I am a good looking man and I know it, maybe short (5'6 or 170 cm) but I am good looking. I work out and everything. Personality wise I love to talk, I am a very friendly person and I joke a lot too. With girls I like to talk to them too, flirt a bit as well, I ask girls out as well,(even randoms I don't know). But there is always an excuse for girls not going out, which in other words means I am not interested. Any how I really don't know what else to do.
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Being ATTRACTIVE is about how a woman FEELS when she's around you ... you're stuck in a superficial mindset that's tricking you into thinking that how you LOOK is everything.
Your inner game is immature (this isn't a judgement) and so you're confused as to what women really want.
Looking good is superficial. She can't feel safe at night with you JUST because you're good looking. She won't be inspired to express her most inner insecurities in order to connect with you just because you're good looking.
And being a "talker" makes me think you spend too much time talking about yourself and your gifts instead of listening to her desires and fears and passions.
Being a good talker doesn't make you attractive, unless you're fun, sincere, and willing to follow it up with good listening.
Pay attention to the guys who always get the girls... you'll notice they have more than just good looks... they have healthy and attractive personalities. And your personality is an expression of your inner beliefs and mindsets.
Make sure your inner game is healthy, happy and willing to be curious... because that's attractive.
Having the balls to talk to randoms will definitely improve your game, but if you follow it up with shallow ideals or hot air about your personal success's she'll end up wanting to avoid you.
Sometimes being good looking can also be a hindrance because women will prejudge you by assuming you're full of yourself. So surprise her by being really funny, but honest, sincere, and a little vulnerable. Don't be all guff and pride and confidence.
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