himself to have these preferences/expectations. So no.
"She looks fine ot me"1. You're not the one dating her2. I bet you wouldn't say that about a guy her weight. And if you did, then I guarantee that would not be the case for your fellow women, especially of our ages
You have a long way to go to know female nature. Women are attracted to a man who puts his foot down and stands by his standards. Trust me, she would dump his ass if he started getting chubby and fat like so many women out there would. So how come a guy has no right to have a preference?She is chubby and men generally dislike that. If she got lazy after getting together, then he has every right to be repulsed.
Did he ask you to change after you've changed when getting together? In other words, did your body change compared to when you two first got togther? If so, then thanks for dumping him since you've done him a favor. A man with standarsd and value will have no issues getting with another woman who will meet them.If he wanted you to change after you got together, then he only got himself to blame.
@TruthBringer I'm naturally a small and petite girl. After we got together, he wanted me to put on weight. That's fine if he didn't appreciate my body, I'll find me a man that appreciates all of me and my mini self.
So he tried to change you AFTER getting together. That's when he is in the wrong. So many people do that not realizing that the person in their head is not a person that could be achieved. I myself am guilty of doing it in the past. Tried to help a depressed girl get over her depression. Even though I brought much joy into her life, I was fighting a lost cause as I could not relieve her from her chronic depression. It ended up draining me in return lol
That could be any person's ass. Not that I support him doing it anyway. He should give her an ultimatum if all means don't work. If she chooses to be lazy, then he has a right to give her an ultimatum. Although he would also be at fault if he got with her while she is like this. It's like me getting with a crack addict and then get mad when she refuses to stop being a crack addict. But if the crack addict I'm with wasn't on crack when I first got with her, then I have every right to give an ultimatum. Especially if I'm not a drug user. Same goes for this guy. If he is fit, that gives him even more right.
Yeah plenty of simps who would get with a chubby girl just for the sake of getting some action. Nothing new here. He should dump her and get with a fit girl. It works because I sure did in the past.
"I think she looks great and I think you're disrespectful and she deserves better" --> You're not the one dating her. And I bet you wouldn't date a guy who looks like her (in terms of weight) like the majority of women and girls (espsecially of your age). You can think she looks great, but that doesn't mean we men do aswel.2. He needs to acknowledge a negative in order for there to be a realization. He simply shouldn't be condescending about it.
@TruthBringer I'd date her, and I think sharing pictures of your partner without their permission is disrespectful so
Then you're the exceptions of the rule. And yes, he shouldn't share pictures of his partner. I sure wouldn't. At the same time this can be anyone's ass and legs. It's not like he exposed her face...
Why? Because he wants his girl to be healthy, fit and attractive? Last time I checked women have this height preference (something men can't control), but men aren't allowed to have a weight preference now? Stick to your double standards. This guy has every right to feel this way if he himself is fit. The only mistake he would have made is that she has always been this way when he got with her. In that case, he should have got with a more fit girl
@TruthBringer lmfao he obviously doesn’t care about her health. He literally just said he didn’t like it cause it’s attractive and the girlfriend isn’t the least bit overweight. She has a normal body type.A persons body In no way indicates their health. I suggest you do your research cause you sound real ignorant
@doopayo There are tons of studies out there that point to weight having a direct connection with health. And yet here you are calling someone else ignorant. All because you don't like the fact that someone is sticking up for this guy for having a weight preference, which he has every right to have. She isn't "normal". We men will not consider her "normal". She is chubby at the least. And he is right to find her unattractive for it. Don't like it? Go cry in the corner.
If there are tons of studies that send them to me 😐
@doopayo I doubt you're going to read everythign I'm willing to send. So I'll stick to just these (for your convenience):www.health.harvard.edu/.../can-you-be-overweight-and-still-be-fitwww.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC4386197/
Exactly. That’s so disrespectful and incredibly rude
He’s done it several times. It’s very odd.
Exactly. Half the pink replies is about shaming this guy, yet are the very same ones who would ditch a fat guy for someone else. Hypocrisy at it's finest. That's one of the reasons I have 0 toleranceBoth fat and non-fat women think it's shallow if a man dislikes a woman for her weight, but have no issues judging men on their height. Last time I checked weight can be controlled and height cannot.
So having weight standards is bad now? Last time I checked women have weight standards for men aswel. How often do you see a fat or chubby guy get girls in comparison to an athletic guy? Women: "Men: we don't have high standards smh smhAlso men: "Also women: Guys under 6''0, don't talk to me!Last time I checked, weight can be controlled and height cannot.
