I've just been so wrong before. I dated my dream girl, like my literal dream girl, and it turned out to be a total nightmare. I don't regret dating her, I think it was an important experience to have, but that experience has made me question a lot of what I thought I was looking for in a woman.
Why did you think she was the dream girl?
There was a lot about her that made me think she was my dream girl. She is/was drop dead gorgeous (but that's a given), whip smart, fiercely independent, hard working, honest (I thought), very even-tempered, mellow, relaxing personality. The part that really got to me was the lack of intimacy, respect, and honesty. I thought I was looking at a person who I could trust would do her thing while I did mine and still feed into our relationship, but it turned out that independence and doing her own thing is a contradiction with building the intimacy of a relationship. She respected me in a lot of ways, but there was also a lot of times where she had the attitude that she was going to do whatever she was going to do, without consulting me and if I couldn't trust her to behave herself then that was my problem. It's not like she ever cheated on me, so that's good.
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Had the perfect girl come along back then I would have messed it up on my end for sure. I didn’t know myself yet.
How would you have messed it up?
Oh in so many ways. Follow me and I’ll break it down, embarrassed to admit in public