So first of all please excuse my lame English I'm from France so, yeah ^^ ..
I'm 17 years old and 2 years ago I met this girl who was very interested in me, I would have never thought I would be a lesbian but I ended up dating her since then, so we're still dating.. I really loved her for I while, I guess I was too devastated from breaking up with my ex-bf.. I was very young, I don't know if dating was right for me at that age but it happened so.. Me and this girl made promises to each other like getting married and adopting, but I don't love her anymore and I have cheated on her several times this year and she knew about it and forgave me every time, she loves me too much but I don't anymore and I can't tell her that, she says that she'll never love after me.. And there is an other thing, I met a guy 4 months ago and we are dating, she knew about him and I told her that I broke up with him and he doesn't know about her.. So I really really love this guy, I waited too long to be with him, I had a crush for him for years, now I'm with him and I know he loves me too, maybe more than I do.. He is the love of my life, and I'm tired of hiding and lying to her, I hate doing this to her, I feel really bad about this, she doesn't deserve what I'm doing to her.. Should I tell her every thing ? How do I make this girl understand me and let me go ? Knowing that I promised to love her all my life.. And should I tell my boyfriend about it ? especially that he is kind of homophobic.. Please give me some advice
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It appears it's time to host a dinner party for three.
Perhaps a dinner outing if really private fr frank conversations.
Be yourself, tell all, hide nothing, be openly affectionate with the one you have chosen.
Offer love to all.
Let them know you are young and have been searching, their love & at least their future friendship is important, you have no control over your emotions BUT have chosen.
May I have your love as lover?
May I have your love as friend?
Even if the worse happens (they both kick you out), one/both will soon have you back and this nightmare will be over.0