I've been seeing this girl lately, two dates to be exact. And I've known her for about two months. However, I always worry that she's not into me because of the way she texts. It often takes her hours to respond. When she does they're always long nice texts but I just wonder why she's not eager to text me.
In the past with other girls I'm used to quick responses when they like me. But I don't see that from her. Sure she keeps the conversation going but it just takes forever. Conversations can last multiple days but only because it takes her so long to respond.
On our dates she shows all the good signs but in between dates her behavior just confuses me. It just feels like she's not eagerly looking to talk with me.
For example, she sent me a text this morning and I'm still waiting for a response 3 hours later.. I thought maybe she's busy but I went on Facebook and saw on the newsfeed that she had just been on posting and commenting on things.
I know she'll respond, because she always does, but why does it take her so long? Especially when the dates we've been on went so well? Is she just not a phone person?
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Don't count it against her! I have just started dating again after ending a long relationship, and I take about that long to answer guys' text messages. All the dating books/friends/etc tell us not to answer to quickly, or else we'll seem desperate. The other option is that she is frequently in an area with crappy reception. a guy sent me a text one night a 7pm, and he didn't get my response until 12am because apparently the building I was in had HORRIBLE reception.
But no, don't read into her being distant. She is probably stressed about sounding desperate, or stressed that if she gets too excited/invested she will end up getting hurt (ie. after one date you just won't call her back). If I were in this girl's position, I'd want you to call me out on it. Say "hey, we have so much fun on our dates, why so distant in between?" that way she will know you actually like her and will make a conscious effort to be less awkward in between.
If you call her out, and guys have dated for months and she is still treating you this way...something is wrong, but for now I wouldn't read too much into it. :)0