you seem to have accumulated a lot of anger about this 🤣In case you missed it, I'm not a feminist. In reality, as it is always the men who have invited me to dinner, it is always had to pay for the meal, but if it was I who invited then I will have to pay.For the rest you seem to have relieved your anger on this question, it is better than a session with the psychologist is not it? 🤣
Yeah, I'm annoyed it's socially accepted for women to treat men like an ATM, while claiming they want "equality" and are "oppressed by patriarchy" as well. The response isn't directed specifically at you, but I am calling out such hypocritical bullshit.
That is old ettiquette and went out with the 80's
@Shortman70 If a woman can't respect you enough to pay for her own food, then she's not a woman worth keeping around, nor is she a "woman" to begin with. You are right that it's not the same anymore. You can thank feminism for killing gender roles, mate. Now women have to put up or shut up, and not just go back to the "Traditionalism when it serves me, 'Strong Independent Woman' when it doesn't." That's not how "equality" works.
@Daniela1982 Well that's the last time I had to worry about dating. I went through it early in life and I got lucky and found soul mate early in life. So what is the etiquette now? I would have no idea on how to start over at this stage in my life and I really don't want to.
@MCheetah I can tell how things have changed just by going out the door. Fortunately I haven't and I raised my boys the same way. It sucks to encounter women look down on you cause you open the door for them or try to help them do something. I don't do it cause their weaker or dumber, it's the way I was raised. But I try not to take over, I just want to help but that goes for anyone. If you need help loading something at the Walmart or Lowes, if I'm walking by or see you in the next row of parking, I'll stop and help you.
I agree with that
Nah, if I ask my friends out for lunch, they pay for their own shit.Dates are the same.
@Juxtapose Nothing wrong with that option either! Less stress on both parties. Hell I don't mind paying my own way, but that's just me. Others might disagree with you
I am convinced the "whoever asks pays first" is propagated mostly by women who never ask first and guys who wanna be providers.
I'm not a feminist. In reality, as it is always the men who have invited me to dinner, it is always had to pay for the meal, but if it was I who invited then I will have to pay.
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sounds good to me.
You told me you don't celebrate your birthday anymore so that you don't get older.
@Daniela1982 I think you are confusing me with someone else. I accept the fact that I am aging and I try to do it with grace instead of denial.
I was kidding you.
@Daniela1982 This is an example of how so much of the imbedded content gets lost when you communcate digitally. And that's why I discourage young people from relying on texting when transacting affairs of the heart.
@OlderAndWiser Yes, when people rely on texts and abbreviations and emojis they do not do a very good job of communicating. I suggest that people take the time to write a letter in longhand. It is not done in real time and it might take a couple of days for snail mail but it is a very different experience. You are holding the same piece of paper and there is a tactile piece of it and you can even get a feeling for the writers handwriting.
If the man has to pay for the meal in he restaurant, then the woman has to pay for the "meal" in the bedroom. If you don't like that, then you're a hypocrite who wants to live in 1961 and 2021 at the same time.