Yup,I'm about to do something I said I'd never do--date someone half my age. I'm 40,he's..28. To be fair,I don't look 40-which prompted him to contact me(dating site). Now I don't normally talk to guys who are way younger than me yet I talked to him and continued to do so. He's grown on me.
Am I crazy? Should I look for someone my age or just go for it?
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Okay, he is not half your age, though I agree he is much younger.
I have dated men much younger than me. My first boyfriend after my divorce was 29 and I was 42 when we met. My fiance is 32 and I am now 48. I dated a few guys in between who were younger to much younger. Here is my experience:
1. Are there life milestones that he has not met yet, that you are past. Big one: kids. If you are done having kids and he has none, well at some point that could be a real big problem. My fiance has children already, my ex-boyfriend did not want kids and it was obvious he was not a kid person. He has had a vasectomy since the end of our relationship. Other than that, I would have been concerned.
2. How is his career and yours? If he is still trying to figure out what he wants to do and you are already set and on your way, all sorts of problems can ensue. One would be money issues. I have been through that, dating someone who did not have money and wanting to even help them out. A certain amount of men do not want their woman to help them out, it emasculates them. I would worry about this, but maintain awareness about this.
3. Overall just be aware that some younger men are intrigued in older women from a casual sexual perspective but not seriously considering you for a relationship. There is a lot of b.s. marketing out there for "Cougar" websites and biz's that say older women don't want anything from a younger guy other than sex. So, hey if that is all you want, enjoy, but if you want more than that, I would definitely keep sex out of the mix until you have a connection and are ready for a relationship.2