I have a boyfriend & we've been together about a yr & 1/2. Recently, I became attracted to a friend of his. Not a close friend but someone we see all the time. The other day I decided to let his friend know about my crush. He smiled & said he was flattered & we pretty much left it alone. Some time after that we started texting each other...flirting & so on. One day he cut it off abruptly & said he could not let things get any further because of his relationship w/ my bf. I let it go, but a few weeks after that I pursued him again & he was responsive again. We were talking & texting for a couple of weeks & even went on a date. Well, he has again cut me off out of guilt.
My problem is is that he cut me off completely as to not be tempted anymore. So he does not answer my calls or return my texts. This is only making me think more about him. How can I just get him out of my mind & stop calling/texting him?????
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You state that recently 'you became attracted' to a friend of your bf...Is it just a physical attraction? My suggestion would be to get a piece of paper and divided in two; on one side you write down the qualities that attract you to your bf, or the reasons as to why you're with your bf. On the other half, you write down what attracts you to his friend. If the bf side is greater than the friend's side of the list, then that should be reason enough for you to realize as to why you're in this relationship in the first place. If the opposite is true, maybe is time to reassess your current relationship. Is not like you can take a pill today and wake up tomorrow with the bf's friend out your mind. Unfortunately, as the cliche says, 'we all want what we can't have.' However, if you're in a relationship, and you still feel you're wanting somebody else, then is time to sit down and analyze what is it you want in a partner....good luck.3