I am green to dating again and never did it much before my marriage 10 years ago. I have been divorced for nearly 2 years and dated several people but have never felt any chemistry except with this one friend I was introduced to. At the time it was January and she was newly divorced and after agreeing to go out on a date, cancelled saying she really didn't feel she was ready but did really like me.
We talked a lot and she always flirted with me, touched me on the arm, stood close when talking and told my friend she really liked me but just wasn't ready yet. I know now I should have asked her out again in the spring but I am new to dating again and was being the nice guy and giving her space. Looking back I think there was signs she wanted me to ask her out again but I was too dumb to see it.
I was gone out of town without much contact for work May - July. When I returned she was looking cuter than ever and I had been thinking about her so much. We talked and seemed to still have that chemistry so I had to ask her out again. When I did, she said she would really like to but someone else asked her out and they had been dating a few months and she really felt she needed to see where this went and wasn't one to date multiple people.
I respect that about her but I was crushed. We still talk and still feel a connection that I really feel is mutual. She doesn't talk about him and never introduced us. But she just took him home to meet her parents for Thanksgiving so I am taking it that they are very serious since its across country.
I of course am still looking for others to date but have never found a physical/mental/emotional connection like this one has over me. In my mind, they will be married and I will never have a chance with her again. Do you think this is true or do people in their 30's still get serious and then break up? Just looking to see if I should hold out hope in the back of my mind or not.
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Ok, I don't believe in all that BS about, "if it's ment to be" blah blah. I'm so sick of seeing guys give up on their hearts for whatever stupid reasons they tell themselves.
I would give anything to have a guy feel for me what you feel for this woman.
GO GET HER! Tell her how you feel before its too late. You'll regret not taking that chance the rest of your life. And it will show her what she really means to you. If she feels the same it will work out.