Im at a point now where I'm just disappointed in my boyfriend looking at other women... So does this mean I dont have self respect?

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Answer 1

Silvermantis

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Hey, I understand how you feel.
it’s not cool for him to check out other girls like that especially in front of you. It’s disrespectful. You might need to work on self confidence like me, but it’s still not cool. Some girls say they don’t care because it’s just looking, well good for you. Some of us just aren’t like that! I have tried to be cool with it. I’d talk to him and tell him how it makes you feel. If he doesn’t care about how you feel then that’s a deal breaker. A damn big one. Do you want to date a man who constantly makes you feel like like that? Hell no girl.

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Asker

4 mo
Thank you!!

Answer 2

Asker

Thank you!!

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Desconhecida | 1.3K opinions shared on Dating topic.

Influencer

Why do you put up with this?

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Asker

3 mo
He denies it which makes me feel maybe I'm assuming or imagining it
Desconhecida

3 mo
Girl, listen to your gut. You are not imagining it if you feel this uncomfortable and sad.
Desconhecida

3 mo
And guys always will deny it. Anyone would deny if they did something wrong, it's common.
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TonyMetal___86

3 mo
Most but not ALL, even if i'm the only man who doesn't do such things means that you can't say ALL MEN! 😌

Tbh if he's in a serious relationship with you and he looks at other women with lust than he's the one who disrespecting himself and not you!

Be proud of yourself cause you're loyal and find someone who will be loyal to you and able to see you as the only female on earth!

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Asker

He denies it which makes me feel maybe I'm assuming or imagining it

Answer 5

Desconhecida

Girl, listen to your gut. You are not imagining it if you feel this uncomfortable and sad.

Answer 6

Desconhecida

And guys always will deny it. Anyone would deny if they did something wrong, it's common.

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TonyMetal___86

Most but not ALL, even if i'm the only man who doesn't do such things means that you can't say ALL MEN! 😌

Tbh if he's in a serious relationship with you and he looks at other women with lust than he's the one who disrespecting himself and not you!

Be proud of yourself cause you're loyal and find someone who will be loyal to you and able to see you as the only female on earth!

Answer 8

TheorionMage | 443 opinions shared on Dating topic.

Yoda

Its said: "A well-fed dog stays on YOUR porch and doesn't run after the pack"

If needs be, ask some of your TRUE friends to offer You glamourizing 'hottie' tips...
if he's NOT WORTH You doing YOUR best, ... dump him~ Life's too short!
If its YOU who's slacking, why would YOU expect HIM forlornly settling for your 'left overs'?

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PositiveNote

3 mo
I do like that, but I need you to tell that to my dog! He is super well fed and runs away at the first chance.

Answer 9

PositiveNote

I do like that, but I need you to tell that to my dog! He is super well fed and runs away at the first chance.

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Dinosaursandanime65 | 1.7K opinions shared on Dating topic.

Guru

How does he do it? Is it something like a wee glance, respectful acknowledgment, or is he staring at their ass the same way a T. Rex does to a Homalocephale before throwing them i their mouth and swallowing them whole like a cock going down an anime girl’s throat?

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sunflower00 | 73 opinions shared on Dating topic.

Xper 6

Please don’t think you’re too insecure!! This is really disrespectful of him and unfortunately is so normalised that guys think it’s ok and we should just put up with it. If it upsets you/disappoints you then it’s not ok.

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Asker

4 mo
I agree thank you
sunflower00

4 mo
The people calling you a control freak are completely wrong and self centred please don’t take it to heart! Sooo disrespectful. Have you spoken to your boyfriend about it?
Asker

4 mo
Yes he's sorry but still does it... he says things like "he's a man", "you want me to be blind" (Duh!)... when we first started dating he said something like he's looking for a girl to help him from looking at other women less. I thought he meant not at all. I was wrong. I can't take it anymore!

Answer 12

Asker

I agree thank you

Answer 13

sunflower00

The people calling you a control freak are completely wrong and self centred please don’t take it to heart! Sooo disrespectful. Have you spoken to your boyfriend about it?

Answer 14

Asker

Yes he's sorry but still does it... he says things like "he's a man", "you want me to be blind" (Duh!)... when we first started dating he said something like he's looking for a girl to help him from looking at other women less. I thought he meant not at all. I was wrong. I can't take it anymore!

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boggboss | 8.3K opinions shared on Dating topic.

