If I approach a cashier girl and say:
'Hey, I should have asked you this last time, but did you want to catch up for coffee or a movie sometime? Mine name is ****** by the way'
I know that she has at least noticed me, but I've only gone into her store once and asked 'hows work been today?' (I chickened out last time Because of a lot of customers)
Is it too forward and direct? Any advice would help a heap
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Go into her store and initiate small talk with her. Talk about the weather or something about the mall or ask her about a product in her store. Do this several times and see how it goes. At some point, she'll start to pick up on the fact that you're not just interested in the shoes (or whatever her store sells).
If it goes well, do this for a while. Maybe, after a while (like a few weeks), skip a day or two, and see if she comes into your store. If she does, let her "browse" for a bit and then smile, say hi, and initiate some small talk.
If all this goes well, you'll have some confidence that you can ask her to get some lunch. Lunch can work well - I'm assuming that you have a food court in your mall. So, you go into her store, she comes into yours. The next day, you go into her store. You both say hi then, "Hey, I'm going to grab lunch at noon. You wanna come?"
The small talk you've already made will make this informal lunch date less awkward. On the other hand, if your attempts to initiate small talk do not go well, and she never comes into your store, you can save yourself from getting rejected point-blank.1