While I was single and a couple years younger I joined a forum for guys. It centers around guy topics such as sports and "babes". Well the site went through a major transition and I was asked to help out. I figured I would and now I am a bigger contributor.
The site is on the verge of having a bigger public push and I want to keep helping out because I have become friends with these people and I think it could end up earning me a decent amount of money. The focus of girls has become bigger because that is what brings in new guests. Girls are not naked but are all attractive and are wearing next to nothing.
My worry is if I keep contributing and am looking at this site as my relationships become more and more serious would it cause a problem in the relationships I am in. I have had successful relationships and I am very respectful towards women. The website is not porn and is used to mainly encourage guy discussion. We have had female members as well.
Bottom line is.
Girls: If your boyfriend told you. hey I am apart of this site but I just do it on the side and am completely committed to you would you be ok?
Guys: Would you keep it a secret and just try to keep it going as long as you can or would you come clean and if so when?
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I think that's great that you care enough about your girlfriend and that you're doing your best to make your relationship as good as possible. TWO THUMBS UP!
About the site.I admit that I would be somewhat bothered if my boyfriend did something like that.although I don't know if that holds true for every girl. My boyfriend had several online female friends at one time, and even though I knew about all of them because he doesn't keep secrets from me, it still made me feel a bit funny (as hard as I tried to brush it aside) and a bit jealous since some of them were either more attractive than I am or scantily dressed.I don't think it was technically cheating, so I felt angry with myself for being bothered by it. I refused to bring it up in any conversations because of this. If he had asked me, I probably would've fibbed and said it didn't bother me because I didn't want to seem needy and clingy.HORRORS! lol Thankfully, my boyfriend either sensed that I didn't like it, or just decided for some reason to stop. I was SO THANKFUL that he did it of his own initiative, and not because I made him. That meant the WORLD to me.
So if you want to do something that will mean the WORLD to your girlfriend, tell her that you've handed the site over to other hands. It sounds like a good idea, so don't dump it completely. She will feel like a PRINCESS.
But if you don't feel ready to do that, then just keep doing what you're doing.it probably won't destroy your relationship, but it won't help either.
Do what you think is best, and good luck either way! If you have any other questions just comment on this post. Thanks.