In contemporary society, it's considered the norm for individuals to date many people - in hopes of finding "the one", you have intimacy before commitment. While courting is becoming less popular and more iconvenient, seeing as the commitment comes before the intimacy. Both have pros and cons. Which would you prefer?
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I don't know.
I think its worth noting though, for people who want to date seriously and have relationships but remain virgins, that this has _never happened_ in human history. There has _never_ been a time when people had sexless committed relationships as the norm. For most of history, as you say, there was courting - i.e. seeing if you wanted to get married. People used to talk about 'what a man's intentions were' i.e. did he intend to marry the girl or was he trying to 'take advantage'. It was obvious that a 3-year loving and committed sexless relationship was NOT something that would happen.
Even in my parents day when 'dating' had become common, it tended to be more casual 'going on dates' unless they got more serious ... but getting serious was generally a step towards marriage.
I think its only with premarital sex becoming normal that deep, serious long term relationships prior to marriage became normal.
Virgins who want those while saving it for marriage are hoping for something that's never really existed.2
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