I have been with my boyfriend with a little over a month now. Yesterday , he kissed a girl , who he had a bad crush on . The told me all about it and apologized . I forgave him without the need to make him suffer and all that nonsense. Now I am worried , was I too easy ? I made it clear that I am not an easy forgiver and that things happen. We learn and more on. I feel as though I should have done something else!
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No, I don't think you were too easy.
You acted as though you had nothing to be jealous about. That he might have kissed her, but ultimately he came back to you and told you and whether or not you keep him his entirely up to you.
If you had acted like a typical jealous girl, you would have triggered an independence response in him. If you had tried to control him, lay down the law, tell him what he can and can't do... it would have triggered something in him which would react badly to being controlled.. react rebelliously to a girl laying down the law. He most likely would have gone off and cheated again, just because of your reaction. Or dumped you for being "controlling". That sort of thing.
You actually acted the correct way. It feels off to you, because it's not the typical girl response. But in terms of getting him to shape up, it was the optimal move.
Let's hope it was successful.0