so I was at a club tonight, seeing and talking to lots of guys. I didn't really put effort into any of them as I was there with my friends and cared about talking to them more... anyway long story short right as I was leaving I ran into a man who I've talked to before- just talking no flirting- matter of fact I was worried he disliked me because of how blunt I am...
we ended up talking outside the club for an hour and a half after the club shut
he asked me for my phone number and gave me a sweet kiss bye( though I think he wanted to come home with me)
but it seemed so random to me- the one night I go out after work- barely any makeup- messy hair- and lets just say I didn't have the greatest clothing on- I get a date?
does this happen often, guys and girls who just happen to be at the right place at the right time? or is it all just random?
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Of course you're over-analyzing this...
The things you're thinking about -- makeup, messy hair, clothing, how flirtatious you are -- honestly don't make that much of a difference. At least, they don't to me. I'm not saying they don't make any difference. They do, but it's marginal in terms of whether a guy would consider asking you out or not.
But let's not jump the gun. He only asked for your number. That doesn't mean you automatically have a date.
But why he asked you for your number? I think it's fairly simple. He probably recognized you because he'd seen you before. He either decided he was going to ask for your number before even talking to you, or he decided afterward but guys almost always keep that possibility in mind before they even bother approaching a girl. At the point he's talking to you, so long as you don't make a bad impression, he'll probably end up thinking positively of you. Straight talking can often be better than overt flirting, because it shows you're down-to-earth and you're being yourself, not putting on an act.
As for the element of randomness you're asking about, the main random thing is running into the right guy. Guys kind of prioritize pretty quickly which girls are most worth pursuing. Either you ended up near the top of this guy's list, or the guy was desperate. But every guy has a different list. Now, if you were fixed up that night and putting in a lot of effort, it may have bumped you up slightly on some other guys' lists. But if you're already at the top of the list for a certain guy, you literally don't have to put in any effort to get him to want to ask you out. Of course, he has to have the opportunity to do so, which is where the luck part comes in.0