Lately I have been wondering why am I still single Because I'm nice and all and I treat girls the way a guy should so why am I still single yea I may be shy at first but I open up once you get to know me and yet I'm still single and I'm also wondering why is it that most girls that I like always go for the guys with the muscles you know the jock types when most the time those guys seem like jerks well I'm sorry but I want to know what is so good about them anyways
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Well, first off, you need to get out of the mentality that all girls want to be with the nice guy that treats them like gold. Sorry to say, and I love getting into debates with girls about this, but its totally not true. If it were, all the nice guys out there wouldn't be single. Stop trying to be the nice guy and mentally stop yourself sometimes and make the conscious decision to not do something nice, do the opposite. Don't do something mean, just not considerate or something of that nature. As weird as it sounds, it actually works. I am a nice guy by nature, and I have to go against that nature at times to NOT come across as a complete nice guy to the girls that I know. Its funny, but I when I get into debates about women not wanting a nice guy, when I point the things out that I intentionally do to MAKE myself not LOOK like a nice guy, they are like, what? You did that on purpose? Believe me, it does actually work.
If your really all that frustrated with your inability of attracting the opposite gender, then there are several things you CAN DO to improve your chances with them. However, it takes some effort. And before you start with...oh..that's too hard...think of this. Those attractive girls you like, how much effort do you think they put into making themselves look more attractive? Think about it. Some of them take an hour to get ready in the morning. That long hair you see...how long do you think it takes to take care of it. How much does it cost to even go to the hairdresser and get a cut/perm/color? How much time do they take to go out and find the nice/cute/sexy outfits they wear? All the time they spend in the gym to get the sexy body you admire? Guess what, that's a lot of effort on their part, so the question is...what have you done? (And that's just what they physically do to improve their chances with the opposite gender)
Have you tried to get into better physical shape to attract more girls? Have you tried to improve your clothes, hair, general style to be more appealing? Do you take care of your complexion? Take a shower every day? Do you make sure you don't smell like sweat? Are you making sure that you don't have bad breath all the time? (That's important by the way)
So, instead of ranting about why they are not interested in the good/nice/shy guy, first you should be telling us if your doing all that you can do to make yourself more appealing to the opposite gender. It would be great if we could all just sit on our arse's and women would just come running to flirt with us, but in the real world, it takes effort unless your blessed with natural good looks.0