(Guys please answer with your experiences of this too) Girls, do you really like a guy asking you if you want to go on a date to a specific place to do a specific thing at a specific time? Or would you rather a guy said "do you fancy going out somewhere later this week? what would you like to do?"
Please feel free to just answer the poll, or if you're feeling generous, read the info below about why I'm asking and comment on what you think I could/should do (as well as doing the poll)
*** The situation for me (optional reading) ***
I met a girl in a club last Monday. She was very drunk, we kissed, we swapped numbers and text a bit for a few days. We then met up last Friday for coffee where we chatted for 2 hours and ended the date with an awkward hug. We both said we'd like to go out again sometime.
I text her on Monday asking if she wanted to "go out for dinner or a few drinks one eve this week?" to which she replied "yeah, that sounds good". Twice since then I've tried to ask her what she wants to do & when. We've decided tomorrow or Sat eve we'll do something, but not decided what!
So I'm thinking I'll just have to text her tomorrow saying "How would you like to go to an Italian in town for dinner at 7 tonight?". I feel like this is being too forceful, I mean what if she doesn't like Italian, or she hasn't got the money to go out for dinner, or she feels it will be awkward sat having dinner or something? I don't know how else to move forward though!?
- Just tell me where to be and when and I'll be there!Vote A
- I'm really not bothered. You decide this time & I'll decide next or something. It's not a big deal!Vote B
- Who are you to tell me what to do!? I want to decide together what we're going to do on OUR dateVote C
Most Helpful Girl
Stop trying to read her mind and start just doing stuff. If she doesn't like Italian, she can just put up with it. If she likes you, where you eat won't matter. If she doesn't like you, you're fretting over nothing. If she's up in the air, trying to get her to call the shots is going to make her lose attraction to you.
If it makes you feel a little bit better, think of 2 options for her to choose from. Don't leave it wide open. Say, "What about (place 1) or (place 2) ... which would you prefer?
Hoenstly, though .. dating is about getting to know someone. Trying to make all of your decisions to please them just leads to confusion.2