I am very shy nice guy I have been questing why I should continue to be a nice guy women think I am a waste of time.
as for being shy I have been shot down played a fool used and cheated on so many time I can't go up to talk to women any more with out getting a sick feeling. 34 I lonely and losing hope
I DON'T LIE OR PLAY GAMES I am the one that gets played
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I thought you asked a question yesterday and said you would love to have a a young woman, like late teens to mid twenties? Maybe you need to change your priorities. Just because someone is 18, doesn't mean they are the best match for you. Maybe women who are your own age feel you are just compromising for companionship rather than wanting to actually be with them? It could be one of those subconscious things that shows when you are meeting people. That can turn women away too. I know I wouldn't want to be with someone who thought I was a lesser choice. Plus, someone who is late teens early twenties is probably not looking for a family. Best thing is to stick with people closer to your age. They will have similar priorities because they are in the same stage of life as you.
Women don't hate nice guys. I am in a relationship with one right now. I think the problem is that you are feeling low about yourself and it shows. Being nice doesn't mean you can't be assertive and go after what you want and feel good about yourself. I think that is what needs to be worked on. Being assertive means going out and putting yourself out there. Talk to women, and find positive ways to speak about yourself. What women hate is when a guy says he is nice but is really just a pushover. Be assertive, say what you want, but treat her good. Assertive is different than being mean, being assertive is about being direct, telling her what you want and not just giving in to make her happy. Women are not to blame for everything. I have been treated like crap before by some men and I don't blame all men for it.
When they ask you what you do for a living, tell them what you do. Or if you are a stay at home dad, say that you took some time off to spend it raising your kids because you feel that they deserve to have your full attention. You want to give them the best and they need their time with you. Always find a positive way to spin things, instead of trying to shy away from the conversation. By being direct, women will see you are confident and happy with your life. By shying away, you are only showing a lack of confidence and unhappiness. No one is attracted to someone who is a downer, its just human nature. Moods are contagious, humans want to be happy so they naturally flock to happy people.
Work on those things and keep trying. Sure not every relationship is going to work out, but you have to keep on trying. If there is something you want in this life, you have to work for it. It's not going to just come find you. Relationships take a lot of work, anyone can have one, but they have to be willing to put work into it to make it last.1
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