Meeting on Dating sites?

Question

If you met someone on a dating site, how long do you think the online conversation should last before you meet in person?

Answer 1

Siren777 | 355 opinions shared on Dating topic.

Yoda

I think it's best to wait at least 2 months while things are in a great phase. The sooner you meet someone the better it would be to figure out if you still want to stick around before things get too deep after a long period of time and that is not what you want. So to be certain and decide. The sooner the better. That is if the person is within your vicinity. Good luck😊

Wiredone

24 d
It's not about me. I'm asking for a lady friend. She's been talking to this guy for 5 months and he still doesn't want to meet in person. She doesn't know if she should end it or continue to talk to him. I told her she should end it, he's wasting her time. Am I right or am I wrong
Siren777

24 d
Oh sorry about that. She should end it. 5 months is way too long and besides he can be a catfish. Who takes that long to meet someone without valid reason.
Wiredone

24 d
Don't be sorry. I guess I should have stated it wasn't me in the post. That's what I thought too. Thank you for your help

Answer 2

Wiredone

It's not about me. I'm asking for a lady friend. She's been talking to this guy for 5 months and he still doesn't want to meet in person. She doesn't know if she should end it or continue to talk to him. I told her she should end it, he's wasting her time. Am I right or am I wrong

Answer 3

Siren777

Oh sorry about that. She should end it. 5 months is way too long and besides he can be a catfish. Who takes that long to meet someone without valid reason.

Answer 4

Wiredone

Don't be sorry. I guess I should have stated it wasn't me in the post. That's what I thought too. Thank you for your help

Answer 5

DizzyDesii | 2.7K opinions shared on Dating topic.

Master

Even if its not a dating site, i usually wouldn't meet someone from online until at least 3 months in. But before the 3 months, we’d Skype and stuff

Wiredone

24 d
What if it was 5 months without Skype or anything like that, just online chat? Would you say it's a waste of time
DizzyDesii

24 d
Its not a waste. I hate Skype anyways. But it becomes a waste if we haven't met in person within the first 6 months
Wiredone

24 d
I asked this question for a lady friend who has been chatting with a guy for about 5 months. He still wants to continue to chat online. He doesn't want to video chat or meet in person. Should she continue chatting with him or move on? I told her to move on but I said I'd ask on here to see what everyone else thinks
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DizzyDesii

24 d
he's either super shy or catfish. I’d walk away
Wiredone

24 d
That's what I told her too

Answer 6

Wiredone

What if it was 5 months without Skype or anything like that, just online chat? Would you say it's a waste of time

Answer 7

DizzyDesii

Its not a waste. I hate Skype anyways. But it becomes a waste if we haven't met in person within the first 6 months

Answer 8

Wiredone

I asked this question for a lady friend who has been chatting with a guy for about 5 months. He still wants to continue to chat online. He doesn't want to video chat or meet in person. Should she continue chatting with him or move on? I told her to move on but I said I'd ask on here to see what everyone else thinks

Answer 9

DizzyDesii

he's either super shy or catfish. I’d walk away

Answer 10

Wiredone

That's what I told her too

Answer 11

sheikalana | 1.3K opinions shared on Dating topic.

Guru

When I'm back home we usually talk for one week before meeting each other. My ex and I texted each other for almost two months before meeting because we were on different countries at the time. I've been talking to this other guy for almost three months and we haven't met yet because I'm still out of the country but he's been very patient and willing to wait to meet me.

Wiredone

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You're in different countries so that's understandable. My lady friend and the guy she's been chatting with for 5 months are about 40 minutes away. He doesn't want to meet or video chat yet. Do you think she should move on?
sheikalana

24 d
Hell yes, she should definitely move. Sounds like a catfish and a waste of time to me.
Wiredone

24 d
That's what I told her. Thank you for your help
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sheikalana

24 d
No problem at all.