Master

If this guy openly does it in front of you clearly he don't respect u

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boggboss

4 mo
And why would u stay with someone that don't respect u
Asker

4 mo
I truly love him and he has other great things about him... I just didn't know this would hurt me the way it does.
boggboss

4 mo
And have u spoken to him about it
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Asker

4 mo
Yes. He says many things like "he's just looking" or "you want me to be blind" (Duh!)
He told me when we first started dating... he needs a girl who will make him look at other women less... I thought it meant at all! Boy was I wrong... he doesn't look at every woman just mostly the ones who try to grab his attention... I don't know what to do honestly
boggboss

4 mo
Accept that that's how he is or end it if u can't be happy with that

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boggboss

And why would u stay with someone that don't respect u

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Asker

I truly love him and he has other great things about him... I just didn't know this would hurt me the way it does.

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boggboss

And have u spoken to him about it

Answer 19

Asker

Yes. He says many things like "he's just looking" or "you want me to be blind" (Duh!)
He told me when we first started dating... he needs a girl who will make him look at other women less... I thought it meant at all! Boy was I wrong... he doesn't look at every woman just mostly the ones who try to grab his attention... I don't know what to do honestly

Answer 20

boggboss

Accept that that's how he is or end it if u can't be happy with that

Answer 21

PositiveNote | 103 opinions shared on Dating topic.

Xper 6

Guys are going to look at other women. In fact, if he thinks you’re hot, he’ll look more! Why? He feels safe since he has his girl on his arm. He likes to check out your competition, but that only to brag about you with his buddies.

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Hangry06 | 656 opinions shared on Dating topic.

Yoda

Low self esteem and insecurities probably
What's stopping you from checking out other men?

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Asker

4 mo
I will but what's the point. I'm with my man. And I'm not disrespectful like he is
Asker

4 mo
I'm just too too insecure. I can't handle it. Because he's not going to stop
Hangry06

4 mo
Understandable. It's very much normalised. Try to have a talk with him

Answer 23

Asker

I will but what's the point. I'm with my man. And I'm not disrespectful like he is

Answer 24

Asker

I'm just too too insecure. I can't handle it. Because he's not going to stop

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Hangry06

Understandable. It's very much normalised. Try to have a talk with him

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noohair | 977 opinions shared on Dating topic.

Yoda

There is a caveman part of the brain the evaluates every woman that a man sees. Some guys don't realize they are doing it. Try telling him it makes you uncomfortable and ask how you two can work on this together.

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UdontNeedtoknow | 122 opinions shared on Dating topic.

Xper 5

Your a posesive and jealous woman most likely. That can be good or bad. It depends on how you act upon your instincts.

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jshm2 | 1.1K opinions shared on Dating topic.

Master

He is only your boyfriend, not your husband. Get some perspective. You control freak

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Asker

4 mo
He wants to be my husband tho😂

Answer 29

Asker

He wants to be my husband tho😂

Answer 30

2021biguy | 769 opinions shared on Dating topic.

Explorer

You should tell him how you feel and if he doesn't care about how you feel then he's a rotten guy. It's understandable that you don't like that.

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rocksongwriter | 634 opinions shared on Dating topic.

Guru

In what way does he look at other women?

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Asker

4 mo
Glances, breaks his neck for em. Staring at other women. NO THANK YOU!!

Answer 32

Asker

Glances, breaks his neck for em. Staring at other women. NO THANK YOU!!

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ChiTown33 | 3.9K opinions shared on Dating topic.

Master

I don't understand the question.

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Asker

4 mo
I'm disappointed my boyfriend looks at other women... and I can't handle it anymore. I'm too insecure and feel he will leave me‍
ChiTown33

4 mo
OK now that makes sense. So you think your self worth is tied up into what someone else thinks of you. Then yes! You lack self respect!
Guys (even loyal ones) will occasionally look at other women. But any guy worth his salt KNOWS his lady is the only woman for him. And you're NOT a second class citizen. If it bothers you. You need to say it bothers you. And if he's a decent guy he will do his best to curb it.

Answer 34

Asker

I'm disappointed my boyfriend looks at other women... and I can't handle it anymore. I'm too insecure and feel he will leave me‍

Answer 35

ChiTown33

OK now that makes sense. So you think your self worth is tied up into what someone else thinks of you. Then yes! You lack self respect!
Guys (even loyal ones) will occasionally look at other women. But any guy worth his salt KNOWS his lady is the only woman for him. And you're NOT a second class citizen. If it bothers you. You need to say it bothers you. And if he's a decent guy he will do his best to curb it.

