I met this guy at one of his shows. We only met for a few minutes but he called me later that night & we talked for hours. Turns out he lived about 5 hrs away.Anyways we continued talking & talked all day, everyday either through text or on the phone. He would always tell me how great & beautiful he thought I was & would tell me he couldn't believe a girl like me would be interested in him (he seemed like he has some self esteem issues). Anyways he seemed like such a sweet & sincere guy, he was so great. So I decided after about 2 weeks of talking to take the drive to go see him. Everything was great while I was there, we had fun, we got along, it was so comfortable & easy with him. He was such a gentleman & was so sweet. He told me that he really liked me a lot & again would say he didn't understand what I saw in him. I could tell he was insecure with himself because it was like he would ask me a lot of questions for some sort of reassurance or something. Anyways I left after being there for a few days. After I got home things were still going great & we talked all the time and he would tell me how much he missed me and liked me & couldn't wait to see me again. We even had the talk about how he felt like it could go somewhere with us & how he thought it "was destiny" that we met. Another 2 weeks went by after I left & I met up with him again about halfway between our 2 cities for 2 nights while he was on tour with his band. The first night was great and we had our first kiss which was also great & he told me again how much he liked me. Everything seemed to be going fine. But the next day he seemed kinda stand-offish, and didn't try to make another move on me the rest of the time. After the 2 days were over and I went home, he was still standoff-ish and not talking to me as much. A few days after I had left he texted me & asked me what do I see in him & if I wanted to just be friends or more? I told him I wanted to be more than friends (because I thought that's where we were headed and that the feeling was mutal). He did not respond to my text. I asked him about it the next day & he told me we should talk about it soon, which we didn't. He continued to be more and more standoff-ish. Then we didn't talk for a few days and he texted me randomly & asked if I was mad at him. I told him I was just confused by his mixed signals and he told me he wasn't ready to date yet (especially long distance) and that he had a lot of personal issues going on and that his lifestyle wasn't fit for a relationship. He then said "I hope we can remain friends" but out of frusteration I told him that I don't think we ever were friends. I haven't talked to him since, and that was over a week ago. I don't know what to do now. I've never met someone like him before. I know we haven't known each other very long but I really felt a connection with him that I don't feel often. Should I contact him? Wait for him to contact me? Or just move on? Is there still any chance?
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I don't their is a chance. He basically told you that he just wants to be friends and you said you wanted more then that and yo utold him that you didn't want to be friends. Which kind of means that you didn't want to see him anymore. That is very weird the way he was acting. I think by him being in the band he probabaly gets a lot of groupies throwing thenselves at him. And your right sometimes their can be strong connections to people that you don't feel with nobody else.I don't think you did nothing wrong he just wasn't ready to be in a long distance relationship. It still did not give him no right to distance himself like that. I think if you still want him in your life then maybe text him to see if he still wants to be friends if not then try to move on.0
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