Answer 12

Wiredone

You're in different countries so that's understandable. My lady friend and the guy she's been chatting with for 5 months are about 40 minutes away. He doesn't want to meet or video chat yet. Do you think she should move on?

Answer 13

sheikalana

Hell yes, she should definitely move. Sounds like a catfish and a waste of time to me.

Answer 14

Wiredone

That's what I told her. Thank you for your help

Answer 15

sheikalana

No problem at all.

Answer 16

Jamie05rhs | 2.3K opinions shared on Dating topic.

Guru

For me, I think a good period would be between 2 weeks and 2 months. That is for the length of time between the first text introduction and the first in-person introduction.

(But if they're long-distance then it depends on the distance. For example: if they're a road trip away, then I would wait somewhere between 2 months and 5 months. If they're a plane ride away, I would wait between 3 months and a year.)

Wiredone

24 d
My friend and the guy she's been chatting with live in the same state. She says about 40 minutes away from each other
Jamie05rhs

24 d
@Wiredone So then in my opinion they should meet within a couple of weeks. (That is, if they've been talking long enough to both have a good idea of what each one of them is looking for and make sure they're on the same page. You don't want to schedule an in-person meeting prematurely and then find out the other person is polyamorous or something like that.)
Wiredone

24 d
They've been chatting for about 5 months. She wants to meet him but he's not ready yet
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Jamie05rhs

24 d
Oh. Maybe he's chubby and he's trying to lose weight?

Answer 17

Wiredone

My friend and the guy she's been chatting with live in the same state. She says about 40 minutes away from each other

Answer 18

Jamie05rhs

@Wiredone So then in my opinion they should meet within a couple of weeks. (That is, if they've been talking long enough to both have a good idea of what each one of them is looking for and make sure they're on the same page. You don't want to schedule an in-person meeting prematurely and then find out the other person is polyamorous or something like that.)

Answer 19

Wiredone

They've been chatting for about 5 months. She wants to meet him but he's not ready yet

Answer 20

Jamie05rhs

Oh. Maybe he's chubby and he's trying to lose weight?

Answer 21

PaynefulPleasures | 82 opinions shared on Dating topic.

Xper 6

I think it would be where your comfort zone is. I think if you feel it's time to meet & greet,& your not getting bad vibes, red flags. Then go for it & of course the other person feels the same way just my opinion

Wiredone

24 d
My lady friend has been chatting with a guy for about 5 months. She wants to meet him but he says he's not ready. He doesn't want to video chat either. Should she move on or continue chatting with him
PaynefulPleasures

24 d
I understand he's not ready totally understanding, but it's just a date unless it's miles away
Video well I can't do that either I don't have a laptop computer don't see the need for it right now of course I don't know his reasoning Personally I'm getting a feeling of a double life but I could be wrong

Answer 22

Wiredone

My lady friend has been chatting with a guy for about 5 months. She wants to meet him but he says he's not ready. He doesn't want to video chat either. Should she move on or continue chatting with him

Answer 23

PaynefulPleasures

I understand he's not ready totally understanding, but it's just a date unless it's miles away
Video well I can't do that either I don't have a laptop computer don't see the need for it right now of course I don't know his reasoning Personally I'm getting a feeling of a double life but I could be wrong

Answer 24

Tyrael | 245 opinions shared on Dating topic.

Yoda

Depends entirely on the people involved. Some will insist on meeting in person as soon as possible, others are comfortable talking for days or even weeks.

Wiredone

24 d
What if it lasted 4-6 months? Would you still continue the conversation or assume they just want an online relationship
Tyrael

24 d
I wouldn't wait that long. I'd question whether or not they even want to meet in person.

Answer 25

Wiredone

What if it lasted 4-6 months? Would you still continue the conversation or assume they just want an online relationship

Answer 26

Tyrael

I wouldn't wait that long. I'd question whether or not they even want to meet in person.

Answer 27

Flower7 | 804 opinions shared on Dating topic.

Guru

About a week or two would be a good amount of time.

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