I met this girl.she has a 1 1/2 year old son, I don't have any kids. I don't mind her being a mom. Anyways we've talked for 3 months and have only seen each other a few times, its been like once every month, and we talk everyday. We live 45 min away from each other, I've been trying and wanting to see her more often but she seems to give me an excuse all the time as if she were hiding something. I've sent her flowers etc. She seems to get really shy when we talk about things, she has told me she wants to be my gf. but I feel like if I need to see her more before she is my gf. I feel as if I'm kind off wasting my time, waiting to see her. I'll be leaving in Jan to finish school. so umm.yeah I don't know what to do, any opinion, or advice is welcome thanks in advanced to you all.
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As a single mother, she may just be a little more rigid about allowing men into her life. I don't think she is hiding anything, just being super extra careful. It's a sign of a good mom to me. If you make the effort to woo her longer and harder than you would a woman without children, then it proves to her you thought she was worth the work. Which means it would be more than likely that you would be in her life permanently. Scary words I know. It's just hard to take risks on men who are just so-so about you. No woman wants men waltzing in and out of their children's' lives.
It's serious business dating single mothers, they have to take their children's' feelings into account as well as their own. They have to work and raise their kids, doing the job of both parents. It wouldn't be good to take time away from their child to spend time with a man and have it not work out. That's time they can't get back.
Just my two cents from a former single mother. It took me a year before I introduced my husband to my daughter after we started dating.0