You seriously have this grudge against women. A few women having that attitude doesn’t automatically mean all women think that way. “Weight standards” are literally stupid. You’re calling a girl who has a perfectly normal, average body fat when she’s not fat in the slightest. Just because she’s not a size 0 doesn’t mean she’s all of a sudden overweight. That’s ridiculous
Pointing out flaws of the other gender doesn't mean that person holds grudges. If you think I hold grudges, then you have not seen what people who truly hold grudges do and say. I look like a saint compared to them.If I held a grudge against women, then I wouldn't gladly be working with my fellow female Officers and wouldn't have my lovely girlfriend.If we are going to use this blame game, then I can say YOU'RE the one holding a grudge against men considering you started off talking about men and their "standards". So nice projection there, sweetie.Again she is not "perfectly normal". She is over her normal weight. That is very visible from the picture. Just because you like to remain in denial, doesn't mean others will be in denial aswel. oh and she doesn't have to be a size 0. No one claimed she should so nice strawman argument you pulled there, but logical fallacies won't get you anywhere. She is overweight and men don't like that (including her boyfriend). That's the reality of it. Deal with it or go cry in a corner
Awe. I’m crying rn 😭. You got me real good
Baby girl go do your homework. This website isn't really for someone your age considering the amount of perverts alone
There are perverts on every app, that’s why theirs a block and report button
Love is conditional. If you believe love is like in the Disney movies then I got news for you.
@TruthBringer I know but then you will never be happy, make your relationship stronger then you will not need to ask such questions to random people.
He needs an actual role model in real life. But since that's often extremely hard to get, he needs to focus on self development channels and forums
@TruthBringer I didn't get you what you are trying to say?But tell me one thing, if you by any chance fall in love with a short girl (say 4'7" tall) then will you ask her to increase her height because her height turns you off?
No, because 1. I know height cannot be changed. And 2. men generally prefer shorter girls. So definitely not a turn-off.
@TruthBringer so assume that her weight cannot be reduced:1. She herself must be trying hard to lose weight2. Sometimes the weight management is difficult for girls due to hormonal issuesOr else you have two options:1. Have courage to ask her to join gym because you don't like her ass.2. Leave her and next time please choose the girl considering her weight, height, size. You will surely get so many but may be not the one who will love you.You know what it is sad but people have to adjust themselves sometimes in life. And also most men don't like short girls (I am serious about it, not kidding)
I’ve seen plenty of tall guys walking with women who are very short. I know this since I’m living in the very country ranked for having the tallest people on Earth. Guys don’t really have much of a preference in terms of height because we are taller than most women on average. While WOMEN are the ones who care about this matter. So stop projecting your preferences onto men.If she is putting in the work, then that changes the dynamic. Then it’s all up to the guy to choose to stay with her, or let her be free and find someone who will tolerate her weight. I personally don’t get with girls who are chubby/fat since I prefer fit girls. And as a guy who is very fit himself, I have every right to have that standard. All in all, I don’t have to deal with the bullshit this guy is dealing. My currently girlfriend is fit and that’s how I have always known her to be. She knows if she starts slacking off and gaining weight, she will have to put in some work to lose that weight or else risk losing me. I don’t tolerate laziness.Love is such an ambiguous word. What you must not forget that love is CONDITIONAL. Only a mother’s love for her kids is unconditional (even though even that is not always the case). And if a person does not meet those conditions or refuses to hold up to them, then sayonara. And women especially are notorious for ultimatums. So quit demonizing a guy who is simply practicing his right for preference.
@TruthBringer I know everyone in this world is selfish. And you know what, even the parents love is conditional they bring the child into this world so that they can have someone to take care of them in the old age. I have never fallen in love nor will I ever fall.
@Anonymous Very well said. In the end, everyone is selfish and looking out for their best interests. That's just how we are biologically wired. And when it comes to finding love, I won't tell you what you should do in your love life, but I will say at least consider keeping your options open for a true long term relationship. Especially for people of our age, we should use this time to learn how to weed out the bad from the good
@TruthBringer no I am not going to be in the shit of relationships, never have I been nor will I ever be. Single forever 😃
But just be blunt and break up
Wanting your partner to be fit and healthy is also a form of respect. I'd rather be a "jackass" pushing my girl to be better than to accept all the bad habits out of political correctness and so-called "love". My girlfriend has admitted to make significant progress in her overall lifestyle after she got with me. I have not always been easy for her, yet this has made her attraction for me grow even more. And her family have recognized the positive influence I had on her aswel.Only my way would be considered being a "jackass" by people like yourself and the snowflake feminists
No logic whatsoever. Just because he wants his girl to be more fit, doesn't mean she is "too good" for him. Especially not if he happens to be the fit person while she is not. Stop being a white knight.