ok I'm married and we are having lots of problems. So I just ran into an old friend. We were in high school together and we were always together,we had a lot of chances to make out,but we never did. I had a crush on him and he had one on me.So now we've talked and we've been together and he tells me that I'm the one he's always wanted and that I always made his day,and that we should have been together.He said he always thought of me. It's been 8 years since we were in high school. And I still like him and I never forgot him. And I just want to know what do you guys think of this?
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Problem in your marriage aren't going to be solved by another man. You didn't elaborate on the problems of your marriage, so I'm going to assume they are the typical ones faced by married couples.
Of course it seems like a good idea to run off with the first guy who makes you feel "wanted" again, but you have to understand that's how ALL relationships start. Including the one that led up to your marriage. I can go outside right now and find "this many" men that can make me feel the same way. 90% of them would be gone by the end of the week, and the rest by the week after. Why? Because it takes time and energy to make the same commitment that your husband made.
I believe that people can reconnect, but by the same token people change as well. Before you run off into the sunset with your new prince charming - fix what's wrong with your marriage. You at least owe your husband the opportunity to change your mind. Another thing, you can't run away from your problems. They will manifest in the future if you don't take care of them now.
If he's abusing you, cheating on you, or lying to you - leave him before you start another relationship. Good luck.1