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Flower7 | 1.4K opinions shared on Dating topic.

Master

The problem is with him, not with you.

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Asker

4 mo
I just dont know what to do🥺
Flower7

4 mo
Breaking up with him is definitely a good option.
Asker

4 mo
Do all guys do this?
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Asker

4 mo
What if my next boyfriend does this too
Flower7

4 mo
It’s not a noticeable problem with all guys. Many others have enough respect to not do this in front of the person they’re dating.
TonyMetal___86

3 mo
@Flower7 not in front and not behind, because if he truly loves her than she will always be present in his mind and will be faithfull to her!

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Asker

I just dont know what to do🥺

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Flower7

Breaking up with him is definitely a good option.

Answer 39

Asker

Do all guys do this?

Answer 40

Asker

What if my next boyfriend does this too

Answer 41

Flower7

It’s not a noticeable problem with all guys. Many others have enough respect to not do this in front of the person they’re dating.

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TonyMetal___86

@Flower7 not in front and not behind, because if he truly loves her than she will always be present in his mind and will be faithfull to her!

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Luckycharms12 | 1.6K opinions shared on Dating topic.

Guru

We all look at other people it's natural

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lightbulb27 | 2.3K opinions shared on Dating topic.

Master

what?

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Asker

4 mo
What dont you understand?
lightbulb27

4 mo
your question.
I think... you are disappointed that he is looking at other women.
dissapointed looking at other women... you see they have better boyfriends
or something else.
Asker

4 mo
I'm disappointed my boyfriend looks at other women... and I can't handle it anymore. I'm too insecure and feel he will leave me💁🏾‍♀️
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lightbulb27

4 mo
talk to him and see if there's other ways he can make you feel more secure. Turn off social media, etc..

does he look or does he stair and gawk? A man once told me, "I'll always look", but I won't stair or touch. is he enamored in porn or other drugs.. probably make this far worse. those are more headaches.

this why some cultures cover up women in various ways, and our environment is highly corrupt in that regards with women flaunting themselves everywhere. there is no way around the mating drug hit is strong within, and women play that, men fall prey.

I wonder if he has much experience as to how awful women are so he can see your goodness. That's how I do with my fiance, I see her good and I understand how awful other women are. I know enough men suffering with psycho, screwed up, controlling and mentally ill women that I'm thankful. The manipultive bitch in front of me falls in that camp under assumption. That cuts her manipulative show to size. He may not understand the extent to which women are manipulative, cunning, Bitch#1s... mentally ill, psycho, etc... he needs to learn and you can learn that together. Have him get into a mens group or read questions from men so he can learn to appreciate you.

part of this is your insecurity, part of it is his behavior. take responsibility for your side as well.
If you can't handle it, then at some point have to get out of the torture.

Answer 45

Asker

What dont you understand?

Answer 46

lightbulb27

your question.
I think... you are disappointed that he is looking at other women.
dissapointed looking at other women... you see they have better boyfriends
or something else.

Answer 47

Asker

I'm disappointed my boyfriend looks at other women... and I can't handle it anymore. I'm too insecure and feel he will leave me💁🏾‍♀️

Answer 48

lightbulb27

talk to him and see if there's other ways he can make you feel more secure. Turn off social media, etc..

does he look or does he stair and gawk? A man once told me, "I'll always look", but I won't stair or touch. is he enamored in porn or other drugs.. probably make this far worse. those are more headaches.

this why some cultures cover up women in various ways, and our environment is highly corrupt in that regards with women flaunting themselves everywhere. there is no way around the mating drug hit is strong within, and women play that, men fall prey.

I wonder if he has much experience as to how awful women are so he can see your goodness. That's how I do with my fiance, I see her good and I understand how awful other women are. I know enough men suffering with psycho, screwed up, controlling and mentally ill women that I'm thankful. The manipultive bitch in front of me falls in that camp under assumption. That cuts her manipulative show to size. He may not understand the extent to which women are manipulative, cunning, Bitch#1s... mentally ill, psycho, etc... he needs to learn and you can learn that together. Have him get into a mens group or read questions from men so he can learn to appreciate you.

part of this is your insecurity, part of it is his behavior. take responsibility for your side as well.
If you can't handle it, then at some point have to get out of the torture.

Answer 49

Hellraiser1984 | 203 opinions shared on Dating topic.

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Hey give me a chance.

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Im at a point now where I'm just disappointed in my boyfriend looking at other women... So does this mean I dont have self respect?

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